My dog is a mutt of 'wolfie' breeds. Her sire is a Mal, her dam is the offspring of a half timber wolf half husky. She's 3 years old and I hand reared her after her Mum rejected her and I was called to help (and just couldnt give her back)!
At the moment she's breaking my heart. She loves to play and occasionally when she's in the garden I see her 'play bow ' and roll and run around and bark as if she's imagining another dog there. She just wants to play all the time and of course I do play with her, but I have this fantasy about her having a best friend in dog form as well as me.
It won't be easy to navigate though and I wonder if totally impossible
I'm her primary carer but when I am working my mum or a friend will have her, this is always fine, she's happy with anyone, shes never been anxious in that way. I never leave her alone for very long.
Also if I'm working long hours or away, shes with my ex (we got her when we were still together but she's always been more 'mine').She's used to other humans and loves most people.
She's really sensitive to everything though. Not a bad thing. Any changes or loud noises or new places or smells. She's a very 'highly strung' dog if you will but having said that she adapts quickly. I think this is a typical feature given her breeding.
Up until recently she was lovely with other dogs. I could let her play with any dog and not worry (although I obviously didn't with teeny dogs because she could accidentally hurt them).
She changed overnight though after a dog attacked her. She wasnt hurt, but it's affected her.
This dog is a family members and my dog has always been very friendly. Family member has two dogs and mine would play with one and try to play with the other. Other hates other dogs so we'd stop her and she'd happily play with the other dog. Family member used to walk them all together if I was working which was great, mine learned to just stay away from the dog that didn't like her. We also walked them all together often, no issues. Then one day I was in the garden with my dog and this dog was out with another family member and they came past. Dog attacked my dog full on before I even realised they were there. Neither dog was hurt, it was a matter of seconds but now, she's fearful of other dogs generally speaking.
I take her to a sled dog play date in a field and she used to love going there, but now she is so nervous and it takes her so much time to build up the confidence to play and if another dog plays a bit too full on, she'll whimper and come hide behind me. To be fair shes always been a clingy dog leaning on the nervous side but she's much worse now. If she thinks a dogs getting too close, hackles rise and she bares her teeth.
I realise my anxiousness isnt helping. If another dog approaches I panic because I can't trust her as I used to. And if I'm anxious she gets more anxious. Friends and my ex have helped with this. They don't get as anxious as me with her and touch wood nothing bad has happened when shes been with others, rather than me and a dog has approached.
Also being hand reared I guess is a part of this, any dog comes near me and she isn't happy. If I pet another dog she isn't happy. I like to think this is just who she is rather than me having failed her in some way, basically because when she was tiny I used to take her back to the breeders house knowing how important sibling interaction is for pups, and let her play with them. Also I had two other dogs at the time, so it isnt as if she's never been around dogs despite being human reared.
My ex also now has another dog, a Jack Russell sized Heinz 57, who shes absolutely fine with. Also bit heart breaking though because this dog isn't playful at all and mine will try to play with her, doing all the actions dogs do when they want to play, even throwing toys at her to make that effort. I honestly think if my dog wasn't ever walked again she wouldn't care. Playing is her thing and as long as she had that.. I've had all sorts of dogs but never one like her.
Am I just dreaming, or is it possible this could have a happy ending. She's young and the fear aggression is a new thing, I think I can get it out of her but I don't know how best to go about it. If it could work, I think another similar breed would be best. And a male. I wouldn't just go get one and shove it in my house with her and expect all to be fine, I'm not completely naive. I also know that said new dog will need to settle in and have a lot of attention from me in their new home.
Maybe if I put my current dog at my ex's, had the new dog settle then we took them all out together few times first... this is what we did with my ex's new dog.
But maybe there is a way... any experiences? Thanks
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CrumbsCrumbsEverywhere · 21/05/2019 14:34
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