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Shes been dead a month today

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fledtoscotland Thu 23-Jun-11 09:39:16

my beautiful girl was PTS 23rd may. It shouldn't have happened to her and I still struggle to come to accept that she had such an aggressive cancer that took her away from us so young

Please tell me it gets easier

I've got this overwhelming grief, I cry daily and feel I'm missing my soul-mate instead of a dog. My other dog and the new rescue puppy keep me occupied and DC are my life but when DS1 (3) wants to know why the hospital couldn't make her better I fall apart all over again.

Is this "normal"? Will I ever accept it?

Butterbur Thu 23-Jun-11 09:59:20

Fledtoscotland, I'm so sorry. She was a member of your family. Every day you must be surrounded by memories of her,and the grief of your children makes it even worse.

It does get easier. A month is not very long. Maybe after three you will find that a day has passed with no tears. After six, perhaps you will be able to remember her with pleasure rather than tears. For years something will occur that will set you off again. But the pain will gradually go, and the grief become softer. You'll never forget her, but in the end you'll be able to remember her with only passing sadness.

CoffeeIsMyFriend Thu 23-Jun-11 10:36:44

So sorry for your loss. I have also lost a dog to Cancer - 6 weeks we had from diagnosis, and although he was 10, it just didnt seem long enough.

It really does get easier over time - but for me, it has never totally gone away. It has been over a year for our family and now we still feel a bit sad at the loss, and I miss him every day, but know we did the right thing by him.

butterbur is right, after a while you are sad, but no tears then after another length of time you can remember fond memories without tears, but still feel sad.

coccyx Thu 23-Jun-11 17:38:53

Poor you. Yes it does get better, these dogs are a big part of our lives and hearts. Cry as much as you need.x

LittleB Thu 23-Jun-11 20:32:47

I'm going to be in your situation soon, my poor rhubarb has been diagnosed with an aggressive cancer, he's only 4 and has about 3mths to live, I keep crying and hes still here. My poor old collie x was pts a few years ago but she was 15 and the time was right for her even though it was hard. Its so much harder when they are young. Don't know how to tell dd either, shes 6.

fledtoscotland Fri 24-Jun-11 14:41:06

LittleB - thinking of you and your dog. Tallie has osteosarcoma of her spine and went downhill very quickly in the end but I consol myself that the last month of her life was painfree and happy.

Everything is still very raw and I still say her name by accident loads.

Thankyou for all your kind words. I have ventured onto the rainbow bridge website but it's too soon. For now we have our 10am old rescue pup Buzz (new pics on my profile if you want a nosy) to keep us going (a companion for our other dog who was pining for his partner)

bumpybecky Fri 24-Jun-11 19:02:15

it does get easier [weak smiley] our dog was pts at the end of january and at first I was crying several times a day, now it's only when I catch sight of the box with her ashes in it. In some ways we were lucky though as we knew it was coming for many months so I had done some of my grieving while she was still with us sad

the dog on your profile looks gorgeous! I am v envious smile

fledtoscotland Fri 24-Jun-11 23:01:29

That pic is of my gorgeous tallie Bumpybecky- just trying to upload pics of the puppy now

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