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Gave dog to Dog's trust but want her back - help

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Geoff0409 Fri 12-Dec-14 21:13:59


I am hoping someone can advise. We have had a puppy for a week but today I took her to the Dog's trust as my Wife and DD were having a bit of an allergic reaction. I honestly thought I was doing the best thing. Lo and behold everyone is far more upset than imagined and 2 things have now come to light. A colleague has offered to help us with meeting up with an allergy specialist and in a move that I couldn't believe, my Nan has said that if I had told her then she would have had the puppy. I am so surprised at this but my Mum (Nan's only child) died nearly 4 months ago and maybe the companionship would do her good.

Does anyone know if I can exlain this to the Dogs trust and see if I can get the puppy back? I hate wasting their time and they were so lovely. I am due to go there tomorrow with some of puppy's toys so they will know me. The offer from my Nan was so unexpected that it has caught me off guard. Plus DD and DS are so devestated it is unreal.

Anyone who can help or advise it would be much appreciated.

Thanks xx

PartyFops Fri 12-Dec-14 22:57:51

I think an honest explanation and a generous donation is in order.

But please only take it back if it's the right thing.

Kundry Fri 12-Dec-14 23:01:01

An allergy specialist will advise you not to have the dog. Honestly there is no treatment that will stop your wife and daughter being allergic. As a doctor, watching children being hospitalised repeatedly because no-one has the heart to have the family pet rehomed makes you want to pick the parents up and shake them.

You did the right thing the first time round.

LoathsomeDrab Fri 12-Dec-14 23:05:46

I can't help with regards to allergies but where did you get the puppy from?

If she was from a decent breeder then you should really let them know, I'm sure they'll want to try and get the pup if you are unable to have her. Is there any reason you didn't return the pup to her breeder rather than giving her to the DT?

I think all you can do is go in tomorrow and try and explain the situation but regardless of what they say I think the breeder, unless they were a puppy farm or dreadful BYB, should know where the pup is.

Geoff0409 Fri 12-Dec-14 23:25:33


Thanks for your replies. We are now sure that the allergic reaction has been from a new cleaning product we have been using. I just don't believe things sometimes. I am going to look an absolute enormous idiot of a doughnut explaining this now. Oh well we live and learn blush .

To be honest the biggest surprise was my Nan. She was crying and everything.

I will ring them in the morning and explain the situation and that I am a f*ckwit and see what they say and if they can help. I gave them a good donation today and will happily oblige again to get everyone happy.

I will let post as to how I get on. Fingers crossed and hoping for the best.

neepsandtatties Sat 13-Dec-14 08:32:54

I expect (and would hope) that if you have handed the puppy over to Dog's Trust, they will let you have him/her back, but only if you meet their usual rehoming criteria (re. ages of children, working patterns, home-check, height of fences etc). Good luck!

Toughasoldboots Sat 13-Dec-14 08:36:02

I feel that they should treat you as they would any new adopter (obviously with priority).

It all feels very rushed and not well researched and I think that you should think hard about whether it's right for you to have a dog.

dalmatianmad Sun 14-Dec-14 21:36:17

You had a puppy for 1 whole week and sent it to a rescue centre? Your wife has an allergy to a cleaning product?

What on earth is wrong with you?
Did a my thought go into buying that poor puppy in the first place?
Leave the poor little mite there and let them find it a PROPER home.

Buttholelane Sun 14-Dec-14 23:20:45

Bit harsh!
I am sure when they bought the pup they weren't expecting some members of the family to come out in rashes or breathing difficulties or whatever happened.

neepsandtatties Mon 15-Dec-14 13:07:19

Possibly a bit harsh, but if the OP was asked in a home-check "What would you do if you had a puppy for a week and your wife had 'a bit of an allergic reaction', I don't think Dog's Trust would approve him if he replied "I would immediately take it to a rescue centre, without discussing it with my wife or children, and without getting a medical opinion on the cause of the allergy, nor seeing if there were ways to work around it"

Toughasoldboots Mon 15-Dec-14 13:15:22

Indeed neeps.

CalamityKate1 Mon 15-Dec-14 13:38:27

Can you make a bit more sure that the allergies aren't caused by dogs? Do you have any friends with dogs? Possibly visit the rescue centre and have a good old snuggle with lots of hairy dogs to see if anyone starts itching/sneezing?

Also, are you sure the nan is up to all the exercise/training/socialising etc involved in having a pup? You don't say how old she is or what her health/mobility is like...

dalmatianmad Mon 15-Dec-14 20:53:27

Sorry but I don't think it's harsh!

Too many people get a puppy with no thought and get rid at the first hurdle.
Makes me bloody angry!fangry

Buttholelane Mon 15-Dec-14 22:54:49

But they didn't get it with no thought, they got it imagining it would be a much loved family member.

It was there a week and they believed they were allergic to it, rehoming an animal due to an allergy isn't getting rid at the first hurdle.
An allergy isn't going to go away, you can 'treat' it with antihistamines but it's not healthy exposing yourself constantly, depending on the severity an allergy can be fatal.
If you are genuinely allergic to something, then that item has to go.

I could understand if it was something like 'it barks too much', 'too lively', 'sheds too much' etc but I think people are being unnecessarily harsh here.

Haffdonga Mon 15-Dec-14 23:01:26

Really hmm

Buttholelane Tue 16-Dec-14 08:13:32

Yes really.
An allergy is a serious thing, like a previous poster said, any allergy specialist would strongly advise avoiding contact with the allergen.
If the op genuinely thought his wife and kids were allergic then the dog had to go.

treaclesoda Tue 16-Dec-14 08:24:26

I never post on the doghouse topic but this came up in active conversations and is it just me that is cynical that the OP posted that his wife and children were having a bit of an allergic reaction, so the dog went. And then two hours later, it is an absolute certainty that it was actually a cleaning product?

I'm with neeps and dalmation, if someone gets a puppy then gets rid of it on a whim without bothering to check if it actually was the cause of the allergies, then why on earth would the Dogs Trust let them have it back? What happens if next week they have stopped using the cleaning product and decide that it was the dog after all? And if the family aren't allergic to it after all, why would the dog have to go and live and nan's house anyway? And wouldn't they still be allergic to it when they go to visit? So how would nan having the dog stop the kids being upset, if every time they go to visit the dog has to stay away from them? None of this makes sense.

bluebirdonmyshoulder Tue 16-Dec-14 10:33:31

It doesn't sound as if you're the right sort of family to have a dog. You should let the breeder know what you did though. Please leave the puppy there, he / she should be snapped up soon by someone more able to provide the lifelong commitment that a dog deserves.

dalmatianmad Tue 16-Dec-14 10:36:30

Exactly **treacle
Some people cast aside their pets without any thought.
If we were seriously considering re homing one of our pets (which I can't imagine ever happening) then it would be a family discussion and everyone would have to be in absolute agreement.
If I came home tomorrow and our puppy had gone because dh had made a snap decision I think we would separate.
I really hope DT refuse to give the puppy back angry

Haffdonga Tue 16-Dec-14 17:53:32

Butholelane I wasn't questioning you with my misplaced really. I understand how very serious allergies can be.

No, I was questioning the OP's first acquiring a dog, then deciding his family was allergic, then getting rid of the dog without consulting his family, then being surprised they were upset and that his nan would have taken the dog - all within a week. Surely some basic communication would have resolved this.

And then realising the family were actually allergic to some household product - all in the space of a two and a half hours between first and second post.

Questioning, in that there seems to be more or less to this story than is actually being presented here.

JulyKit Tue 16-Dec-14 18:01:00

Hmm... I'm with dalmation and neeps and Haffdonga here.
(Just sayin', in case that help you, Geoff hmm )

Floggingmolly Tue 16-Dec-14 18:04:43

Bet they won't give it back. Best they don't, actually hmm

MeMyselfAnd1 Tue 16-Dec-14 18:11:47

One week and you took the Dogs Trust? Leave him there, he is better where he is. Having said that, I don't expect that a puppy will be there for long.

buttercupbear Tue 16-Dec-14 18:20:06

You are the exact people who should not have pets. What the hell is wrong with you. Leave that poor dog there and let someone give it a real home, makes me sick.

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