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izzywillynilly Thu 25-Oct-12 18:58:31

This is just my rant about how hard it is to rescue a dog, having been searching and applying to different rescue centres for months!

After finding a dog we liked, we applied to the rescue centre, arranged a homecheck, successfully completed the homecheck, to be told that dog has already been adopted. We enquired about a further dog, to be told that has also been adopted. I ask if they could suggest dogs that may be suitable, and then get no further response.

We go to the dogs trust, to be told that there are no dogs that meet our requirements.

I apply to another rescue centre, fill out pre-adoption questionnaires, talk on the phone to them for about an hour, about what we are looking for, they then do another homecheck. They then decide we are not suitable, as they don?t rehome to families with children under the age of 8. Now we don?t actually have any children under the age of 8, however since I mentioned that we may decide in a few years that we may choose to have a baby, (all just a vague possibility) this means we are therefore unsuitable.

I then contact another rescue centre, fill out yet another pre-adoption questionnaire, talk to them for ages, they say they will arrange a homecheck, although just don?t bother. Several follow up emails and phone conversations, and they say they are still waiting to arrange it, and since they rely on volunteers it can take a while (this was 10 weeks ago)

So I contact another rescue centre. Fill out another pre-adoption questionnaire, talk to the rehoming advisor about suitable dogs, have conversations with the fostering advisor, they talk to me about this fantastic dog, that we visit, love, they arrange a homecheck, although before they do it, that dog has also been adopted, and therefore they cancel the homecheck
This goes on. I have contacted six different rescue centres, had 4 homechecks (and passed 3 of them) and they have all said we are fine to adopt one of their dogs. Yet when I actually enquire about any, I don?t get a response, or they say the dogs aren?t suitable, but when I ask them to suggest dogs that are, I also don?t get a response.

All we are looking for is a dog that is good with people, and other dogs. We are not specific on age, sex, colour, breed, previous training, we don?t have cats, we don?t need to leave the dog for a working day. I just don?t get why it is all so hard. We want to provide a rescue dog with a loving home, yet none of the rescue centres appear to want to actually rehome any of the dogs, and everytime I feel we are getting somewhere, nobody ever responds to the emails. This has been going on now for months, and I?m just fed up with it. I really don?t want a puppy, don?t want to just go and buy a puppy, but it is so tempting, because all of this is exhausting, and I am fed up with it
Why do they make adopting a dog so hard?
(and this is really long - sorry, i just really needed a rant, because pretty much everybody i know, is just fed up with hearing about it!)

D0oinMeCleanin Thu 25-Oct-12 19:06:08

I know you already know this but rescues are very busy and rely on volunteers who have to fit in rescue work around paid employment in most cases so you do need to be patient.

Also they have to be careful which dogs go to which families because they need to make sure the right dogs are with the right homes.

Have you tried any of the bigger rescues like MTAR? Or Doris Banham?

Don't give up. All the waiting will be worth it in the end.

rachmultiplemum Thu 25-Oct-12 19:32:40

Rescues are all very very busy at the moment and very reliant on volunteers.

Drop me a message about you and what you are looking for and i will see if i can help x

Aquelven Thu 25-Oct-12 20:51:14

Have you thought of contacting the breed club secretaries of any breeds that you like? Many breeds run their own rescue schemes completely separate from the well known rescue centres. The dogs aren't held in centres but are taken in by breeders or club members while waiting to be found new homes.

Most breeders take back their own puppies if something happens within the family who bought them & try to find new homes. I've done this in the past, it's usually if an elderly owner has died or there's been a divorce.
Then again you can often get an older puppy that a breeder has kept intending to show but has turned out not to be show quality, so is willing to let go a bit more cheaply to a good home as a pet, usually without papers.It can be something as trivial as growing a bit too big, the colour not quite standard, teeth a bit crooked.

If you want to try this route, all the contact numbers for the different breed clubs are available on the Kennel Club website.

LadyTurmoil Thu 25-Oct-12 21:10:05

It must be very frustrating for you. Have you looked at www.manytears.co.uk? On another thread in the Doghouse, someone pointed the person posting in the direction of Many Tears, they found a dog on the site they liked, had a phone interview and have been accepted, all within a week or so! They have to travel to Wales to visit the dog but it's only something you'd have to do once. MT are more considerate about young children in the family (if that's ever applicable!) If you're willing to think about adopting from rescues abroad, you could try www.streetdogrescue.com/ or www.romaniaanimalaid.co.uk/ Also sos-animals.org.uk/ and The Mayflower Sanctuary or Dog Watch UK. You can find them all on Facebook. They seem very dedicated and committed, have homecheckers in England (or they might accept a homecheck from one of the other rescues). It costs from £250 including transport from the countries and vaccinations etc. They have some lovely dogs on their websites, all shapes, sizes and ages but sometimes the FB pages are more up to date. Hope this is helpful! smile

LadyTurmoil Thu 25-Oct-12 21:13:53

Sorry, meant to add that The Mayflower Sanctuary work with a rescue in Cyprus so sometimes have dogs from there as well as "local" rescues and Dog Watch UK have dogs from Spain. Just read your thread again, it REALLY is frustrating that you haven't had any luck. I know rescues rely on volunteers but, when they know how easy it is to pick up a pup from the less honest/caring breeders, they're not really helping the cause... apologies to those on here who work in rescues, I know a lot of you do, but it must put off a lot of potential owners when they get the run-around like this?

Scuttlebutter Thu 25-Oct-12 21:25:37

OP, I'm sorry you've had this experience. sad

If you'll forgive the pun, it's one of my pet hates, along with absolutely terrible websites that some rescues have.

A rescue should be able to walk you through the adoption process, maintain at least basic communication and there's no reason why, once homechecked, you shouldn't be on a list to await a suitable dog.

Even though many of us are volunteers, we should never forget that every adopter has the choice of a rescue pet, or simply going to Gumtree and having an animal the same day, no questions asked.

If you'd like to say roughly in the UK where you are, I'd be happy to help. smile.

I must say that you have had a particularly unfortunate (and very rare) experience to have had this happen with so many rescues.

Scuttlebutter Thu 25-Oct-12 21:27:45

Just to add, unlike many others in the Doghouse, I don't recommend MT. They charge for behavioural support after adoption, something which no other rehoming organisation does, and which is contrary to all best practice and research, which shows that good back up and support for adopters is a major factor in ensuring adoptions go well.

Fraggle78 Thu 25-Oct-12 21:27:53

I can thoroughly recommend Dogwatch. I was worried that we would be turned down by all rescues because we work, but DW took into account the fact that we have a dogwalker to help us . We are also outside the area they tend to rehome in ( they are West Mids based), but they were happy for someone from a local rescue to come and homecheck us. Best of all, quite a few of the dogs they have available have been either in foster care or kennels for quite a while, so they have a good idea of what kinds of home and owners they would suit. Our newest addition is one of the dogs from Spain and is a little star.

higgle Mon 29-Oct-12 13:46:57

We were accepted by Many Tears despite both working - we agreed to go back at lunchtime and in fact once we had factored school and uni holidays in, odd bits of working from home and the lieu and rota days we both get off it was not as many days to cover as we thought. We took an old dog who was looking for a quiet life in retirement ( except when he was sorting out squeak duck) and it worked very well.

AlphaBeta82 Mon 29-Oct-12 13:49:11

We're at the opposite end of the problem, we are desperately trying to rehome a very much loved dog and can't get any rescue centres to help. Don't want to do it all ourselves as want the reassurance with the home checks etc.

LadyTurmoil Mon 29-Oct-12 14:54:07

higgle I think it's lovely that you took on an older dog. I'm also looking at rescues who are 3/4 years old. I'd much prefer that to all the puppy high-jinks! Glad to hear that MT were flexible enough to understand that it's possible to have a dog and work too (as most people are). Surely it's better for the dog than being stuck in a rescue for years, or in a pound where they might be put to sleep after 7 days. Don't understand this puppy obsession - yes, of course they look adorable but it lasts for such a short time and has many drawbacks, much easier I think to take on a rescue dog who really needs a good home. If enough people did what you did it would hopefully to put off some numpties from breeding because they think they can make a fortune from litters of fancy-named crossbreeds!

LadyTurmoil Mon 29-Oct-12 14:56:12

alphabeta82 have you looked at the rescues I mentioned a bit above your thread? I'm sure they'd be willing to help you find a suitable dog and they do all the homechecks, vet checks etc and just because they're abroad doesn't mean they're loads more expensive than UK rescues. A lot have dogs already fostered in the UK which is great because they've been able to assess them in home environments, often with other dogs, cats and children. Good luck.

Cuebill Mon 29-Oct-12 16:36:28

I thought I would post from the rescue centres point of view to give a balanced debate smile

Percentage figure of people that actually do want to rescue rather than those that contact us thinking they would like to rescue is 4%. The percentage of that 4% that want a dog good with people and other animals and happy to live in a family home immediately is 96%.

Because all our rescue dogs have a contract that means they will come back to us if there is a problem with the rehoming we are very very very thorough with our rehoming checks. Which also means that only 3% of dogs are ever rehomed back to us.

It is a good idea to contact many rescues but it is also an idea to make a relationship with one rescue. Can you offer to walk dogs for them whilst you are waiting, Can you contact them frequently or fund raise for them. Anything that keeps you in the rescues radar will help your case and also show that you will not be one of those no shows when it does actually come to rehoming. Offering to foster is also a great help to the rescue and can help them and you find the perfect dog for you family.

We need to see our new owners are right for the match and we do our best to ensure this happens. It is busy working in rescue and so much of our time is spent trying to collect dogs that literally are on death row, and that have to transported around the country etc that we have less time for actually finding the homes.

Although I have rehomed 30 dogs this month - (putting any rehoming on hold until after November 5th and half term) but have homes lined up for 6 dogs after that. Today alone I have 17 emails and 65 calls on my answerphone - haven't listened to them yet but most of them will be asking for rescue places).

Scuttlebutter Mon 29-Oct-12 16:50:46

Alpha, why are you wanting to rehome your dog?

AlphaBeta82 Mon 29-Oct-12 17:14:56

mainly due to my son being allergic to his hair, therefore he is no longer allowed in the house, this isn't working out well for any of us!

theodorakis Mon 29-Oct-12 19:05:18

I am in Qatar and have a few fosters who are fine with (bullied by) cats and are nice people. we will always shoulder the cost of exporting them. We have a lovely female saluki pup who has lived in a house with dogs, cats and people and is shaping up to be a sweet dog. I have a monster sized but very passive 6 month old looking for a home. We always try to rehome in the UK or US to get them out of a country where everyone needs a cute pup but them dumps the teenager on our doorstep. My home has dogs cats birds and people and they learn where to fit in. In fairness, the reason I am prepared to pay a grand out of my own money to send a dog to the UK is because here, every bastard wants a cute pup. I have lost my trust in humans because again and again I have seen my teenage pups dumped and then seen the owners on a local website looking for a "cute baby". Teenage dogs are not pretty and are a pain in the arse as any dog person will tell you.

theodorakis Mon 29-Oct-12 19:07:13

Yes, I get a lot of allergic families trying to rehome as well. I have 4 adult Persian cats who were not allergens when they were little.

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