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WhatAGoat Thu 17-Jan-13 21:44:15

Argh just a mad rant

An acquaintance of mine found out she was pregnant. She then decided to get a puppy.

Now the baby is born and the puppy has grown she is saying its too big and she hasn't got the time for it hmm

She is sending the poor thing to the dogs home. Why bother getting one in the first place you knew it was going to grow! You knew it was going to need time!

I got my beloved boy 9 years ago a rescue that somebody no longer wanted. I couldn't imagine sending him away because he took too much times.

I feel so sad. I would take the poor buggar if my boy wasn't such an antisocial brat blush

Sorry but dp wasn't listening to me

atacareercrossroads Sun 20-Jan-13 15:40:32

A good, now ex, friend of mine did the pregnant comment thing, "but you've got an sbt, you cant have one if those with a baby" confused

That coupled with her reluctance to visit me because of said snarling beast even though I said id put her in another room signalled the end of our friendship. Why would I stay mates with a dickhead?!

ratbagcatbag Sun 20-Jan-13 15:31:23

Agree with poster regarding comments once pregnant, several people have already suggested that with my cat, the best being well. She was only a stray. FFS she was a stray four years ago, she's now a much loved pet and is going nowhere. We will keep cat away from Moses basket d nursery but that's it. smile

atacareercrossroads Sun 20-Jan-13 15:25:50

She wouldn't be a friend of mine anymore and id be telling her exactly why. Dogs home? Will be dead by the end of the month. Selfish disgusting person angry

rubyrubyruby Sun 20-Jan-13 15:22:02

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

D0oinMeCleanin Sun 20-Jan-13 13:14:54

I find the best way to have coordinating pets is to have a large variety of colors, breeds and species, that way at least one of them will match each room grin

MagratGarlik Sat 19-Jan-13 23:44:15

Our whippy was in the RSPCA at 12 months old because his owners had a baby angry. Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but usually pregnancies take 9 months and pups shouldn't leave mum much before 8 weeks. So, in the case of whippy, when they got him, they knew they were having a baby and still thought, oh yes lets get a cutsey little puppy too. Morons.

Their loss, our gain. He is fab, but should never have been left in those kennels.

Willowisp Sat 19-Jan-13 14:45:00

I think some people have some sort of running list that they must tick off - move in with partner - tick, get a cat - tick, get married - tick, have kids - tick, get a dog - tick. I hate them

my (beautiful) cat was a relationship/marriage break up, she went into the rescue with the other cat (now sadly dead) for 7 days & then on the 8th day their 'owner' decided to call & claim them back. The rescue wouldn't let her have them (they said because she made no contact at all in that week) & rehomed them to me.

My lovely dog is also a victim of a marriage breakup, they couldn't be bothered with her & because she went back to the original fosterer, we understand she didn't have a very nice life at all...We love her dearly [love love]

LtEveDallas Sat 19-Jan-13 07:28:10

Not black and red apparently Ruby.

(another friend took the dog on, luckily she'd decorated in browns and creams huh)

rubyrubyruby Fri 18-Jan-13 22:24:44

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WhatAGoat Fri 18-Jan-13 18:00:42


If that wasn't so nasty it would be funny. People are all mental

WhatAGoat Fri 18-Jan-13 17:59:43

Greyhounds are so lovely. I would definitely consider getting one in the future. I was asked millions of times because my dog is such a handful. I just looked at them like that confused

I asked her if she couldn't hold out for the dogs trust because they wouldn't put it down. She said she needed it gone now. I was like at the risk of it being pts? She said they don't do that.

I know for a fact they do do it but didn't want to argue. Suppose it's her dog her choice her conscious sad

LtEveDallas Fri 18-Jan-13 17:56:04

My friend runs a cat rescue in my area, on occasion she takes in dogs. She actually had a woman turn up once with a gorgeous Weimeramer (sp?) and a Siamese cat that she wanted to rehome because:
She had decorated and they no longer "fitted in her colour scheme"

...some people <<shakes head>>

Arseface Fri 18-Jan-13 17:50:49

DH persuaded me to get another greyhound to keep our old girl company distract me from having more children
I'm now expecting twins and have been quite shocked at the amount of people who just assume we will be getting rid of the dog.
Very upsetting, but there are an awful lot of people who think the way your friend does.
I'd be fuming too OP. Have you said anything to her?

GrimmaTheNome Fri 18-Jan-13 17:35:03

Little, there's a world of difference between your situation and the OP's aquaintance. You were presented with a sudden choice and you did your best for that poor pup (she might not have had a life at all without you) and rehomed her responsibly.

WhatAGoat Fri 18-Jan-13 17:18:27

Little there is no reason to worry you work hard and tried your best. You didn't just give up. It's very obvious you still feel guilt and you shouldn't. It went to a better home

This dog is unlikely to get a home and she knows this

permaquandry Fri 18-Jan-13 11:05:09

Bring back dogs licenses. Make all breeding illegal unless council (or RSPCA) approved?

Make it only possible for dogs to breed once every 2 years?

My ideas may be pie in the sky or have many good reasons to not implement.

My puppy is much harder work than I expected, am spending more money on her than I imagined and in hindsight I think it would have been better to wait til summer to get a pup, HOWEVER, I love her dearly and feel a huge sense of responsibility towards her. The only reason I would ever give her up (which would be back to the breeder, as agreed) would be if she was aggressive with kids.

littlewhitebag Fri 18-Jan-13 10:51:22

I am probably going to regret posting this but i feel the need to confess my sins.
My DH and i took on a German Shepherd pup when a friend of mine found it tied up in a sack in the river. This was around 1987 and we were not long married. My DH had loads of reservations but we took it anyway. It was a fearful anxious dog but we trained it as best we could, loved it and cared for it.
We had our first DD in 1990 and we still managed with the dog even though we lived in a small house and could never leave the dog around the baby as she could be snappy. Then in 1992 i became pregnant with DD2. I was already struggling to manage the pushchair and a large dog plus she was becoming increasingly unreliable around people so we made the difficult decision to rehome her. It almost broke my heart but she was placed with people who could give her the home she needed. In retrospect we should never have taken her on.
We now have a lab pup but it has taken us this long to get another dog so we could make sure we could give her the care and life she deserves.
Don't shoot me down - i just wanted to say that sometimes our hearts rule our heads and we make mistakes.

WhatAGoat Fri 18-Jan-13 10:36:48

I'm not like a mentalist I understand that sometimes people have to rehome if they can't feed the dog or they have a serious illness but this girl knew the dog would grow and it would need time that's what upsets me. It's not an unforeseen circumstance it was obviously going to happen.

That poor dog is just another number hmm

GrimmaTheNome Fri 18-Jan-13 10:26:19

>And marriage is for life also of course.
Not an apt analogy - marriage is between two consenting adults. If you take on a dog, its totally dependent on you - you assume full responsibility for it. In extenuating circumstances that may include finding it a new home - that's very different from people who find (too often entirely predictably with a little thought) that the dog is inconvenient so they dump the problem on the rescue (or worse).

Cuebill Fri 18-Jan-13 10:23:23

We have a dog in rescue whose owner is going through chemo - however we are 98% full of dogs that are in rescue through circumstances that could have been avoided.

Ruby what a ridiculous comparison confused

D0oinMeCleanin Fri 18-Jan-13 10:21:48

You can't 'officially' have your dog in foster, as in the rescue will not pay for food and vet care, but if they have a fosterer with space they'll help provide a home with an assessed fosterer for you but you still need to provide food.

We'd rather help for a short time and have the dog go back to a loving home than to need to start paying for and looking for another home for yet another dog.

I've been amazed at this lady's courage and love for her dogs. I can't begin to imagine what it would be like to suddenly find yourself with no home, yet she has and is still concerned with her dogs welfare smile

I also learned that some BnBs help homeless people via SS and will welcome dogs, so that could be worth looking into too.

Wolfiefan Fri 18-Jan-13 10:21:06

Where is your friend? Can someone else walk the dog for a bit?

DOoin, I didn't know you could do that. That's really useful. I thought you either surrendered your dog to a rescue or didn't, I didn't know they could help temporarily. I have a friend who might struggle to find rented accomodation in a hurry with her dog, and she's been so upset at the prospect of giving him up. I'll look in to this for her. She'd be over the moon.

rubyrubyruby Fri 18-Jan-13 09:42:20

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

D0oinMeCleanin Fri 18-Jan-13 09:29:03

However, circumstances do change and I don't entirely go for this 'a dog is for life' thang. Some people have no choice

I am currently involved in a case where a lady and her two dogs were suddenly made homeless. She could have taken her dogs to the local pound/had them pts/sold them on gumtree. She didn't. She logged onto a local rescue and asked for help.

By that night she had a secure foster placement for her dogs and help from a housing and legal expert who is also involved in rescue and I've been told she should be sorted in a few days, with some temp accommodation that will take her and her dogs.

There is always choice and always people willing to step up and help if you ask for it.

A dog is for life. End of sentence.

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