My mums dog is making my daughter scared of dogs.

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JKCR2017 Sat 15-Dec-18 14:24:21

Hi all, about a year ago my brought home a new puppy. It was a bit odd. The breeders insisted on meeting them in a Layby and theytook the puppy home to find it was absolutely riddled in fleas. I think the pup had a bad start and could of been a puppy farm.

I know all puppies are playful but she was crazy from the start. She really bites you, your hand, nose etc when she got excited. She cut my oh’s chin. Fortunately she’s never caused my children injury but she has bit my daughters chin.

We have a dog, she isn’t perfectly behaved and she does get excited for visitors but she wouldn’t ever bite but my mums dog bites when she gets excited when you arrive and my mum doesn’t seem bothered by it.

My daughter stands outside the gate to scared to go in because the dog is also quite chunky and jumps up to DD and knocks her off.

DD is an animal lover. Obviously I have taught her not to aproach dogs she doesn’t know and to be wary of them. But we have a dog, as does the mil, our neighbours who are all friendly but DD is now wary of them all.

Today we visted there house. My uncle was talking to DD giving her a cuddle playing with her and the dog randomly jumped up and bit my uncles nose quite badly

My mum is aware there is an issue but doesn’t seem to want to solve it. But I’m dreading going over there at Christmas!

Is it too late to train a 12 month old dog to behave better?

She’s also a bleddy nightmare around food. DD was eating a snack and the dog was on the sofa in her face!

My mum has another dog that’s older now. He was also a bit hyper when younger but never bit anyone!

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pigsDOfly Sat 15-Dec-18 14:39:39

Yes that puppy most definitely came from a puppy farm.

That apart, is your mum actually doing anything about training her? She sounds completely out of control. But no, it's never too late to start training a dog, and at 12 months it's still a relatively young dog.

I'd be very wary of letting your DD eat sitting on the sofa around this dog as it sounds as if it's likely to grab at the food and very possibly end up unintentionally biting, and potentially, badly hurting your DD.

You don't say how old your DD is but unless this dog was shut in another room at Christmas away from my child, there's no way I'd be taking a young child into that situation. And in the long term, I'd be staying away from that house until the your mum started putting some training in place with her out of control dog.

Ivydalegirl Sat 15-Dec-18 14:50:30

Very little respect for anybody buying a puppy from a puppy farm, and it must have been so obvious when they suggest 'meet in a layby!"
No One will know the dogs history or parents temprement but if the dog has bitten "quite badly" an adults face no way would I let my child near it.

JKCR2017 Sat 15-Dec-18 14:55:43

I understand the concerns over the puppy farm. We aren’t sure for certain. My mum had contact with the breeders and had a phone call whilst on the way to ask if they could meet elsewhere. there could of been another explanation. The Layby was near a permanent traveller site I believe, maybe they could of been embarrassed by this? I have no idea 🤷‍♀️ But then if I was buying a dog I’d insist on seeing the home.

DD is only 3, DS is 7. So quite young. Our dog is a bit hyper at times (half terrier and she certainly has the terrier in her) but she’s never bitten anyone and is very tolerant of the children!

I’m hoping my mum will get some training advice, the dog is also always terrorising my mums older very quiet old dog. I feel sorry for him!

The dog is biting in excitement rather than aggressiveness (not that it makes it any better of course)

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ohwellinthatcasetryprunes Sat 15-Dec-18 14:58:19

An unpredictable dog that bites people in the face is not a dog that should be anywhere near children.

To be honest, it should be curtains for that animal, it is dangerous.

Wolfiefan Sat 15-Dec-18 14:59:30

Dog most certainly came from a puppy mill.
Your mum seems to have no desire to train this dog at all.
You need to insist it is kept away from the kids or not go over.

Scattyhattie Sat 15-Dec-18 15:45:46

It was perhaps taken from litter/mum too early to learn bite inhibition. Dodgy breeders also don't consider parent temperaments.
Though it doesn't sound like your mum has done much training to reduce nippiness.
Its a youngster & visitors are very exciting as is food, but the dog should really be separated (crate/stair gate) rather than be allowed to continue to hurt/scare guests.

Your mum needs to get a qualified behaviorist in & follow advice/training rather than carry on minimising which will lead more injuries & dog being PTS, possibly her being charged under dangerous dog act (already possible if anyone reports). Its a young dog and needs guidance to learn what's acceptable behavior & all their other needs like exercise/stimulation met. Its possible wrong environment but its easy to blame fully on dog and not take responsibility which often means they end up repeating mistakes with another dog.

Meeting in a lay by makes tracing breeder more difficult as address given as home likely was fake. It could've even been stolen pup but Puppy farmed/smuggled pups are often handed over at places like service stations then will never see horrors that parents lived in, though posing as home breeder set-ups seems more common nowadays.


JKCR2017 Sat 15-Dec-18 16:24:41

The pup was really tiny, my mum did wonder if she was too young to leave but she took her home anyway!

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JKCR2017 Sat 15-Dec-18 16:26:47

I’m also not convinced on the breed. They were told the dog was a cross between a jack Russell and a Yorkshire terrier but to me the dog looks nothing like either. I know cross breeds/mongerels can be unique but to me the dog has quite a mixture of different breeds in. Not that this really matters but they were told the cross breed when the dog is nothing like either imo.

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LittleLongDog Sat 15-Dec-18 16:32:13

Your mum 100% needs to get professional training in place. At 12months it’s still a very young dog and if it hasn’t been trained properly and has a questionable background then it makes sense it’s biting in excitement. It needs help to learn.

JKCR2017 Mon 17-Dec-18 16:42:47

Thanks all. I really hope she sorts this. It’s now causing a rift in the family. Understandably my uncle is upset about being bitten by the dog, and it’s Christmas next week. My mum doesn’t want him around as ‘doesn’t like the dog’. She really isn’t seeing the problem 😩

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BiscuitDrama Mon 17-Dec-18 16:44:32

Did the bite to the uncle draw blood?

Shinesweetfreedom Mon 17-Dec-18 16:50:37

Keep your child away.If that means not going over at Christmas or any other time so be it.
To be honest she knows it’s from a dodgy breeder and got it for less because of it,she is hardly going to pay out for training for the dog.
Cheaper and easier for her to deny the problem.
And because of people like her dodgy breeders exist.
Sorry op

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig Tue 18-Dec-18 10:49:04

Sorry Op but your mum is a massive twat, although I’m sure you know that. She bought an unknown puppy from a stranger in a lay by near a travellers site. God knows what happened to the parents, most likely stolen and bred to death. Obviously she’s not going to give a shit about training it properly if she can’t even be bothered to go through the proper channels to buy it. I’d simply tell her all that and tell her you won’t be coming over anymore. Sounds like she needs a harsh lesson. Why don’t you show her all the thousands of Dog Lost posters and link her to the countless news stories about dogs found at travellers sites. Educate the bloody woman and perhaps she might understand the suffering and abuse of dogs that people like her help promote.

PaulHollywoodsSexGut Tue 18-Dec-18 10:54:57

Other PPs have passed their opinion on your mum’s quality control so I’m not going to add to that BUT perhaps a gift for mum could be puppy training classes?

Basically it could be the difference between her having a loyal pet that’s an asset to the family or a PTS situation breaking everyone’s hearts in the process.

Two points:
1. I don’t want to make the training of her dog sound like your responsibility
2. Keep your DD away from the dog, you have to, regardless of how pissed of your mum will be.

JKCR2017 Tue 18-Dec-18 14:58:17

Fab idea about the gift of puppy training classes. Unfortunately I don’t think it would go down with her. She’s an awkward person! 😬

My uncle wasn’t terrible injured. But his nose is swollen/sore! Enough to hurt him anyway. It wasn’t just a playful nip!

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