Don't know whether I should post this in AIBU or Relationships but in the end thought advice from those with the dog's interests at heart would be best.
We have an ancient labrador (15.5) who is showing signs of age. He suffers with a skin condition and is covered in open sores which are treated and heal individually but then start somewhere else. He also has bad arthritis which means his mobility is impaired. He doesn't go out for walks any more but on a warmer nicer day he will go for a stroll around the garden (it is large). He is still quite interested in life and is very keen on eating still. (He is a lab). Despite having a lovely kennel outside, he has moved indoors since before last winter to help him a bit. He now lives in my kitchen.
Whilst the above on their own would be manageable, in the last week he has
-peed on the sofa when the cleaner left the kitchen door open
-peed on the carpet without asking to go out
-pooed on the floor four or five times.
My DH is a farmer and so works very long hours. Therefore it is left to me to clean up after him. I would leave it to DH but we have two young DCs and I don't think its healthy to leave it lying around. I think that in view of his assorted problems, reduced quality of life, but particularly because of the soiling, that "the time" has now come for the vet to come on the final visit. The dog and my DH were together before he met me and TBH I have never quite known who he (DH) loves more. I have tried to bring this up delicately, then lost my temper, then tried discussion, but at every step I am being stonewalled by DH. He just hangs up the phone or has even said that what I think doesn't matter because it is his dog. He has also said that its my fault because I'm not letting him out quick enough or making sure that he does something when he is out. I think that if his dog is old and he wants to keep him then he should be the one making the effort to look after him according to his needs.
Sorry for the long post; does anyone have any suggestions as to how to resolve the impasse?
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Ladyflip · 16/12/2012 09:03
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