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3teens2cats Wed 08-May-19 08:51:19

Dh and I have made the heartbreaking decision to let our 15 year old dog go. She has declined so slowly that we had kind of lost sight of what she used to be like but over the last few days odd accidents have turned into semi incontinence and she is falling over. Vet doesn't open until 9.00. We are just sat with her while she drifts in and out of sleep. I know we are doing the right thing but boy it hurts. Please tell me it will be peaceful and we will feel better once it's done.

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Daytimesleeper Wed 08-May-19 09:00:13

Oh I'm so sorry, but I'm a strong believer in when they tell you it's time you know, and you have listened to her.
So heartbreaking, when my old boy got to the same stage as your girl it was very peaceful, he sighed and closed his eyes and that was it. Lots of love and cuddles for now for all of you.


spiderlight Wed 08-May-19 15:11:16

So sorry, OP. It's awful, but it's the kindest thing when they get to that stage (we had to do it in January) - the pain we feel is like no other, but we suffer it so they don't have to. Holding your hand and hoping she slips away gently like our old boy did.

BiteyShark Wed 08-May-19 16:29:37

So sorry thanks

purpleme12 Wed 08-May-19 17:15:47

The passing away was ok.
But I didn't feel better after it was done. I never doubted it was the right thing but that's when your pet has gone. So sorry that is your doggy's time

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey Wed 08-May-19 17:17:53

Sad day for you and your DH flowers

70isaLimitNotaTarget Wed 08-May-19 21:49:52

the pain we feel is like no other, but we suffer it so they don't have to

This should be on the wall of every vets waiting room.


Saavhi Wed 08-May-19 22:07:47

What a wonderful life you must have given her. I have had to make that decision only once in my life, it felt wrong at the time but I'm so so glad I didn't make her suffer out of selfishness. 4 years later, the pain has mostly subsided and I often reminisce over all the adventures we shared. Best wishes and love, 3teens2cats.

3teens2cats Fri 10-May-19 20:12:42

Thank you everyone. She died peacefully and I am in no doubt it was the only thing to do. I miss her so much. My chest aches for her. Right now all I can think of is getting another dog to try and fill the void. I don't want to replace her I just want to be a dog owner again. That sounds so selfish and I am not thinking straight at the moment so it would be silly to rush into something which probably won't take away the pain like I think it will. I just hope in time I will be able to have it again. Thank you for listening.

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somm Fri 10-May-19 22:46:01

I feel for you so much. You did what was best for her, but yes it's horrible for you. She was lucky to have owners who only wanted the best for her. How many dogs don't have that? But God, it hurts xx

SingingMyOwnSpecialSong Fri 10-May-19 22:55:03

I am so sorry for your loss. I had to have my elderly cat pts in February after a short, sudden illness. It was very, very clear that he would not recover and it was the kindest thing to do, but it was still very hard and I miss him every day.

I did get a new cat around a month later as the house just felt wrong without a cat around. It hasn’t taken away the grief, but I am glad I got him, and that he is so different to my old boy, but just as quirky and full of character. It has helped me remember how my old cat was as a youngster. I am also glad my 4-year-old DD is getting to experience choosing a cat (new one is a 16 month old rescue) and seeing them through their whole life.

Absolutepowercorrupts Fri 10-May-19 23:06:49

Oh 3teens2cats
You're not being selfish at all, you did the best thing for her. It hurts, really hurts, maybe in time you may have another dog but give yourself time to mourn her. I understand the feeling of loss and first instinct is to fill the void. Just give you and DH some time. It's a shit time and the only way through it is to realise that as a pp said you're suffering so she doesn't have to any more 💐

mrsgandy Sat 11-May-19 00:00:35

Awwwww I'm so sorry . It's the hardest thing ever . My heart broke when we put our boy to sleep but he was ready . I'd do anything to have him back . Eyes filling here thinking of him . We had another dog at the time and that helped .
My sister got a new dog when hers died and they love him lots . Look after yourselves and be happy he is not suffering.

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