My dog died yesterday

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HarrietBasset Tue 25-Dec-18 16:33:07

My lovely girl crossed the rainbow bridge yesterday. She was a 12 year old Basset Hound and I'd had her since she was 8 weeks old. She saw me through the death of my first baby and was a wonderful companion and adored my three children.
I'm just beyond devastated and although I am trying to put a brave face on for Christmas with the family I am really struggling. I just can't believe i won't see her again 😔😔

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quietmoon Tue 25-Dec-18 16:36:52

I'm so so sorry, I have no idea how you are coping but well done for trying to get through Xmas. I have a furbaby who is only three, but I cannot imagine living without him and I cry my eyes out just at the thought of losing him.
Take all the time you need to grieve, they are like our children and it is so unfair that they are only with us for such a short time.

I know nothing I say will really help and so I will just say how sorry I am x

Bambinho Tue 25-Dec-18 16:36:57

So sorry, you had her such a long time and she was part of your family so no wonder you're devastated, I would be too. Can understand why you're doing the brave face for Christmas, just try to get through today.

ThatPeskyElf Tue 25-Dec-18 16:39:18

How awful, I think you’re amazing for trying to hold it together. I would probably have stayed in bed (with a bottle of wine) and cried the day through. She is at peace and will always be in your heart... big hugs xxx

starcrossedseahorse Tue 25-Dec-18 16:40:06

OP I am so sorry. Take comfort in the fact that she had a lovely life with you and she was clearly adored.
We are devastated when we lose them because of the wonderful bond we have. She will always be with you.

GreyGardens88 Tue 25-Dec-18 16:42:31

Horrible, but I'm sure she knew how much you loved her and you can take comfort in the fact you gave her such a wonderful life

BiteyShark Tue 25-Dec-18 16:46:41

I am so sorry flowers


HarrietBasset Tue 25-Dec-18 17:05:42

Thank you for the support. In real life lots of people see it as "just a dog" where she was my family member and baby long before my children came along.
I know it was her time, she was beginning to suffer but taking to have her put to sleep destroyed me and the house just seems so empty.
I think it would have been devastating whenever it happened but on Christmas eve seems particularly hard. She loved Christmas dinner and wore reindeer horns usually.
I know she had a lovely life and we had a great many adventures together but I just can't face the fact I'll never see her again xx

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starcrossedseahorse Tue 25-Dec-18 17:11:53

It takes a long time OP but - and I promise you this - there will be a day when you think of her and smile rather than cry. Be kind to yourself and let yourself grieve. We understand on here. x

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo Tue 25-Dec-18 17:16:52

We all know on here they are never,ever “just a dog” really feel for you OP, I know I will be like you when the time comes, beyond devastated flowers for you.

BiteyShark Tue 25-Dec-18 17:17:57

Oh we understand. They are very much part of the family flowers

happychange Tue 25-Dec-18 17:20:18

thanks my dog died at Christmas too and it still upsets me to think of him

Hugs to you xxx

user1466783975 Tue 25-Dec-18 17:20:40

Oh OP,big hugs,It's so so sad. Hope you are managing ok today x

Kneesbend Tue 25-Dec-18 18:43:31

Here’s my hand to hold, Harriet. I don’t know if it will work for you as it is taking every effort for me but instead of crying I try to smile and think of the good memories that can’t be taken. It doesn’t always work but sometimes it does.

I am so sorry for your loss.

OnBail Wed 26-Dec-18 21:39:03

My dog went over the rainbow bridge on Christmas Eve too, we had to take him to the vets as an emergency appointment, he was 15 and very ill. Cried like a baby leaving the vets.

HarrietBasset Wed 26-Dec-18 21:53:05

Onbail. I'm so sorry this happened to you too. Its the worst feeling. I have tried to keep a brave face on for the kids but its been an awful Christmas. I miss her so much and am either crying or feeling anxious and panicky. I know it will become less raw in time but I am having to take it hour by hour for now xx

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Emilydickensonsdogs Wed 26-Dec-18 21:56:05

I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you strength x

thereallifesaffy Wed 26-Dec-18 22:00:11

I can only repeat what everyone else has said. And add that the same happened to me in August. The pain is indescribable.
May I recommend Monty Don's book Nigel My Family and Other Dogs. It really helped me get to grips with the place a dog has/had in my life.

OnBail Wed 26-Dec-18 22:01:08

I will be glad when Christmas is over, not been feeling very festive. I have 3 grown up sons who all came over to say goodbye to him and all cried, my daughter is 5 and cried for hours.

The vet was lovely, very compassionate and understanding, I held my dog whilst he slipped away telling him how loved he was.

He had been ill for a couple of months but went down hill very quickly. I knew I was doing the best thing for him.

Sorry to hear of your loss too, it is amazing how much we love them, even 2 days later when I walk out of the kitchen I always look for his water bowl to see if he needs more water, jolts me when I see it’s not there.

Hofuckingho Wed 26-Dec-18 22:02:01

I’m so sorry for your loss. 🐾💐

doodleygirl Wed 26-Dec-18 22:08:47

I am so sorry for your loss flowers

Stardustinmyeyes Wed 26-Dec-18 22:18:44

It’s a very hard decision to make and the pain is huge, they are never just a dog. Losing a member of the family is very hard to deal with.
Our first dog died in 2003 and I still miss him, we’ve had other dogs and have been through the death of several of them.
I have a lovely picture in my head of your girl with her “antlers” on
I hope that over time happier memories will take the place of the sadness you are feeling 💐for you

mogloveseggs Wed 26-Dec-18 22:20:50

flowers we lost ours 21st dec last year. I’d had him longer than the husband and still miss him dreadfully. They’re family not just dogs.

HarrietBasset Wed 26-Dec-18 22:32:45

Thanks all. Such a comfort for others to totally understand. I was slicing cheese earlier and usually she would have been there like a shot, waiting for a piece. Its the small things like that xx

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DuchessAnnogovia Wed 26-Dec-18 23:00:28

I'm so, so sorry to hear about your loss. It's been nearly 3 years since my Ruby crossed the rainbow bridge. I still cry occasionally when thinking of her, but generally my DH and I reminisce with laughter at her antics. She really was a derpy dog. Time is a great healer, but as you say it's the small things one misses. We can now say yoghurt without whispering. If she heard the word she'd go rushing straight to the fridge, woe betide getting in her way, 81/2 stone of rottie/lab had an impressive shove on her.


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