Grieving

(37 Posts)
peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sat 08-Sep-18 20:35:08

I know it’s how long is a piece of string...
And I know it’s only been 24 hours.
But this is AWFUL.
I can’t eat, haven’t slept in 24 hours, literally just sobbed.
I’m not as bad when I’m keeping busy and out of the house, but as soon as I walk back in and he’s not here I’m in bits.
I keep going to let him out for a wee, or check where he is.
I just feel sick to the pit of my stomach. So so sick.
How do I make this all better?

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peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sat 08-Sep-18 20:36:21

As soon as it starts getting dark and I know it will be a long night of lying awake just thinking about things then I start to panic.
This is truly horrendous.

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ChardonnaysPrettySister Sat 08-Sep-18 20:46:39

I wish there was a way to make it better soon. And will, but it needs time.

Sorry about your dog. It’s devastating. It goes away but it’s real grief. Have a god cry, sleep it off, and hopefully you will feel better.

peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sat 08-Sep-18 20:48:11

It’s honestly one of the worst feelings I’ve had in my life.
It’s just awful.
I can’t even put it into words.
I forget what’s happened for a few minutes if I’m busy and then bam it hits me again.

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ChardonnaysPrettySister Sat 08-Sep-18 20:52:26

I know.

I used to go to top up the water and then it would hit me.

I have no advice how to make it better, only to say I have been there and I know how you feel.

Take care.

peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sat 08-Sep-18 20:53:34

Thank you ❤️
I just need sleep so badly.
Think I might go to gp on Monday as I cannot cope with feeling like this 💔.
Thanks for replying x

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ChardonnaysPrettySister Sat 08-Sep-18 20:54:14

Sorry, I meant take care of yourself, not as a sign off.

I’m here if you want to talk.

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ChardonnaysPrettySister Sat 08-Sep-18 20:54:51

Hugs.

Hang in there.

MrsMozart Sat 08-Sep-18 20:56:16

Time is what will make it bearable.

Been there too many times and will be again tomorrow.

Sending you a hug and a handhold flowers

peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sat 08-Sep-18 20:56:19

Thank you.
I’m trying to be strong but I literally feel so sick I can’t function. Feel like I’ve got a bug.
Going to try and get some sleep. Hope that helps.

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peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sat 08-Sep-18 20:57:03

So sorry @MrsMozart
It’s just awful.

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Bluntness100 Sat 08-Sep-18 20:58:48

I'm afraid I'm the same, my dog was put to sleep nearly two years ago, it was very traumatic, he was very very ill at the end. I'm still not over it. I cried for days and a friend showed me pics of him a couple of weeks ago and I nearly cried. He was just four.

It was the fact he was so ill and in so much pain. He couldn't get up from the sofa and would just wag his tail when I came in, then put his head down again, when the pain started I begged the vets who eventually operated to see what the issue was and they didn't want to, he had to be put to sleep on the operating table when they found the problem. It wasn't survivable.

I'm not sure I can have another dog because of the trauma of it.

My heart goes out to you. I have no words to help. It's awful and I get that.💐

peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sat 08-Sep-18 21:03:09

I know it’s early days but I don’t feel that I could ever get another pet again and go through this.
It’s truly unbearable.
I knew it would be hard, but it’s hit me like a tonne of bricks.

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OnlyToWin Sat 08-Sep-18 21:07:04

You gave your dog a lovely life. He was loved and loved you. You’ll always miss him, but as time passes the pain you currently feel will fade you will be able to focus more on all those happy times. flowers

ChaosTrulyReigns Sat 08-Sep-18 21:09:47

I'm so sorry for your loss. Would you like to tell us about your dog? thanks

Mainchanger Sat 08-Sep-18 21:12:31

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's heartbreaking.
Please tell us about your dog ❤️

HandbagCrazy Sat 08-Sep-18 21:15:01

I think you need to stop trying to push it away and accept that it's going to hurt. Of course you miss him, you're grieving.

I don't know the circumstances for you but when we lost our boy, it really helped me to focus on the certainty that we made the right decision, that he fought his little socks off and when the time came, we put him before us and stopped his pain. I concentrated on the fact that he deserved for me to be brave enough to handle my grief because he deserved a peaceful end (no idea if that makes sense to you)?

For practical advice, have a cup of sweet tea. Keep posting if it helps. Eat if you haven't done that yet. Do whatever helps you / brings you comfort when you're ill thanks

Hanspannerly Sat 08-Sep-18 21:43:48

Am so sorry you are so sad right now. We had to put our very young dog down in February and it was devastating. I can tell you that time definitely helps. I was adamant I wouldn’t get another dog because it was too panifuk yet here I am 8 months on with another little buddy. The love that a dog gives you is absolute and unwavering, it’s just so sad that their little lives are short x

OnlyToWin Sun 09-Sep-18 07:31:34

Hope you managed to get some
sleep. flowers

peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sun 09-Sep-18 07:42:28

I actually had a pretty good sleep. I think that the 1 hour sleep the previous night just meant that I was wiped out.
I slept 9pm until now. Was awake a few times but managed to get back to sleep.
I’m still devastated but feel a bit better equipped to deal with today with sleep under my belt.
Today’s aim is to eat.

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OnlyToWin Sun 09-Sep-18 09:31:05

Glad to hear you had some sleep. Be kind to yourself.
One day at a time. flowers

ChardonnaysPrettySister Sun 09-Sep-18 10:36:11

You something to do today, so that’s different from your usual routine.

Go into town? Cinema?
A long Netflix binge?

peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sun 09-Sep-18 10:53:10

Yeah we are going out today. Sorting out some new bits for dd’s bedroom. Hopefully that will keep my mind busy.

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peppapigkeepsthemquiet Sun 09-Sep-18 19:28:16

Evenings are definitely the worst aren’t they.
Been strong all day today and even managed to talk about him a bit and what we are going to do with his ashes when he comes back.
It’s when it’s all still and quiet and the kids are in bed that it hits 😔

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MrsMozart Sun 09-Sep-18 19:37:50

It's hard. Hits when least expected.

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