Advise please(10 Posts)
I'm middle aged and have work shifts including nights all my working life. I'm also a dog owner, I have two happy well adjustedwell behaved dogs one is 13 one is 4 they are not a breed that requires lots of walking although they are walked a lot 5 miles a day. Working shifts mean that they are only left alone all day max once a week, On this day I have a dog walker/helpful neighbour who walks them/let's them out to do a pee etc.
But shifts are starting to catch up on me physically I'm physically worn out and Ive just been offered a research post starting September 2017, I've been offered similiar things before but I like shifts (and nothing has ever been that tempting) because I like being at home in the weekday/day time but now I've been offered my dream job and its time for a change, 9-5 Mon to Frid looks very very attractive.
But I worry about my dogs, they are used to having me around. Secondly my older dog is starting to look very old, he' definitely slowing down he sleeps all the time now and my younger dog will not live alone, he has always lived with another dog and frets terribly when he not there. My original plan had been to get a puppy late next summer after my holiday, my breed of choice is rare so I can't wait till the old dog dies as you often have to wait quite a while. Once the puppy was here I was going to work nights for 4-5 months to house train if etc.
So now I don't know what to do. I want this job very much but I don't want to upset my lovely dogs. I can get the dog walker/neighbour to help but it's not the same as me being here. Secondly I will obviously need to find another companion for my younger dog when the older one dies but should I do this before I change jobs to settle it into a routine? The older dog is very tolerant of other dogs so getting another one will not upset him as he's very chilled and very well socialised.
So will you be leaving dogs all day whilst you are at work? How long will the dog walker have them for? Not really ideal especially if you're having a new puppy. What rare breed are you looking for?
Could you use doggy daycare? Though not sure that would work with a pup.
Yes I would leave them all day. I can walk them before walk for 20-30 mins and when I get back. The dog walker walks them for 1 hour in the morning and my neighbour would let them out to do a pee at about 2-3pm. They could have permanent access to my completely secure safe and fenced back garden. I could look at doggy day care although I wouldn't want to do it everyday day it doesn't feel right. Meant to add job is research so linked to a uni so long holidays.
The clue is in the user name except there cardigans not Pembrokes, they are one of the KC!s rarest breeds, brilliant dogs, marvellous with children, they can take it or leave it when it comes to exercise although mine walk a lot because I like walking even the 13 year old. Both are happily stretched out in front of the fire at the moment. It's a good life being a dog!
I guess I could get a pup early next year and house train settld it in it etc whilst in the other job. Ideally I'd just had one dog but the younger one would be beside himself alone, I suspect the older one wouldn't be bothered, his other friend is a cat, who's has indenting issues, he can't decide if he's a cat or dog but the young dog knows from painful experience that cats are fickle unpredictable buggers.
Is there no option to do some of the hours from home?
So, you'll be at home all day every day for four months a year, and outside of that you'll be there two days out of seven - the rest of the time you'll walk them twice a day and someone will come in at lunchtime to give them some company and to let them out. They also have another dog for company and a garden they can roam freely in.
I think that is an acceptable situation - it might not be ideal, but what is in life?, I think it's good enough and you should take the job without feeling guilty.
Do you know anyone locally that would enjoy the company of the animals for some hours whilst you are out each day? Any elderly neighbours or rellies who might like it? If you walk each day anyway juat needing company
Also sounds like its not a great idea to keep getting more ddogs now your situation has changed. As not fair for them to be home alone all day. How far away is work surely you need to be on your way out of doors before 9 and not back till way after 5?
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