Would anyone else give everything to just have time with special dog that crossed rainbow bridge again .

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poppy196 Tue 23-Oct-18 19:50:07

Even after 5 years and another dog in house I would so give anything just to hold him again and tell him how much I loved him and how so very special and loved he was .
I just miss him so much .
Anyone else having problems moving on and needing to see their darling dog again ?
If only they lived as long as we do .

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user1471465525 Tue 23-Oct-18 21:37:15

Yes my dear girl died a month ago and would love one more cuddle with her

Honeyroar Tue 23-Oct-18 21:46:03

Yes. All of them, every last dog I've ever had. They've all been totally special and wonderful in their own way.

💐🌺🌸 to you User. The early days are the worst. We lost our girl just before Xmas and it's gradually becoming less raw.

But my current dogs give me enough cuddles and love to keep moving on.

GertrudeCB Tue 23-Oct-18 21:49:03

My mum had a dog that was with me from 4-21. I loved him. I still think of him and dream about him and he died 25 years ago.

Carouselfish Tue 23-Oct-18 21:58:26

I'm glad you've continued to have other dogs op. Someone who loves them as they ought to be loved should always provide a family and home to a dog. So many out there don't have that. I miss all their individual lovely personalities and find that with the next one I always appreciate them more and give them that bit more attention. I wish I could go back with that understanding to lavish on my earlier boys.

TheHodgeoftheHedge Tue 23-Oct-18 22:00:21

Yes. I’m fast approaching the first anniversary of losing my old boy and I’m dreading it. Absolutely dreading it.
I love the rest of my little gang so much but I still feel his loss so very keenly.

SleightOfMind Tue 23-Oct-18 22:06:46

I think of my first dog every time I can’t sleep at night.
Every other dog we’ve had has taught me how to be a better owner. I can’t help thinking about her and wishing I’d known then what I know now sad.
I’d love to go back in time.


poppy196 Tue 23-Oct-18 22:37:55

Thank you for reply's, feel better that I'm not alone in still missing him .
🌸For all your losses
So sorry @user1471465525 still early days time helps a little but that huge dog shaped hole they leave is so awful.
@Carouselfish Thank you , we will always have a dog .
For months after he died I swear I could hear him coming upstairs to bed ,
sad but kind of happy to be reminded of him .

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poppy196 Tue 23-Oct-18 22:42:08

@TheHodgeoftheHedge 🌸 I hope that you get through the first anniversary ok .

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RavenLG Tue 23-Oct-18 22:50:54

Yes definitely. Our very dear family dog we rescued when he was 4. We had him when I was around 11-23, he was such a well trained, amazingly loving and loyal dog. Was so chilled out and wasn't bothered by anything at all. I knew something was wrong with him for a few weeks but parents dismissed, then he stopped eating for a few days. My parents took him to the vet, I'll never forget my dad saying "He's getting old, you might want to say goodbye properly just incase" .. I rolled my eyes and patted him on the head and told him I would see him soon. He was put down there and then, and I never got to say goodbye. We buried him in our back yard but I still think every day I should have gone with them to the vet, I should have said goodbye properly, I should have pushed my parents to take him to the vets sooner. It's been 8 years and I miss him dearly still. My parents have 2 new dogs now, and I love them to bits but I still miss my wonderful boy every day.

Fantasisa Tue 23-Oct-18 22:52:07

My favourite family dog was THE best. I’ve never been in a position to own one as an adult (work and commute too far etc) but the joy of being welcomed home by her was so wonderful. I think of her often.

Fantasisa Tue 23-Oct-18 22:54:02

Also, the purpose dogs give you cannot be underestimated. She made me exercise day in, day out in all weathers because she needed to be walked. My waistline certainly misses her too and my mental health. There is nothing like a brisk walk with your four legged best friend .

Fantasisa Tue 23-Oct-18 22:54:47

And watching the seasons change, I always seemed to notice and appreciate that more on dog walks.

sulee Wed 24-Oct-18 19:12:01

I do sympathise OP. We Lost our beautiful old boy nearly two years ago and I’d give anything to see him just one more time. He was just an unwanted dog I took on as a favour, but he became my soulmate. We still had one dog and rescued another just to fill the terrible gap- which he did, but I really don’t think I will ever feel quite the connection I felt for that dog. Miss him every single day!

echt Thu 25-Oct-18 01:31:30

My dog, who was PTS in June, still pops on the rolling photos I have as desktop. I always minimise what I'm doing to look at him. I never thought of myself as a dog person and only consented to getting one after a nagfest by DH and DD. I miss him so much. The cat is fine, though very haughty. It's the I'm-so-glad-to-see-you enthusiasm I love.

What sulee said about the connection made me sad, and apprehensive. I'm going to look at a puppy on Saturday (170miles each way!) and wonder if I'll make that bond. I know it won't be the same dog, obvs, but want to do right by the little beast.

poppy196 Thu 25-Oct-18 06:52:51

Your so right @sulee some dogs you definitely have more of a connection with .
@echt Hope everything goes well with getting new puppy.

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AvocadosBeforeMortgages Thu 25-Oct-18 07:48:27

Any of the family dogs, but particularly the dog I had from age 4-17, who was temperamentally bombproof if a bit wayward with basic training.

Once the initial, awful grief had passed, I think the desire to see him again only eased once I'd got my own DDog a decade later. He was an unusual breed and when I see one of the same breed (rarely) my heart skips a beat and I will have to approach the owner and ask to say hello to the dog. I'd still absolutely love to have mine back again, and comfort myself with plans to have another of the breed one day (current DDog needs to be an only, so this is a long term thing).

Honeyroar Thu 25-Oct-18 12:39:25

I totally disagree. I've loved and had a connection with every single dog I've ever owned. I'm not saying that it doesn't hurt like hell when you lose them, but the next dog had always filled the gap with love.

I wonder if it's perhaps because we never have a sole dog, so always have another one that we love when we lose a dog?

Toothfairee Fri 26-Oct-18 12:00:42

I miss our old boy terribly, been nearly a year, with empty dog beds still in each room, I can't bear to put them away into a cupboard.

ReverseTheFerret Fri 26-Oct-18 20:12:11

Lost our first dog (we'd had another dog we got after him who'd died first but this guy was the first dog we ever owned) at Christmas and I miss my stupid furry shadow so bloody much. Not the scared, jittery, in-pain guy he was at the end with a dwindling supply of his marbles (and he never had many to start with), but the daft fucker strutting alongside me on walks with a huge grin on his face and attitude that said "I'm with my human, everything in my world is just totally bloody awesome right now"

Thick as mince and the worst squirrel chaser in the world who took "barking up the wrong tree" as some kind of literal instruction but you couldn't have got a more fantastic dog at general "being a dog" doggyness.

QOD Fri 26-Oct-18 20:15:45

I’m on my first dog. She’s 1 and hopefully life span up to 18/20
I already know I couldn’t be without a dog ever ever again
I get it OP

I love her so ridiculously much. She’s a member of the family

Lizzy1980 Sat 27-Oct-18 04:25:23

I had my beloved dog put to sleep yesterday and I am totally heartbroken. I have not stopped crying since and feel totally drained. My house feels cold, quiet and empty. I would have given anything to save her but it was not meant to be.
I have had dogs since I was a child and loved them all dearly but I have never had the special connection and bond that I had with Amy before. I can't describe it but she was so, so special. My heart is broken

TheHodgeoftheHedge Sat 27-Oct-18 08:34:39

@Lizzy1980 I am so sorry. The raw grief and loneliness when they go is just awful. I promise it does get better.
Be kind and gentle with yourself. Do you have people around you who understand and can provide a shoulder to cry on? I’m here if you want to message me and talk.
Sending you some big MN internet hugs xxx

LimitIsUp Sat 27-Oct-18 08:45:05

My dog died 5 years ago too. In my case my feelings are complicated by guilt; that I should have spent less time irritated by her heavy shedding and tumbleweed of dog hair everywhere and more time actually enjoying her and appreciating her for the fab dog that she was. She got lots of love, cuddles and affection from the dc but I am afraid that too often I approached her as a bit of a chore on my to do list ( feed: check, groom: check, walk: check). It was only after she had gone that I realised how much I loved her sad

LimitIsUp Sat 27-Oct-18 08:46:45

I'm so sorry Lizzy flowers

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