I'm having to tread very carefully with this, as dh is very touchy about it and feels he wasn't at fault, but I think it was down to user error. We have a 7 month old golden retriever puppy - overall he is a very easy puppy but we are still having issues at mealtimes (he is extremely foodie) and with recall when he sees another dog (his recall is otherwise excellent).
I am mainly responsible for walking and my tactic has been to only let him off lead where it is quiet - this is the case for most of our walks, as our house backs onto miles of quiet bridleways and footpaths - if we are on the green near our house/the park/somewhere where we are very likely to meet other dogs I either keep him on, or let him off but stay very vigilant and most of the time I spot other dogs before he does and get him back on the lead. I get him to sit and wait on lead, while the dog either comes to say hello or walks past. He is gradually getting better, but I do feel like we need to ride it out to an extent, and the greatest improvement will come with age and maturity.
Dh walks him on his own roughly once a week. His attitude is that the dog needs to learn not to approach every dog he meets and he lets him off more freely than I do. This tends to result in the dog running over to greet every dog he encounters with dh hopelessly recalling him. Last night dh let him off on the small green opposite our house, so that the dog 'could trot alongside him back to the house' - fair enough in theory, but the dog spotted a much smaller dog on the other side of the green and took off after it. The small dog was petrified of the huge golden retriever bounding towards him and ran away with our dog in pursuit. Luckily the small dog only lived around the corner and ran home and they didn't cross any roads, so both were retrieved safely and thankfully the owner of the small dog was ok. Our dog is big and playful, but very soppy and not remotely aggressive, but obviously the little dog didn't want to play and it and it was our fault that this happened.
Dh has come back with the attitude that it was the dog's fault for having no self control and not coming when called, rather than his fault for not having proper control of the dog. I think the opposite - we know that his recall is shit when other dogs are around, so we should behave defensively and not let him off in an area where we are likely to meet other dogs and definitely not right next to a road!! He is a puppy and still learning, I am working on it but it is taking time and dh is being a bit impatient imo.
I do wonder whether the dog is taking the piss out of dh a bit? I am his main walker/carer/handler - I have done 90% of the walking and all of the training (classes and lots of practice at home) and I feed him. He has never run off on my watch - I do take more care, but I wonder whether he sees me as a greater authority than dh? The care has naturally fallen to me as I am at home and also, really, I am the dog person - dh likes dogs, but this is his very first one, where as I have grown up with (much smaller!) dogs and have more experience.
I have got to the end of this and realised that there isn't a great deal of point to this post, but I needed a bit of a rant about it. I don't know whether I should just take 100% of the responsibility for walking - it is so much harder in the summer holidays!
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littlepeas · 07/08/2015 10:09
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