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Missing my little dog :-(

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BookwormBetty · 14/04/2013 23:51

We've just rehomed our 11mth old puppy, feeling so sad about it just wanted to share.....

She is a lovely little dog and we love her to bits but she was so lonely as we have 3 ds under 5 and dh working away, I was struggling to take her out every day and she was getting next to no attention until dc's had gone to bed. But we really regretting it now as we r missing her terribly. Dc's not so much as me and dh, which makes me think we done right thing but still so upset.

We know she has gone to a good home with another little dog like her and a lovely couple that are at home a lot. Still hurts tho :-(

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MrsWolowitz · 14/04/2013 23:54

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BookwormBetty · 15/04/2013 00:00

Thanks mrsw, it is the hardest thing I've ever hard to do. Yes know she will be happy. We want to visit her - do u think its ok to ask or should we wait to be invited? We wrote them a letter and they have our e-mail so hoping for some contact (fx)

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BookwormBetty · 15/04/2013 13:09

We want her back. R we mad to ask - will they give her back to us?? Should they?? I'm not sure whEre we stand

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1MitchellMum · 15/04/2013 14:13

I'm not sure where you stand legally - it depends on how you went about rehoming. But imagine how you'd feel in the new family's position? Usually when rescues rehome they don't usually allow contact between old and new owners - precisely for the reason outlined above. Think long and hard before you broach the subject - are you going to make more time for her IF they give her back to you? Tough one ...

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BeerTricksPotter · 15/04/2013 14:18

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Booboostoo · 15/04/2013 14:31

I appreciate you are very sad but unless things have changed dramatically you did the right thing in rehoming her and you shouldn't upset her and her new family by asking her back. Do what is best for her but tough for you and let het go.

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Imsosorryalan · 15/04/2013 15:52

Is a hard decision to make, but I think you've done the right thing. Is probably best to leave her to get on with it.

I don't actually think you can take her back now. The new owners will have bought things for her and are getting to know her. Also, what good would it do? You'd still be busy and the dog would still be lonely.
I'd leave her where she is ad maybe ask to visit in a few months time.

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milkybarsrus · 16/04/2013 11:16

Is the dog anywhere near where you live? can you offer dog walking? dog sitting? dog boarding for him? the new owners may well be happy to share the dog at such times, they would know you love and care for him but just can't do it full time. That way you still get to see him but without the full time commitment that a dog needs. I would have loved that arrangement if my puppies owners had offered it, so why not ask. Hope you can get something sorted with your dog, but if not, there are many people out there that would like someone to dog walk etc.

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milkybarsrus · 16/04/2013 11:16

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milkybarsrus · 16/04/2013 11:17

oops sorry for double post!

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Callisto · 16/04/2013 13:05

I think you need to forget the dog. It would be extremely unfair on her for you to show up. She needs to know that she is secure in her new home and not likely to be shoved from pillar to post. If you show up again it may well stress her out.

TBH, if I was her new owner I would be very about you wanting her back and I wouldn't even consider it. You're obviously not in a position to care for an animal. It's not very responsible to get a dog when you have such a chaotic lifestyle, and I really hope the people you gave her to are what they seem.

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kitsmummy · 16/04/2013 13:22

You were obviously not good owners then and you won't be good owners now. Let her stay somewhere she might have a chance of a decent life.

Animals are not something to be picked up and got rid of and then claimed back on a whim, this makes me soooooooo angry.

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MrsWolowitz · 16/04/2013 16:27

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kitsmummy · 16/04/2013 17:34

You think that's harsh? I positively bit back what I really wanted to say

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BookwormBetty · 16/04/2013 23:18

Just let it go if u need to kits - when I posted I was prepared for small minded people to make comments such as yours.

Thanks to everyone else (especially mrsw) who posted kind and supportive posts. We are just trying to adjust to life without her now, and we know it will take time but ultimately she is much more happier where she is.

Yes it was foolish to get a puppy at the time in our lives when we did but hindsight is a wonderful thing and if we knew she would be unhappy with us then we wouldn't be in this position now. Better to have loved than lost than never to have loved at all.

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Callisto · 17/04/2013 08:24

I think Kits was remarkably restrained. And OP, you do yourself no favours by calling Kits (and probably me) small minded because we are concerned about the animal you so easily cast aside. I would love to believe she has gone to a good home, the responsible thing would have been to take her to a rescue who can properly vet prospective owners, not passing her on the the first person to express an interest.

But then the responsible thing would have been to decide against getting a puppy when you quite obviously wouldn't be able to cope. Hindsight is marvellous, but I prefer good old fashioned research and thought before I make a decision like this. It means that I don't potentially fuck an animals chances of a decent life. You might like to try it next time. Oh and try and restrain yourself from getting another dog. I don't really think you understand the commitment involved.

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BookwormBetty · 17/04/2013 12:11

What makes you think it was easy? How do you know we weren't responsible to look for an appropriate rehoming organisation?

She will have a decent life now and that's what matters. Who knows where she would have gone if not to us in the first place. We like to think she came to us as a pathway to her new family. She was loved by us and always will be.

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Callisto · 17/04/2013 12:35

"We like to think she came to us as a pathway to her new family."

No, you bought her on a whim, decided you couldn't be arsed any more and dumped her on the first person who happened along. Don't sugar coat what you did and be honest with yourself about your motivations.