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misdee Sat 18-Jun-11 21:17:18

having just had an evening from hell with the dogs/children etc, i emailed the labradoodle hysterically to help me as wasnt coping.

just had a lovely conversation with a fosterer who is coming to collect him tomorrow, assess him etc, and then the trust will find him a lovely home.

am gutted, but am also happy knowing i;ve done the right thing to keep tom happy and loved and secure.

Going to take him for a lovely jaunt over the fields tomorrow come rain or shine, and enjoy one last mud-soaked doodle dash with him.

misdee Sat 18-Jun-11 21:19:17

btw i would've emailed smeone to collect the children as well hmm

fivegomadindorset Sat 18-Jun-11 21:21:40

It is awful when you have to make that decision, we did to, he didn't go to far, vets rehomed him and he still uses the same vet, they very quietly let us know that he is doing fine.

misdee Sat 18-Jun-11 21:23:41

i dont think i'll check the site when he goes up for rehoming will be too upsetting.

have asked the trust to let me know costs of his jabs as i know they are due soon, and want to cover those costs. its the least i can do.

Happymm Sat 18-Jun-11 21:43:09

Sorry to hear that misdee, am sure you've made the right decision for you and yours. Sorry it didn't work out, I know you tried...sad

follyfoot Sat 18-Jun-11 21:46:23

Just wanted to say you are doing the right thing. We took on a beautiful lab girl from a lab rescue 7 years ago. She is truly loved by us and we are forever grateful to the family who were brave enough to put her needs above their wishes.

All the best xx

chickchickchicken Sat 18-Jun-11 22:03:10

best wishes, misdee. despite difficult circumstances you are still doing the best for the dog. you have the comfort, albeit if small comfort at the moment, of knowing all homes will be vetted and he will have a safety net for life

misdee Sun 19-Jun-11 07:54:41

thank you.

just washing his blankets this morning, and getting his favourite toys together etc to go with him.

will miss him, a lot. but know we are doing the right thing.

2T2T Sun 19-Jun-11 11:55:47

what went wrong misdee? sad. What a tough decision to make. How old was he (sorry, I have missed out on your previous threads as I don't yet have a dog and only 'dabble' wiht Mumsnet!)

lisad123 Sun 19-Jun-11 12:15:39

Your doing the right thing for him and you.

ItsMyTurn Sun 19-Jun-11 13:16:06

poor you Misdee - I really do feel for you as I recently rehomed our beautiful little Yorkie x. I have been lying low on here and skimming threads as I got such a hard time, mentioning no names, that I have not been back. It is a really tough decision to make but I am sure it is right for you and yours. It sounds like you are really not coping well and I can totally sympathise with that feeling. I felt completely and utterly overwhelmed when we had our dog. Depressed almost and totally angst ridden. Not at all like I had expected to feel. After only 9 days I rehomed her and have felt guilty ever since, even though my lo's have forgiven me and barely mention her. Maybe you chose the wrong breed? Labradoodle's are reputedly very high maintenance! You will feel sad and guilty for a long while but know in your heart of hearts that you are doing this for all the right reasons. I know I did. My mental health was suffering and that was no good for anyone, least of all my children or our dog.

Madsometimes Sun 19-Jun-11 14:34:35

Ralph will be fine, and so will you. He has been well looked after, the rescue will have his full history. He just needs a home with active adults so he can do his doodle thing. Hope today goes well, and without too many tears.

misdee Sun 19-Jun-11 19:07:45

Tom has gone. Its so quiet without him.

We went over the fields and had a long run.

Hope he settles.

I failed. sad

lisad123 Sun 19-Jun-11 19:12:01

sad you didnt fail, you made a very difficult choice but it was for the best.

Im sure he will be fine, his a great dog

BeerTricksPotter Sun 19-Jun-11 19:12:52

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AllTheYoungDoods Sun 19-Jun-11 19:41:35

Big hugs misdee. I know of a family who took on a doodle through the Trust and their dog has the most wonderful wonderful life. Incidentally they had to rehome a previous dog (of a different breed) so don't be too hard on yourself.

Happymm Sun 19-Jun-11 20:08:58

You certainly didn't fail him, or yourself. Some things don't work out, and you were brave enough to acknowledge that and sort out something for Tom and your family that will improve all your lives,x

Ormirian Sun 19-Jun-11 20:24:08

So sorry misdee. WHat a shame but if you have done the right thing there should be no regrets.

I am getting a bit nervous now - so manythreads on here about rehoming. We went to see Harley again today, home visit tomorrow. How the hell do I know if this is going to work out?

Madsometimes Sun 19-Jun-11 21:02:34

So sorry I got Tom's name wrong sad.

Things will get better, and when your children are at school, you can think again of dogs. I could not cope with babies or young children and a dog, I was doing well to get out of my pyjamas.

misdee Sun 19-Jun-11 21:41:09

Just cried on the stairs and ralph came and rested his head on my lap.

kid Sun 19-Jun-11 21:47:25

You tried to make things work with both dogs Misdee but it wasn't working despite your very best efforts. None of you were happy, including Tom so I am sure you have done the right thing.
Its always tough taking on 2 puppies at the same time as just 1 puppy is hard work so I can only imagine how difficult it must be to entertain and train 2 puppies.

You will probably find Ralph helps make you smile over the coming days, but he will also remind you of Tom which I am sure will be bring you to tears. You haven't failed at all, you put Tom's needs before your own which is a very brave thing to do.

ItsMyTurn Sun 19-Jun-11 22:17:03

you hd two dogs? Sorry, just joined thread and getting confused. Hope you are OK OP?

lisad123 Sun 19-Jun-11 22:58:23

yes she had 2 brothers.

ItsMyTurn Mon 20-Jun-11 07:05:28

Don't breeders deter u from getting sibling dogs? I had heard this was a no- no? Hope all goes ok

AllTheYoungDoods Mon 20-Jun-11 10:51:06

Hey all, not sure how helpful it is to keep asking Misdee to repeat her situation - it's all there in the archives if anyone wants to read it. She's asked for and received a huge amount of advice from those involved in breeding, training and rescue, and she's responsibly rehoming one of her dogs with a Breed Rescue Trust. I know everyone means well, but I think a little bit of emotional support rather than trying to second-guess what might have gone wrong here could be more useful.

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