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My dog bit my child, not dogs fault.

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CollyWombles Sun 24-Jun-18 21:20:44

She is okay first off, cut her lip a little and just under her eye, gave her a terrible fright. She is 13 and for some unfathomable reason, blew on his ear.

My dog is a rescue. I got him when he was 10, he is now 13. He has never been a huge fan of the children, however he has never bit any of them. The children have all been brought up to be respectful towards dogs and respectful to him in the three years he has been with us. I cannot think why she took the notion to do that.

My stance is that he bit for a reason. It wasn't unprovoked. My husband however, wants my dog put to sleep. My daughter does not want the dog in the house.

I adore my dog, he isn't everyone's cup of tea, he had it rough and I think how he has come on is amazing. I don't think he deserves to lose his home, or his life for biting for a reason.

In the same breath, my children come before any dog and it feels like I can't win no matter what I do. I'm either a bad parent or a bad dog owner. Please help me work out what is the right thing to do for my dog and also for my family.

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peppaswig Sun 24-Jun-18 21:24:31

Your husband is right.

Your DD is lucky she wasn't more seriously injured. Are you really willing to take the risk of it happening again as well as letting her feel frightened in her own home?

PrincessoftheSea Sun 24-Jun-18 21:25:47

Your DH is right

FATEdestiny Sun 24-Jun-18 21:26:41

When did this happen?

Because the first thing I'd suggest is some time and space for everyone to calm down.

Decisions shouldn't be made based on raw emotion and everyone may think differently after a few days.

BertrandRussell Sun 24-Jun-18 21:27:44

Sorry. The dog needs to be put down.

CollyWombles Sun 24-Jun-18 21:28:26

Two hours ago. My husband has walked off to 'cool' off after he thought it appropriate to say he was having the family dog put to sleep in front of the children. I have three other dc and they don't want their dog put to sleep. I told my DH he was out of order saying anything like that in front of them so he stropped off.

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Unicornandbows Sun 24-Jun-18 21:28:30

That's so unfair on the dog poor dog!!

The dog was provoked please don't put him to sleep

bobstersmum Sun 24-Jun-18 21:28:35

I adore dogs, but this dog bit your child's face, I am trying to fathom why you aren't more thinking the same as your dh.. This could very easily have been a lot lot worse.

Kittykat93 Sun 24-Jun-18 21:28:53

Unfortunately due to your DD provoking your dog, he is now going to have to be put to sleep most probably. Difficult decision and I feel for you

Unicornandbows Sun 24-Jun-18 21:30:04

Can your older children take the dog? Is there way to cool the situation down

BertrandRussell Sun 24-Jun-18 21:30:27

You're back from A&E very quickly. What did they say about ongoing treatment of the bite?

Shmithecat Sun 24-Jun-18 21:30:44

A 13yo dog who has bitten is not likely to get rehomed very easily.. . But I know I'm going to be the only one who says that you should tell your dh to bugger off and tell your daughter that's a lesson learned - I'd be keeping the dog if I were you. It's incredibly unfair he could be destined to live out the rest of his days in a reduce centre or pts because your dd did something stupid.

lifechangesforever Sun 24-Jun-18 21:31:05

I agree with you OP, whilst I don't condone the dogs behaviour in ANY way, shape or form, he was reacting instinctively to a situation that he shouldn't have been in. Such a silly thing for your daughter to do. I do hope she's ok.

But, it is not an excuse to put a dog to sleep!!

I would recommend speaking to a dog behaviourist and seeing what they suggest. Maybe the dog will need to be rehomed in an adult only household but being put to sleep is just taking it too far. I'm surprised that so many people agree sad

peppaswig Sun 24-Jun-18 21:31:09

I told my DH he was out of order saying anything like that in front of them so he stropped off.

You're out of order trying to minimise the situation. Can you guarantee that nobody will ever provoke the dog ever again?

CollyWombles Sun 24-Jun-18 21:31:09

My dog bit her face, because she blew in his face. He didn't randomly stroll up to her and bite her. That's why I don't think the same as my husband. Dogs are dogs, they aren't humans. They have reactions to things they don't like and most dogs do not like being blown on in the face. He is a rescue and a terrier.

My feelings are that my daughter is 13, not 3. She is more than old enough to know better and not repeat such a thing in the future.

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Nandocushion Sun 24-Jun-18 21:31:57

You've kept a dog for three years that has never liked your children?

lifechangesforever Sun 24-Jun-18 21:32:15

Also, MN isn't the best place to ask about dogs.. everyone on here pretty much hates them.

chickedychicked Sun 24-Jun-18 21:32:47

I'm not a dog owner but I do understand how you feel about your dog. However nothing would come before my children and I wouldn't be willing to risk my child getting hurt worse in future.

LM1970 Sun 24-Jun-18 21:32:50

Sorry but your DD is old enough to realise. Why was she playing with him in the first place- surely you have told her to not play with him unsupervised because he can be anxious around children???

CollyWombles Sun 24-Jun-18 21:32:54

No peppaswig, I'm being realistic. My husband is entitled to his opinion, however he is not entitled to upset my children by telling them he is having their pet put to sleep before we had even discussed anything.

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BertrandRussell Sun 24-Jun-18 21:33:00

A family dog should not react to someone blowing in his face by biting..

Frequency Sun 24-Jun-18 21:33:01

I'm with the dog. I'd be mightily pissed off if someone blew in my ear without warning too.

Did you see it happen? If the dog was sleeping or in his safe space it is even more understandable. This isn't a dangerous dog, it's a misbehaving teenager who is unlikely to repeat her actions.

Get him checked out at the vet in case he is in pain. My dog has an ear infection atm. He snapped at me earlier when I was applying his drops. Atm, he snap at anyone touching or blowing on his ear so no-one is. Everyone knows he is pain and to give him space.

coolwalking Sun 24-Jun-18 21:33:17

Sorry if I have misunderstood, you keep referring to the dog as your dog rather than the family dog.
The dog being seen as not part of the family might be why they are quick to want the dog put down. Unfortunately I don't think you will win them over if the dog is yours and not everyone's. Is a really awful situation.

LM1970 Sun 24-Jun-18 21:34:22

Nando- I have two dogs that don’t like children. They don’t like humans other than a select few full stop.

That’s how we want them to be- seeing as they are security dogs.

CollyWombles Sun 24-Jun-18 21:35:00

My dog was right next to me when he did it, he was curled up next to my back.

Yes I've had a dog for three years that doesn't love my children but is happy to be around them, as long as they respect his space. As said he is a rescue and lots of preparation was done before he came home with us. He will play tug with them and he will let them stroke him or walk him, but he is not a lap dog or a cuddle dog.

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