Pros and cons of dog in your bedroom at night

(27 Posts)
fikel Mon 10-Sep-18 13:03:16

My 2 year old toy poodle has become a nightmare through the night. He sleeps in his crate in the kitchen but it’s gone pear shaped recently. It did happen before but he settled back when he was younger.
I really am not keen in him being upstairs
I really struggle sleeping and my DH would rather be stayed downstairs. Doggie loves to snuggle and I know he would adore being in the bed. If we did put a dog bed in the bedroom he wouldn’t use it but would be straight on the bed.
Just want him to not bark keeping the house hold awake in the early hours.
Have any of your doggies migrated upstairs despite your best intentions and how has it worked for you?

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adaline Mon 10-Sep-18 13:27:52

Ours is always in the bed at night and has been since we got him at 12 weeks.

Pros - he sleeps through the night, keeps my feet warm and I get woken up with snuggles every morning. As a young pup, we also knew when he needed the toilet so we never had night-time accidents.

Cons - he snores, farts and steals the covers grin

aperolspritzplease Mon 10-Sep-18 13:30:33

Ddog has started sleeping in our bed now he's nearly 8. He takes up too much space, grunts, snores and growls if you accidentally knock him with your feet.

He's cute though and I quite like him being there and if we don't let him up he headbutts the baby gate until we do!

itsallgravybaby Mon 10-Sep-18 13:38:33

Cons - occasionally woken up by a dog getting in our out of the covers or a loud snore.

Pros- the lovely cuddles, the ball of warmth, the extra bonding, they sleep longer, once you wake up they need to be taken for a wee/breakfast so you can't lounge too long

Rhodes2015again Mon 10-Sep-18 13:40:53

I love having my dog in bed with us! She’s so snuggly and sleeps through the night and rarely ever disturbs us.

Nesssie Mon 10-Sep-18 13:43:21

Can you not put the crate in your bedroom? So he can see you and be near you but can't get on the bed?

BigusBumus Mon 10-Sep-18 13:45:23

My 10 year old Jack Russell has been in our bed ever since being terrified by fireworks next door as a pup. I held her till she stopped shaking and thought, Oh well, just this once. And she's never left. She barks and barks if we try and shut her downstairs. She sleeps at the end by my feet all night till about 5am and then gets cold and gets in with me and kind of spoons with me. Weird I know! She doesn't go on my husbands side at all.

Our other Jack Russell sleeps with one teenage son and the black lab sleeps with the other son.

The only cons is the hair on your sheets, and the dog-dreaming with waggling feet and mini-woofs several times a night. grin


Aprilshowersnowastorm Mon 10-Sep-18 13:48:35

Can't imagine having sex with dh with a ddog in the room tbh!!
Ddog had an accident last year and had the cone of shame.
I let her sleep in our room as we have other ddogs who may have squashed it /her!
She slept wrapped round my neck!
Dh slept on the sofa for 3 nights.
Dh is 6'4 and we have a 2 seater sofa.
Won't be happening again!!

RedneckStumpy Mon 10-Sep-18 13:50:18

Our dogs sleep in the bedroom. They are part of the family.

Also for security, if someone broke in the dogs have the advantage of height.

Ginorchoc Mon 10-Sep-18 13:53:41

Our dog sleeps in my bedroom in a suitcase under my bed, she has two beds and doesn’t use them. At 6 am every morning she jumps up and sleeps on the top of my head.

Aprilshowersnowastorm Mon 10-Sep-18 14:04:13

Gin I hope your ddog has a torch!!

Ginorchoc Mon 10-Sep-18 14:08:07

grin probably she has acquired a few things for herself in there. It’s like a little bedsit.

Hjb2410 Mon 10-Sep-18 16:58:06

Sorry to jump on but our 8 month old golden retriever had also become a nightmare at night.
She's crate trained and will bark when she wants to go out which she has been sleeping through the night til about 6am give or take which is fine. However the last few nights she's barked, taken her out, put her back and the same routine two/ three times in the middle of the night. We have ended up bringing her upstairs to settle and so we don't annoy the neighbours any more than we are doing but I don't know what to do!

lynmilne65 Mon 10-Sep-18 17:54:38

Rather have a man ! (Sigh)

Soontobe60 Mon 10-Sep-18 17:59:16

Our dog sleeps upstairs with us on his dog bed. He did used to jump in the bed when he was younger, but we just kicked him off until he got the message. Now he's too old to get on the bed!

FairfaxAikman Mon 10-Sep-18 18:08:52

FairfaxDog has been on the bed since a pup, as was her predecessor.
Pros are she keeps me warmer and I definitely sleep better with her around.

Cons are that when I look after her littermate brother (DDads dog) he insists on joining us and he is HUGE.
He sleeps between me and DH (FairfaxDog knows the rules and is at our feet) with his head on the pillow, and legs in the air. Occasionally he turns on his side, puts his paws in DHs back and pushes him out of bed.
He also snores and as an intact male has teabagged us on more than one occasion.

He doesn't visit often.

Vallahalagonebutnotforgotten Mon 10-Sep-18 19:15:59

6 dogs no way would I have them upstairsgrin

Less housework if I keep them downstairs, less dog hairs upstairs, less bits of common left on the stairs. I do not want wet dogs sneaking upstairs and lying on my beautiful luxurious bed. Also it is safe to keep chocolate upstairs as they can not get it and I just have to eat it in bedsmile

DCs know to put toys away downstairs away from the dogs but upstairs it is safe to leave things out.

I do not want dogs rummaging through the bathroom bins.<stern stare at Labrador>

They snore and sleep bark and sleep run, I don't want to be kicked by then in the night, they get too hot and start panting, I hate being licked by dogs and especially on my face in bed.

Nope cuddles in the evening on the sofa then off to the dog room and me to my beautiful luxurious bedroom - I might let the DH in ......

fikel Mon 10-Sep-18 19:38:23

orry to jump on but our 8 month old golden retriever had also become a nightmare at night.
She's crate trained and will bark when she wants to go out which she has been sleeping through the night til about 6am give or take which is fine. However the last few nights she's barked, taken her out, put her back and the same routine two/ three times in the middle of the night. We have ended up bringing her upstairs to settle and so we don't annoy the neighbours any more than we are doing but I don't know what to do!
I’m guessing tough love and leaving pup to work out that he won’t be getting upstairs 😬. I’m praying it’s a quiet night, I think I’m
going to persevere with downstairs.

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thegirlsallgrowedupnow Mon 10-Sep-18 19:46:25

Absolutely agree Valhalla, ddog has her own very luxurious bed in the kitchen. She spends the evening on the sofa but is happy to decamp, indeed often demands it, to her nighttime bed. After her usually busy day I think she finds it restful and I have never thought that DH and I would be restful companions for her or her us at night.We have a cuddle on our bed in the mornings with a cup of tea. Also think, as I have stated before on similar threads, that if you aren’t prepared to share your bed with an elderly incontinent dog, then why start!

lelepond Tue 11-Sep-18 11:34:58

My boy sleeps in my teenage son's room in his crate (door open). Works for us as my dog is generally very anxious/timid and likes to be close to his family (he's a GSD).

Pros- never hear a peep from him and he can sleep for 12 hours straight with equally lazy DS. Also, we know that he is happy and settled.

Cons- there are none for us with our set up.

Yokohamajojo Tue 11-Sep-18 13:13:37

Same scenario as yours OP, our almost 2 YO was very happy in his crate downstairs until he wasn't and now after holiday we haven't had the heart to put him downstairs again so he is supposed to sleep on his bed on our bedroom floor smile

It's actually ok having him in the bed and he is bigger than yours. He doesn't snore or move around much but lies between our legs. Downside would be if he takes too much duvet as he is rather difficult to move when asleep. We are in the process of getting a lovely new bed for him but I don't hold out much hope that it will be used.

isupposeitsverynice Tue 11-Sep-18 13:23:01

the only major upset i’ve had was lying in bed tickling the dog’s face and finding a tick. i wanted to go to sleep, not get up and hunt down the tick remover! i find my dog comes and goes through the night. he’ll lie with me while i read, and when i turn the light off to sleep he goes downstairs, i assume to make sure everything is safe and secure. once i’m asleep he comes back to snuggle (i can tell by the hair and other assorted muck he leaves behind!) and then i think he goes back downstairs at first light to keep an eye on the chickens as they get up for the day, as he is rarely there when i wake up. he is a long haired gsd so gets very hot on the bed, not that that seems to stops him hmm

ADastardlyThing Tue 11-Sep-18 13:29:28

Our dogs have always slept at the bottom of our bed and wriggle their way up during the night

Pros - warm, snuggly, nothing like being spooned by a dog, she wont be at any harm if were burgled and can still bark if she heard anything, same with a fire, sleepy lazy doggies are lovely to wake up to and start the day on a lovely note, if she's ever poorly she's already used to being upstairs so we can keep an ear out, I like listening to the sound of their breathing to help get to sleep

Cons - absolutely none

AmIAWeed Tue 11-Sep-18 13:35:14

serious cons are the affect on sex life!
We have 2 dogs in our bed, cocker spaniel who is glued to my husband, literally on his pillow with his head resting on my husbands neck and the shepherd who sleeps length ways next to me with my arm wrapped around her.
All spontaneity has left our relationship as we need the dogs OUT before anything can be started

IrmaFayLear Tue 11-Sep-18 13:35:31

dog started off in utility room in a crate, then progressed to family room in a crate, then to family room sofa, then landing, then to a nice soft rug by my side of the bed.

And at 5.40am dh leaves for work. At 5.41 dog is in the bed with me!

He first made it into the bed a couple of years ago when I had flu. I was fast asleep in the middle of the day, came to, rolled over and came face to face with a big hairy snoring head on dh's pillow. He'd snuck in uninvited!

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