He comes home tomorrow aged exactly 8 weeks. We have a crate for him in the utility room downstairs where ultimately he will sleep, but I am thinking it is a bit harsh to expect him to settle downstairs on his own after only just being taken from his mum and litter mates and everything familiar, and plonked into a new environment? If I was to put him in our room would this be a no -no? I am not anticipating that he will sleep up there long term - perhaps just the first few days?
Yes put him in your room. We put our pup in our room in a large cardboard box - it also meant I could hear him when he needed out in the night. Ours does still sleep in our room - we're quite happy with this - but you will be able to move him downstairs after a few weeks.
Could you sleep downstairs near the pup for the first few nights? At least then she is getting used to her new sleeping area. I did this with our eight week old. The first two nights she cried occasionally but I would shoosh her. Since then she has been fine. After four days she was dry all night too and I moved back upstairs to bed.
I slept on the kitchen floor for the first few days. Be wary of the "direction of flow" of dogs which is thus: outside-> inside downstairs-> upstairs-> at the foot of your bed -> on your bed-> in your bed You can arrest the flow but it is very hard to reverse the direction of flow (in fact I have never seen it happen, except in dogs that were so old and senile that they didn't really know where they were and didn't mind sleeping in the kitchen for the last couple of years)
Ha ha noddingoff - ain't that the truth. We already have a dog - an 8 year old. She has always slept downstairs but with the demise of our other dog we felt sorry for her, believed her to be 'lonely' and she ingratiated herself upstairs on our bed for just a few nights. It's take a good while to undo that and get her back downstairs again!
When we brought our pup home she slept in a crate the first night. But the crying was unbearable! So she ended up in our bedroom by the second night. After a couple of weeks she was able to jump onto the bed, so after a week or so of putting her back on the floor we eventually let her stay up. Now she sleeps under the covers!! I wouldn't have it any other way (she gives the best morning cuddles).
If you do decide to crate her, we didn't realise this at the time but you are supposed to put a sheet over the crate to make it a den.