Advice pls

[Compromisetoofar]

We lost our dog a year ago, and my dh said if I wanted another dog he'd accept the dog in the house but all responsibility for it was mine. As that was the case with the last one I was more than happy to take that statement.

Now my problem - 12 months on I'm still without a dog, as anyone reputable won't rehome their puppy without meeting the whole family, rescues won't rehome without meeting the family.

Husband refuses to visit breeders etc keeps stating if I want a dog I have to be fully responsible for it and do it by myself. Which I 100% agree with, but I ask him to come with me sit there have a cup of tea and alls good.

Now we are at stalemate and I'm getting very upset by it and even considering leaving so I can tell breeders it's just me so that I can get a dog. He wouldn't care if a dog never crossed the threshold, so he's not bothered. I could get a dog from a less reputable source but I don't want to do that to the dog.

Anyone any ideas how I can move forward or am I now stuck?

[notarehearsal]

I have a friend who breeds and is considered reputable afaik. She wouldn't require the whole household to visit a puppy before purchase. When I've bought dogs I haven't had my whole family with me. If you still consider that bringing a dog into a home where one person isn't at all keen is the right thing to do, could you not just explain that your DH works away from home?

[Scone1nSixtySeconds]

compromise have an unMN hug from me. (())

I think that I would fib as well and say that DH works away for weeks at a time.

It is really tough though being solely responsible for a puppy. I had forgotten just how full on they are. My own low moment (with a disinterested dh) was popping to the loo and coming out to find the puppy had weed and pooed in that two minutes, three feet away from dh who hadn't looked up from the laptop.

[Compromisetoofar]

Oh scone I know what you mean with regards to the effort. Last dog very quickly learnt that dh was the one you went to for a cuddle on the sofa in the evening (as after about 9pm he sits still and doesn't keep getting up as he remember something that needs doing for the morning as I do!!) but don't even waste your time going to him to ask to be let out or give him your ball for it to be thrown.

I am willing to bring the dog into the house with an indifferent husband as he is just indifferent, no mistreatment or hatred just indifferent.

DH said you'll just have to find someone who doesn't need to see the whole family. I'm warming to him working away - wondering if I can actually get him to work away

[Scone1nSixtySeconds]

mine worked away for 2.5 years, coming home every three or four months for a couple of weeks. At the time I thought it was terribly lonely, now I realise how peaceful it was!

Now he just works away a couple of days at a time and it's bliss.

SconeSpaniel is very much my dog, as you'd expect. Dh says (with a tone of wonderment) "gosh, he really follows you everywhere!" I have been known to respond slightly sarcastically "I know! It's like he loves me or something..."

[Compromisetoofar]

love it that made me chuckle.

[ThatsNotMyRabbit]

That's a shame. My DH is pretty much uninterested in dogs but he knows they mean the world to me so he'll happily come along to meet my next puppy's breeder when the time comes.

If your DH absolutely won't he sounds rather mean.

[DogStuff]

Gosh, rehome the husband!

He sounds very stubborn not to just turn up for half an hour. No advice but good luck.