Stressed out with Puppy

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Softsoftsoft Tue 16-Apr-19 19:08:21

Pup is 11 weeks old and is so good really, sleeps all night, pees and poos mostly outdoors.
But I wasn't expecting the constant need for attention. I love the cuddles on the sofa but I honestly cannot leave his side. He can be sound asleep and I get up and go to kitchen and seconds later has at my side.
Then in the evening when DH and DS get home he goes mad biting and charging about.
For context, he had surgery at the weekend as another dog bit him! but he was like this before the attack.
I love him to bits and his little face melts my heart, but please tell me it gets easier?!

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Softsoftsoft Tue 16-Apr-19 19:11:26

Forgot to add, I'm constantly worrying about him biting his stitches. The vet has said the wound is very weepy. But he cries constantly when wearing the cone.
I bought an inflatable cone but he can now reach his leg wearing it.
I just feel like crying😢

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bengalcat Tue 16-Apr-19 19:13:57

He just loves you . They do cal down eventually but my hound still follows me around - she’s 10

bengalcat Tue 16-Apr-19 19:14:22

Calm down not cal

Softsoftsoft Tue 16-Apr-19 19:23:04

10 《faints》 grin I can cope with a bit of following. I think I'm just stressed out with the early mornings and worry about the stitches. Poor thing shouldn't have to cope with this already

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Theworldisfullofgs Tue 16-Apr-19 19:25:51

Mine follows me around quite a lot of the time. He's nearly 5.
Having a puppy is like having a toddler.

Theworldisfullofgs Tue 16-Apr-19 19:26:19

They are lovely though. Where is the photo?


AgathaF Tue 16-Apr-19 19:29:20

Have you crate trained? If he had a secure 'den' to sleep in he might not disturb so easily when you move.

IncrediblySadToo Tue 16-Apr-19 19:30:35

The following around drives me NUTS. It’s all my own thought process though. I HATE feeling like I’ve disturbed them/their sleep, so I don’t move, then I get annoyed I can’t get anything done, then I get annoyed with myself for worrying about disturbing a sleeping dog/cat 🤪 round & round in circles.

I TRY to talk myself into doing what I want/need to do and ignoring that they’re sleeping...but I’m not very good at it!

CarolDanvers Tue 16-Apr-19 19:34:26

Crate train. I couldn't manage without it, it makes the whole process so much easier.

Softsoftsoft Tue 16-Apr-19 19:50:12

incrediblysad that's exactly how I feel! I actually feel quite depressed about it like my old life has vanished forever.
And I miss the cats, they've taken to living in the spare roomsad
I.just feel so torn and guilty. Here's a picture of the little heartbreaker...

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Whitechocandraspberry Tue 16-Apr-19 19:51:44

He’s gorgeous. I want him!!

IncrediblySadToo Tue 16-Apr-19 20:02:11

He is a proper little heartbreaker!

...but I understand your ‘buyers remorse’ between the shadowing & ‘losing’ the cats it’s understandable, no matter how cute he is.

Hopefully the cats will come around and see him for the little upstart he is & get him inline! 🤞🏼

He’s very little but I suppose you could start to try to teach him to ‘stay’ when you leave the room. He’s a lab, they’re intelligent, he should be quite trainable.

...try to look forward to when he’s trained and a great companion and even to the midpoint when you can at least take him for long walk to tire him out!!

Floralnomad Tue 16-Apr-19 20:20:29

My dog still follows me about and he’s 9 this year . For all those saying crate him are you suggesting the OP lock him in it for hours at a time just to stop him wandering after her ?

Nettleskeins Tue 16-Apr-19 20:26:41

puppy is by my side most of the time, but crating for naps and covering the crate means I can be somewhere else in the house without disturbing his sleep.

He did the fast asleep and then when I moved he woke up thing OP...I found I had to work on crate sleeps for that reason, so he had nice long refreshing sleeps without always being on alert for me leaving...

Sounds all completely normal, the following around incessantly becomes determined mooching becomes doing his own thing at a sensible distance becomes a gentle companionship that you much appreciate...(this is my 2.5 months worth)

Softsoftsoft Tue 16-Apr-19 20:28:24

I wouldn't close him in a crate to stop him following me. He sleeps in a crate at night but the door is kept open. If he was tiny I.would wear him in a slinggrin
We had a dog when I was a teenager but I don't remember it being this hard, probably because my parents did all the hard work!

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Nettleskeins Tue 16-Apr-19 20:34:11

I have three cats, and they are using the whole house again quite happily, there has been a certain amount of petting and cuddling the cats to remind them we love them and at one point dcat was sitting in a special new bed on the kitchen table made of a cardboard box where dog couldn't say hello, but it has been fine and they are all muddling along together now. I like the way the house has become an animal kingdom.

adaline Tue 16-Apr-19 20:36:30

That's puppies for you!

Mine is 14 months and is still my little shadow. We have baby gates up so he has to settle on his own sometimes - but it's only recently he's been happy to be behind one while we cook/clean/have a shower.

Nettleskeins Tue 16-Apr-19 20:44:19

when mine used to do the biting and charging about I would either put him in the garden to run around for a little bit and do some fetch (if I really thought he was completely bored) but mostly I used to just decide he was completely overtired, needed a pee and then put him to bed, or settle him in a dog bed near us with a chew, and not engage with the biting by showing any attention. the biting and charging is usually OVER stimulation at bedtime. Puppy went for a sleep at about suppertime when he was 12 weeks in our house, I soon realised it was a good time for a little nap, otherwise there was far too much going on.

YolandaN Tue 16-Apr-19 20:47:07

I put a large babygro on my spaniel after her op, she couldn’t interfere with stitches and it was less ‘cruel’ than a cone and cheaper than alternatives. It DOES get easier, I was so tired when my, now 2 year old, was very young, it brought back memories of sleep deprivation of when kids were little (not quite so bad though obviously). They love routine and calm down if walks are frequent, meals are satisfying and they get lots of love. I didn’t bother with a crate, she sleeps on my bed, I know, very bad...🥰

allthechipsticks Tue 16-Apr-19 20:54:10

Both my dogs (both 4) follow me around especially if I'm in the kitchen, it's where all the food is obvs. The one will sit on the sofa and watch me some of the time though. The cats will forgive you eventually, mine did after a few weeks. It took months for her to forgive us for bringing the baby home though!

BiteyShark Tue 16-Apr-19 20:59:36

It can be so hard at the beginning and you are having a harder time with the surgery. I am not surprised you have the puppy blues.

Hang in there. Yes they follow you around all the time and you may never pee on your own again grin. It will get easier but wineand cake for now.

Softsoftsoft Tue 16-Apr-19 21:17:54

Thanks for the encouragement, it is so like having a baby again, which is 20+ years ago so no wonder I'm in shock!
I've just spent some time with the cats in 'their' bedroom. we had cuddles and catnip toys and Dreamies. 💖

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Tue 16-Apr-19 21:23:00

There are so many threads on here about puppy remorse, you're definitely not alone and it is hard work! However, it's never too early to train the behaviour you want. So have a mat in each room, and if the pup follows you in direct them to the mat (with a reward when they get there). It will of course take time and lots and lots of effort, but you will be able to make a 'safe' spot for them - I think especially in the kitchen this is important, my dog doesn't follow me in there cos he loves me, its because he wants food!

And yes, if I had a puppy (DDog was a rescue) I would definitely crate train.

Rumbletum2 Tue 16-Apr-19 21:28:04

Join the fb group “Dog Training Advice And Support” - it’s run by proper actual trainers. They can help you with any issues.

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