Too soon for a puppy(10 Posts)
6 weeks ago we had are wonderful dog of almost 11 years pts this has left me heartbroken. For the last 2 weeks me and dh have discussed getting another.
On Monday we made the decision to go ahead and we should pick the puppy up sometime next week.
I have got up this morning in a state I feel guilty like I am trying to just forget my little dog and that sometime in the future when this new puppy has eaten away at my heart I will be left saying goodbye to him and I will be left feeling just like I do now.
Do you think I am just being silly I should mention that I am 30 weeks pg and have wondered if the pregnancy is just making it all seem worse.
Cherry, I'm so sorry for you. What an awful thing to have happen especially given the timing. Your wondeful dog sounds as though he was adored and so your new puppy is a lucky little fellow to have found you. Nothing you said made me think you are trying to forget your little dog. You're continuing the love and care with your new pup who will help you remember and heal but not forget.
When humans die, they make a will
To leave their homes and all they have
To those they love.
I, too, would make a will if I could write.
To some poor wistful, lonely stray
I leave my happy home.
My dish, my cosy bed, my cushioned chair, my toy.
The well loved lap, the gentle stroking hand,
The loving voice.
The place I made in someone's heart.
The love that at last could help me to
A peaceful, painless end,
Held in loving arms.
If I should die, Oh do not say,
"No more a pet I'll have,
To grieve me by it's loss"
Seek out some lonely, unloved dog
And give my place to him.
This is the legacy I leave behind -
Tis all I have to give.
Always makes me cry, but so true. Good luck and happiness with your new dog.
we lost our dog in March, and I would have had one in June/july if it were not for holidays booked. We collected our new one the day we came back from our holidays and while its a little poignant to take her walking where we walked our old girl, i think it helps the grieving.
What Higgle said but I wouldn't get a puppy at 30 weeks pregnant, an older, calm rescue dog (retired Greyhound maybe?) but not something that is going to need constant daily input 24/7 alongside a human baby who will need the same.
I am so sorry about your dog and there is no right or wrong time to get another dog after loosing one, it's very personal and if you feel ready you are ready. Just not for a puppy. Not yet.
I am so sorry about the loss of your dog, I can't imagine how you must be feeling.
I don't think it's too soon, but I agree that getting a puppy at 30 weeks pregnant is not the best idea tbh, it's unavoidable that the baby will come first when it is born and that's not great with an adolescent puppy. Assuming the puppy is 8 week sold when you collect it, 4-6 months old is a crucial time in a puppy's life in terms of training and socialisation, as well as setting boundaries and they need a large amount of your time then.
I would also be concerned that you decided on Monday to get a puppy and have already arranged to collect one next week. I would be a bit concerned about any breeder that a) would let a puppy go so quickly, presumably having only met you once, b) would have a puppy of that age available, although it's not unheard of in a reputable breeder and c) would let a puppy go to a home where a baby would be born in 10 weeks. I don't know any reputable breeder that would allow a puppy to go to a home where someone was pregnant in all but the most exceptional circumstances.
If you are going to get a puppy it's paramount to get one from a reputable source.
Higgle that made me cry but thank you it's lovely.
DOoin and midori I understand completely with what you are saying about new puppy and a baby. The reason we could have the puppy so quick is that they have been ready for a few weeks I just happened to contact her at the right time. Although we have only seen the pup once (2 hour drive away) I have spoken to her a number of times over the phone. She did mention that she normally does not like to let her pups go to homes where the family are expecting a baby but because we have done this before dd was 3 weeks old when we had are little dog so based on this she was fine with it.
When my puppy died, I was adament that I would never get another dog. Within 2 weeks, I was searching the internet for hours looking for the perfect dog.
I tracked down a litter which lived a 3 hour drive away. I exchanged lots of emails with the breeder, told her all about us, our house, jobs etc.
We visited her once ad kept in constant touch by email and text messages.
We had to wait a little longer to collect our puppy as we had a holiday booked. We collected him the day after we got back from holiday. I can definitely say that getting our new pup helped us come to terms with our previous pup dying. It didn't replace him or make me forget him,it just helped me focus on something else other than his death.
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