Gender neutral language and dogs - FFS

[BlackSwan]

A teacher type person at kids holiday activity saw me/my dog waiting at collection time today & started a friendly chat. I may or may not have already referred to DDog as 'he' but in any event, the person asked me "What's their name?".
I said "His name is DDog" but i'm pretty sure i looked at her like WTF - can't you just say 'What's it's name?" rather than making a point about being conscious of gender neutrality... because 'It' is gender neutral too.. so enough with the faux virtue signalling (because that's what i was thinking).
Didn't phase DDog, who is, ironically, about to become gender neutral, when he undergoes involuntary testicular removal in 2 weeks, poor pup.

[Whatwouldbigfatfannydo]

If this was about a person, I'd be on board. But maybe the person didn't want to call your dog "it" instead of making a marked point about sex neutrality? Calling a loved pet 'it' is pretty rude sounding to me.
Also, I refuse to believe the concept of 'gender' has spread to animals

[spot102]

Not sure it helps, but I have had bitches for the last 11 years and mother insists on refering to them as 'he'. Apparently all dogs are boys. Cats are girls. My Sister has had cats for last 20 years. all boys. Not sure whether mother is confused or just on a different planet. She doesn't do gender neutral tho!

[BlackSwan]

I believe it has spread to pets! It's too much!!

[BlackSwan]

Spot102 - That's funny. As a child I thought lions were boys and tigers were girls. Am slow like that...

[DulciUke]

In casual speech, "they" doesn't have to have anything to do with being gender neutral. I often hear it used for singular objects (people, pets, whatever). However, I'm in the U.S. Maybe it is different in the U.K.

[spot102]

To be honest, I would prefer not to use it. 'it' is for inanimate objects, in my book at least.

[GothMummy]

@spot102 my Granny, who was born in 1908 and died in 1988 always called all cats "She" and all dogs "He". I have no idea why, mum says she always did this, so perhaps it's a very old-fashioned thing?

[BlackSwan]

Grammatically 'their' sounds clunky to me. He, she or it please.

[Babushkacandle]

I ask ‘what’s their name?’ When I meet another dog owner. Never thought about it being gender neutral tbh it’s just how I speak about animals.

[Brittany2019]

@spot102 My mother was exactly the same! All dogs are male and all cats are female, apparently.

[GagaBinks]

I would say "their" and I promise you it has nothing to do with trying to be sensitive towards a dog's gender...

I just wouldn't want to call the dog "it", as like someone said before, I associate that pronoun with an inanimate object.

[spot102]

Goth - yes I think your probably right and it's generational, she is old! Not born in 1908 old tho, now that would be old:o)

[adaline]

I would also say "their". It tends to be reserved for inanimate objects, no?

[randomsabreuse]

In Devon everything is he - to the point that "that their heifer he's having calving" ...

Lancashire everything is she...

Lost the will to care about animal sex, especially given how many are actually neutered...

[BlackSwan]

I take your point all those saying 'their'... I just had the sense that this was more of a pointed reference to the need not to assume the gender of anything anymore. And, though it sounds ageist... she was young and I associate gender neutrality concerns (rightly or wrongly) with younger people who want to turn the world on its head.

[Whatwouldbigfatfannydo]

I've not long turned 25 and am as gender critical as they come. I'm regularly lamenting the state of the world over on FWR. Don't worry, we're not all woke loons

Although, no wonder some young people cling onto any cause they can find to give them purpose. We aren't thought of very highly at all it seems...

[FrankenCat]

My uncle insists on calling his female dog "he" and my two male cats "she" because like other posters have said, dogs are male and cats are female.

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[PancakeAndKeith]

Apparently all dogs are boys. Cats are girls.

Yup. I default to calling dogs he and cats she until corrected. I always put this down to us having female cats and male dogs when I was little.

Also wasn’t there a pet food brand that was Good Girl for cats and Good Boy for dogs.

[Hippopotas]

I think the are just trying to be polite. Some people get upset if you call their pet an it.

I think it says more about you that you assumed it was them trying to be gender neutral.

[GooseFeather]

Hmm. I have just corrected a document today which asked for a dog's gender. I amended it to sex. I am awaiting the fall out at work when someone else notices and I have to point out that gender is a social construct that doesn't apply to dogs.

[highheelsandwitcheshats]

I say 'what's their name'. I can't tell by looking at your dog from the top of it is a male or a female, and I'm not about to duck down and have a look. So 'their' seems politer than 'its'. Then I just hope your dog has a name that allows me to determine whether to say he or she is lovely.

[moreturkeyforme]

You're over thinking it.

Making something out of nothing.

I own a dog and when I meet other dog walkers I will ask re their dog 'what's their name? ' if I know it's a bitch I will say her if dog ' him'

[ChardonnaysDistantCousin]

I call dogs 'her' unless I see balls dangling.

[pigsDOfly]

When I meet a new dog I often ask a similar sort of question, although I will usually word it in a way that indicates that I'm not sure whether the animal is a he or she, unless it's obvious.

Looking at my dog, no one would be able to tell her sex from a quick glance because she's got short legs and everything is covered in fluff. Although, for some reason most people seem to assume she's male.

Is it possible the teacher couldn't see what sex your dog is and just went for a neutral their, perhaps feeling that referring to your dog as it might offend you?

[Mrwoofington]

I feel like you've just got a bit of a political agenda here.
It's fine. Gender neutral (clutch pearls) has not spread to dogs. You don't need to get out your pitchfork.

Many people see their dogs as their babies, I used to say 'it', people got offended. Now I look for obvious cues and if there are non, ask what 'their' name is.

I say their so as not to offend them, even though it's not a big deal to me it makes someone else happy.

Just like I'll say they/their to someone who is gender neutral, if all they're asking for is pronoun changes, again, it's not a big deal to me and it makes someone else happy.