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When would you want to know - PTS question?

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chocaholic73 Wed 05-Jun-19 10:41:32

It's looking as if almost 14 year old DDog is going to have to be PTS this afternoon. He's really gone down hill in the last 24 or so hours and can barely stand, not eating/drinking etc etc. I'm gutted but resigned. Problem is DH is away, uncontactable until this evening. I'm confident that he would want me to do what's best for DDog which I shall do but my dilemma is should I tell him this evening, or wait till I pick him up from the station in a few days? Would you want to remain in blissful ignorance and enjoy the rest of your break (much needed for other reasons) or know immediately? I know it's my decision but I'm interested in the views of other dog people.

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Walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge Wed 05-Jun-19 10:47:20

Not quite the same but ddog had an accident at the kennels and they told me as we were due home. I was grateful they hadn't told me sooner as we could not have gotten home sooner anyway.
Sorry about your ddog. Things have been touch and go for ours since Feb. It's so awful making decisions.

missbattenburg Wed 05-Jun-19 11:00:54

For me, whether or not I would want to know comes down to whether or not I would alter my actions based on the knowledge. Whether I would, or could, do anything differently.

For example, if I would cut short the trip or speak to the people back home more often to provide remote support then I would want to know.

If I could not cut the trip short and the people back home would not want/need me to support them, then leave me in ignorance.

Floralnomad Wed 05-Jun-19 11:04:47

I would have told him when I made the appt so that he had the option to get back , I’d be very upset if dh had our dog pts without me being there unless it was a case of an extreme accident where there were no options .

Judashascomeintosomemoney Wed 05-Jun-19 11:07:30

And I’m different to the other PPs. I would want to know immediately (or as soon as was practicably possible) whether I could get home or not. That’s because I wouldn’t want to be thinking back afterwards to the days I had in blissful ignorance, enjoying myself, whilst my beloved dog was going through that and my loved ones were coping alone. I’d feel terribly guilty. So, basically, it’s a very individual thing. So sorry about your poor ddog, been through it many times, always so wrenching. flowers

OverFedStanley Wed 05-Jun-19 13:12:37

I would want to be involved in the decision making process even if I were away. I would maybe even talk to the vet via phone etc . I would absolutely want to know before it happened.

pigsDOfly Wed 05-Jun-19 13:26:45

Yes, I would also want to know immediately.

Like Judas I would hate to think I'd might have been enjoying myself while my beloved dog was being PTS and I would also want to make every effort to be back home and with the dog when it happened.

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