Getting rescue pup very soon - what do we need/any top tips?

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PonyoLovesHam Mon 15-Aug-16 14:07:46

Hi all. I have been reading through lots of threads on here to get some advice but decided to start my own as I have some questions...

So we are adopting an 8 month old terrier cross from a rescue centre. We will hopefully get him in the next few days grin
We have -
Crates x 2 (one for the car, one for home)
Nice dog bed
Lead
Harness
Dog bowl and water bowl
Toys

What else do we need please?! I'm not planning on locking him in the crate, more planning to have it as a space he can go to and be on his own if needed.
Is it best to get a bed to fit in the crate or just blankets?
The dog bed we have is lovely but too big for the crate (a really nice woman gave it to me when I bought her crate from her on gumtree).

He is very nervous, when we've walked him at the rescue he basically pulls on the lead back towards the kennels where the staff are, we didn't really walk him just tried to get him to have a sniff around the field!

How long does it take a dog to settle in? I know that's how long is a piece of string sort of question, just wanting other peppers experiences.

We have 5yo dd who has been told she has to let the dog come to her but I'm sure she'll have to be reminded confused

So any advice, help, suggestions would be welcome. I'll try and find a photo of himself...

PonyoLovesHam Mon 15-Aug-16 14:08:23

Here he is!

100milesanhour Mon 15-Aug-16 14:14:41

What a beautiful dog.

Our rescue dog settled in straight away. She came in and sniffed around the house and the went for a sleep on the floor. She had a huge dog bed but preferred the couch so we went with that.

You could buy a blanket to drape over the crate so that if the dog is feeling nervous, then the blanket shields them some more. I don't mean a huge blanket, just enough material to cover the top and drape down the sides ever so slightly.

Your dog is beautiful, I hope you have a wonderful life together x

PonyoLovesHam Mon 15-Aug-16 14:31:53

Ahh thank you 100!

That's so good to hear that your dog settled straight away. I think I'm worrying too much that he'll be unhappy or will take ages to settle in because he wanted to go back to the workers at the rescue!

I have a blanket I can put over the crate, good idea.

90daychallenger Mon 15-Aug-16 14:50:49

I read somewhere that a rescue dog takes, as a rough rule, three hours, three days, three weeks or three months to settle in.

One of our rescues took three hours. He was very dominant and confident. This wasn't a good thing!

The rescue we have now is a terrier. She was used as a breeding bitch on a puppy farm for two years, then in the rescue centre for a year. She was as nervous as hell when she came to us.

It took her about three months to settle in. We've had her about 6 months now. She still has her nervous moments with new places, new people, sudden noises, being touched or distrubed when she's not expecting it. However, she tends to jump or just run and hide for a bit when she gets nervous. She's never snapped or growled, there's not a bad bone in her body.

I'd say just give him the time and space he needs. Sorry to say but he might not prefer your house to the rescue centre for quite a while. You're a new human, it's a new house, it smells and looks new and weird, he doesn't know where things are, he doesn't know how things work. Of course he'd prefer to be somewhere where he knows what's going on.

But, be quiet and calm for the first few weeks or days. Don't go to him too much. Let him come to you. If you do naturally go to him like if you go into a room when he's there say hello in a sing song soft voice so he's reassured but don't crowd him. He will start coming to you once he knows you're a good human who's got the food.

I'd say a few short walks not far from home in the first week or so. This will get him used to walking with you confidently, introduce him to the new area but also means you can come home quickly if something bad happens like another dog having a go at him or a car scaring him. I usually start off with walks just up and down my street then gradually make the circle bigger over a couple of weeks or so. Once he knows the area and know that you'll look after him on a walk then you can start to venture out further. I'd also avoid noisy or 'trigger places'. For example, I don't walk my dog in front of houses that open directly on to the street in case someone opens their door suddenly and she gets scared.

I can't advise highly enough to get into a routine that works for you and stick with it, every day. Get up at the same time, walk for the same amount of time, feed him at the same time, play the same games at the same time. This, in my experience, has been the key thing that's settled rescues in. They feel more confident and in control when they know the routine, what's going to happen and what's expected from them.

Related to this, this sounds daft but find the language you're going to use and stick to it. For example, don't call a treat 'treat', 'chew, 'biscuit' and 'kibble'. Call it one name and stick with that name. Like the routine, he'll get to know what you're saying, what's happening and what's coming next and feel much more confident. He'll also then eventually be able to communicate with you better because he'll be able to indicate that you're on to what he wants when you say a particular word (if that makes sense).

If he's not house trained, lots of pads down for the first few weeks. Don't tell him off when he wees or poos in the house but lots and lots of fuss and tasty treats when he wees or poos outside or on walks.

90daychallenger Mon 15-Aug-16 14:52:51

He's gorgeous by the way and I can imagine him going the same way as our pooch- completely stubborn and dominant and demanding once she'd found her feet.

aginghippy Mon 15-Aug-16 15:29:11

My dog was very nervous when she came to us. She had been abandoned and was picked up off the street. I think it took her more than 3 months with us to calm down, but we could see her gradually becoming less nervous and more settled as time went by. I would echo what 90day says about routines.

Look into doing some training classes. We did them with ddog and they really helped.

PonyoLovesHam Mon 15-Aug-16 15:34:53

Thank you 90, some brilliant advice there. I will just have to he patient. The cute thing was that he was so loving with the girls who worked at the shelter, so I know he will be like that with us eventually!

I'll have to keep telling dd to be patient and calm with him too.

We have a friend with a dog a few doors down, do you think we should look at socialising within the first week or 2 or leave it longer?

So many things to think of! I will tell dh we need to get into a good routine smile

PonyoLovesHam Mon 15-Aug-16 15:35:51

Aging I will look up classes, thanks! When did you start classes with your dog? (How long has you had her for before you started classes I mean)

MajesticSeaFlapFlap Mon 15-Aug-16 15:40:11

Look at those ears!
He will hear the treat packets opening a mile away

RoseDog Mon 15-Aug-16 15:46:02

Gorgeous doggy, well done for rescuing!

Or dog settled in quite quickly, she is older though but it took her about 6 months before she seemed to feel comfortable and confident, something just changed her like her shoulders dropping and giving a big sigh of relief.

Re the food, find out what the rescue place is feeding him and get that, if you change to an expensive richer totally different food you may be cleaning up watery dog poo, introduce new food slowly.

Our dog likes a duvet with duvet cover and fleece blankets to sleep on rather than a dog bed and she hates the crate...we bought a dog bed and crate...both redundant, your dog will decide where he likes to sleep. If you don't want him on furniture or certain parts of the house you have to make that clear from the start!

If he is going to be a puller a head collar until he is better at being walked, but if you take him to classes or get a dog behaviourist to do some one to one they will help with walking him.

90daychallenger Mon 15-Aug-16 15:46:28

Pony I'd say give him a few weeks before training classes. Once you start to feel like he knows you and trusts you then get booked up. The issue is that training classes are a new place, with lots of new people and lots of new things going on. If he's nervous this might freak him out. If you took him when he still didn't know you very well that wouldn't be good for getting a bond with him if he did freak out. But, once he knows you love him and will protect him then give him a go with a training class. A lovely trainer by me is really understanding of rescues and she'll let you take a rescue dog for 10 minutes just to watch a few weeks running so that the dog gets use to the place and the people. If you find a class, ask if they'd be willing to let you do something like that.

Oh definitely socialising with other dogs is good. If he's good with other dogs, I'd give him about a week or so and then ask your neighbour if you could walk them together. Just a walk for the first few times so the dogs get to know each other. Then you could do doggy playdates every couple of weeks or so. It's really important that he gets to know the other dog before the other dog comes to your house though and I'd give it a few weeks before the other dog comes round. He needs time to establish that your home is his and having another come in too soon can be quite threatening. Also, he needs some time to get to know this other dog so that when this other dog comes on a playdate to your house, he knows the other dog is no threat.

90daychallenger Mon 15-Aug-16 15:49:32

Totally agree with Rose Our dog likes a duvet with duvet cover and fleece blankets to sleep on rather than a dog bed and she hates the crate...we bought a dog bed and crate...both redundant, your dog will decide where he likes to sleep. If you don't want him on furniture or certain parts of the house you have to make that clear from the start!

Definitely set boundaries early and stick to them. It feels mean to not let them on the sofa or not feed them if you're eating but it's better in the long run. Your DD has to stick to this as well though I can appreciate it's hard with a 5 year old!

Agree that he'll find his own spot to sleep in which may or may not be what you'd planned. My current dog's favourite toy is one of my old slippers. The thousands we spent on all sorts of toys for her we might as well set fire to, she only has eyes for the slipper grin

aginghippy Mon 15-Aug-16 15:51:11

We had her about a month and a half before we started the classes. That was partly down to scheduling, rather than just ddog's needs.

PonyoLovesHam Mon 15-Aug-16 16:00:05

Haha Majestic, I know! He reminds me of a fennec fox? 

Rose thank you 😊 a duvet is a good idea, we have an old one of dd's or I might buy a cheapo one. Think I'll get a fleece blanket too. 
That's lovely about your dog settling, even if it does take 6 months that's not too long in the grand scheme of things is it. 
We've asked the rescue what they're feeding (I can't remember what they said 😕) I'll ask what time they fed too. 
He had siblings in the rescue so I'm worried he'll miss his siblings too 😢 
A head collar is better than a harness? We have both at the moment. 

90 and aging, sounds good about training classes. I'll look some up. 
Our neighbour is lovely and very knowledgeable about dogs so I think it will be good to see her for walks. We don't really have other dogs to our house much so that should be ok...
I can imagine us spending loads on toys and none being favourites! 
I have plans for him to be all comfy in his dog bed/crate and I get he won't like either... 
We've said no sleeping on our bed (dh is adamant) but I don't mind if he's on the settee or not - does it matter? 

90daychallenger Mon 15-Aug-16 16:13:29

Pony I don't think it matters about the settee. Our current dog doesn't come on to the settee (she can't really jump) and, TBH, it is better. When you've got a dog snoozing on the settee it's hard to get comfortable as they seem to have a way to take up about 96% of all available space and I don't like moving them too much. Plus, no dog hairs on the settee. But, whatever works for you smile

PonyoLovesHam Mon 15-Aug-16 16:15:53

Hm ok... He does seem like he'd be a bit of a shedder hair wise!
He has a bit of a stinky kennels smell and dh is very keen to bath him - don't think we'll be doing that straight away though! grin
That's cute that your dog can't jump up, he only has little legs so maybe he'll be the same!

OrlandaFuriosa Mon 15-Aug-16 16:26:51

Decent stuff to clean your carpets, because there will be the occasional accident.

Have you booked an appointment with the vet to get him checked over? Pet insurance?

Def training treats.

You may need a training harness.

Toy to balls yo learn fetch, drop,

You tube for basic discipline even before puppy classes. Discipline for you as much as him...not to spoil him ( we failed).

Be prepared just to sit still, possibly on the floor, under the table, until he learns to come to you and that he can trust you.

A yellow ribbon to indicate to other dog walkers he is nervous, until he stops being so.

Lots and lots of calm love.

We got our nervy cowardly JRT at 5 months. He'd been bullied by mother and sister, esp sister, the little bitch...he's still a worry wort.

90daychallenger Mon 15-Aug-16 16:28:31

Pony Yeah, he looks like a JRT cross and they're a bugger for shedding.

I wouldn't recommend trying a bath for a very very very long time. If you think he needs to be bathed, I'd recommend sending him to the groomers after a couple of months rather than trying to do it yourself. Again, it's about building trust and not doing anything to break that trust (like bathing). You want him to learn what's happening, what's coming next, what he's expected to do and shoving him in the bath out of the blue after a few days isn't going to help at all. We've had our current rescue for about six months and we've never bathed her- she gets a haircut every three months and gets bathed then.

You shouldn't bath dogs at all unless they absolutely need it. Some breeds, like Yorkshire Terriers, need much more regular washing though because they have hair rather than fur. Regular shampooing them strips their natural oils and can cause all sorts of skin problems. Only bath the dog if it's rolled in something untoward and even then I'd recommend showering off and shampooing just the affected area rather than dousing the whole dog.

Having said that, your dog might love a bath. But wait some time to find this out. My friend's boxer loves a luke warm paddling pool in this weather and nearly fully submerges herself in it. She's weird!

ShipwreckedAndComatose Mon 15-Aug-16 16:33:31

Ahh, congratulations on rescuing, he looks lovely! We have had ours about 10 months and it took her quite a while to settle because, I guess, she had been on the streets/in a pound longer. She was very nervous and the last few months have seen her play for the first time and really begin to relax.

It can take a lot of patience and routine is important. But it is worth it!

OrlandaFuriosa Mon 15-Aug-16 16:36:28

Um, lead a terrier to a sofa and you will discover they don't have legs, they have springs... Same is true of a bed. And like small children they spread, 90% is an understatement.

They are demanding. Once he has settled, you need to give him enough to do. They are intelligent, feisty and v loving. But get bored easily. And you will then discover he wanted to know whether your cushions Were filled with the same stuff as your duvet and whether it was that which was causing your and his sneezes, what sort of scorpion was waiting in your slippers to bite you and had to be destroyed first, that the Vipers' nest didn't live in MN but in your papers and had to be exterminated, that there were evil rats beneath your roses... He will need company. And fir that company yo be grateful for his efforts and laugh, kindly, not at him ( they hate that) but with him.

Ours adores his antler to chew on. Much less messy than a bone. I fear he has buried it in the garden and I will be expected to know where...

PonyoLovesHam Mon 15-Aug-16 18:02:05

Orlando we have 4 weeks free insurance from the rescue, I didn't think he'd need a vet appt but I'll find out. Will look on YouTube later for training, good plan! All very useful, thanks 😊 where do you get an antler from? Just normal pet shop? Love your description of curious doggy 😄

90 right, no bath! I think just maybe some brushing and that should do? We have a dog groomers really nearby so I could always pop in there and ask. 

Thanks Shipwrecked, how old is your dog? Ours is from Romania originally then brought here. 

OrlandaFuriosa Mon 15-Aug-16 21:29:35

Normal pet shop.

Well, I give our JrT a bath if the flea stuff doesn't seem to be working, if he has rolled in fox poo or cat poo or cow poo or .. Poo, basically. Otherwise I groom him prob not enough. He's wire haired so in theory he doesn't moult so much. If that's the case then you should be able to stuff a sofa with the normal level...it's good for the compost and birds nests though.

Check which insurance is best. They will often want a vet check up anyway. Worth thinking about lifetime insurance.

They are lovely. Ours has given so much back. His heart overflows with love and greed. He adores DH, DS, and comes to cheer up anyone who is miserable by lying next to them or licking their feet.

It will take time, but it is so worth it.

EasyToEatTiger Mon 15-Aug-16 22:07:11

He looks lovely! Our dogs don't like being brushed. Try to make grooming fun [ahem]. You sound as though you've got things in place. As your new dog settles in you may find things that have affected him in the past. As he gains confidence these things crop up. With a good trainer you should be able to ride the waves. My mum kept terriers. They killed squeaky toys in a minute, loved tug games, and held on till the end!

PonyoLovesHam Tue 16-Aug-16 19:30:43

Update - he's here!! He seemed nervous driving back, ok sniffing round the garden but we had drag him into the house sad

He's had a good sniff, has had some food and water and lots of treats and is currently snoozing on the floor smile he has not gone in his crate :/ and put a toy in his bed but hasn't gone in it yet. I've encouraged him to come on the settee but he seems ok on the floor!

Still nervous, a bit jumpy, but ok. It'll be interesting to see what this evening brings.

I'll update again!

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