DH playing with dog aggressively

[howtocope]

We have a two year old dachshund. DH often plays with him in what I consider to be an aggressive manner that encourages the dog to growl and bark. DH says it's how people play with dogs. I take care of the dog all day, we play ball and games. If the dog growls or barks I stop playing and over time he has learned that this behaviour is not acceptable with me and he doesn't do it. The problem is when DH is home.

When DH gets home he always makes a big fuss with the dog and gets him overexcited. I've explained that this overexcitement isn't good for the dog and sets an unpleasant precedent. Now when other people come to the house the dog goes nuts and is difficult to calm down. Also in the evenings and weekends the dog barks to the point that I worry about the neighbours. DH just says that dogs bark and I'm being ridiculous. My biggest concern is that over time the dog will become unpleasant and aggressive. One friend already won't bring her toddler around because the dog barks and tries to dominate him. My young niece is coming for a week this summer and I'm already thinking the dog will have to go to the kennel while they're here. Surely that shouldn't be necessary.

I don't know what to do. DH won't listen to me. Am I being unreasonable?

[Goingtobeawesome]

YANBU

Your dh needs to stop being an arse.

What would happen if you left him to watch the dog all day alone? Let him see the best way to care for him ?

[PollytheDolly]

He's overdoing it for sure.

Nothing wrong with play, my DH does with our boy but he keeps a lid on it if the dog gets too exhuberant. Our boy does not go on to be like this around others, ever. It's their "thing" only but needs to be controlled to be such.

Dogs do like play though, you watch them with other dogs.

[howtocope]

Is it unreasonable to think the dog can be trained to rarely bark indoors? I know he's going to bark sometimes but at the moment when DH is home it seems excessive. During the day he only barks if there's a cat in the garden or if someone knocks on the door, but stops quite quickly.

[RaveclawZia13]

The only thing I would say is if the dog is getting overexcited and getting too rough then stop play but don't teach them not to growl. A growl is a dogs warning and if they are taught that growling is wrong then if they are in a stressful situation they may bite without warning.

My dog growls when playing however she growls at her toys and plays rough with them. Her growls and barks are different when she's excited and happy and when she doesn't like something.

[PollytheDolly]

don't teach them not to growl. A growl is a dogs warning and if they are taught that growling is wrong then if they are in a stressful situation they may bite without warning.

Absolutely!!!

Growling is the dog voicing its opinion and warning. Take this away you are blind.

[PollytheDolly]

Is it unreasonable to think the dog can be trained to rarely bark indoors? I know he's going to bark sometimes but at the moment when DH is home it seems excessive. During the day he only barks if there's a cat in the garden or if someone knocks on the door, but stops quite quickly.

We allow our dog to bark in the house. But because we say "good boy" (he's doing his job) as soon as we say that he grunts "ok then" then sits back down. He's not being told off for being a dog. Sounds like your DH is winding him up a bit.

[Juveniledelinquent]

DH is wrong. If you can't persuade him take him to dog training classes.

[AnyFucker]

Your h sounds like a prick

[Sugarpiehoneyeye]

Tell him to stop being a fool, and grow up.
Also to be careful, Daschunds are prone to back injuries.

[BiteyShark]

Your DH is being an arse and if he won't listen to you can you get a dog trainer/expert round to explain all the issues he is and may cause?