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please please help with rehoming in herts

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misdee Wed 01-Jun-11 07:35:26

i need to know who to contact about finding a home for one of my dogs.

i am waiting on a call from the labradoodle trust as well.

if anyone has a list of shelters etc to contact, please please let me know.

chickchickchicken Wed 01-Jun-11 09:14:07

iirc valhalla said on the previous thread that she would look after dog until she could find a good home. maybe pm her?

sparks Wed 01-Jun-11 10:36:41

You could try All Dogs Matter 020 8341 3196. We got our dog through them.

Elibean Wed 01-Jun-11 13:21:41

misdee, can you tell him a bit about him? Just in case it helps...

WhereTheWildThingsWere Wed 01-Jun-11 16:40:10

What has gone wrong? I thought he was with the breeder who was prepared to help you out?

Elibean Wed 01-Jun-11 18:01:28

I mean, tell US a bit about him confused

DooinMeCleanin Fri 03-Jun-11 16:07:58

How are things now Misdee? I hope your okay and have found a solution.

misdee Fri 03-Jun-11 19:19:15

thanks all. have had a message back from labradoodle trust who are happy to help with rehoming him. am going to give them a call shortly to discuss things.

basically, tom got a bit of a thing for the female dog at the breeders house (his mum), and was howling and barking for her non-stop. her neighbours complained, so i bought tom home weds night, and he was castrated yesterday. i am very on edge having him back here, though i did miss him. we have also noticed a lot of agreesion between the two dogs, and really dont think its fair on either of them anymore, to get 50% of what they need instead of 100%.

i love him so muhc, but know that we are doing the right thing by him in finding him a better suited home, and asking professionals to do it. I am going to double check when his vaccinations are due (june/july iirc) and will get them done before he goes if possible, so everything is upto date.

we have done everything possible to try and keep him with us, we have had dog trainer, behaviourist in, upped walked and trainings where we can, had him castrated, he is on the best (imo) diet, he is simulated etc etc. but he just isnt suited for our family. I have had him since he was a pup, and visited loads before we bought him home, we researched the breed, we met the parent dogs, we get on well with the breeder, the dogs have a groomer (very vain but in ralphs case a nesscity, tom just needs a mini-spruce up occasionally), we have done the best we can by him, but its just not good enough.

i am going to miss him. last night he was curled up on the sofa with me, and just rested his head on my lap and sighed contently. when he has me on my own he is perfect. but add in my family and it doesnt work.

DooinMeCleanin Sat 04-Jun-11 01:27:38

You're making the right choice Misdee. Don't beat yourself up about it.

VforViennetta Sat 04-Jun-11 01:33:18

I am in Herts and would love a dog, do you have a link to the rescue? I have googled before but I think my skills have failed me.

I'm probably not suitable anyway because we have small children. Sorry it hasn't worked out though.

misdee Sat 04-Jun-11 08:29:23

i really wouldnt want tom to go to a home with young children as he is still a bouncey pup but a fully grown one (think large labrador size). just google the labradoodle trust. they dont have many dogs but Tom will soon be on there. i have to print off a release form today and pop all his paperwork in the post.

minimu1 Sat 04-Jun-11 09:48:06

Misdee I am glad you are getting things sorted and really hope that it all works out for you.

Without meaning to sound horrible or upset Misdee but to try to prevent the heartbreak for another family can I again just say that it is really not a good idea to get two puppies from the same litter at the same time.

There are loads of reasons as to why it must not be done but maybe the heartbreak of rehoming is most poignant. I am contacted daily by people who need advice and can not manage two but thought the puppies needed company.

As an experienced dog trainer I would never ever ever have two dogs from the same litter.

misdee Sat 04-Jun-11 11:22:11

i would never ever do it again.
it was fine at first but now they are growing oler the issues have started.

i hope some others learn from my mistake/

chickchickchicken Sun 05-Jun-11 20:27:00

misdee - just wanted to say i think you have been very brave making this decision and i admire the way, despite all you are going through, that you are thinking about the dog's future and ensuring he is rehomed via a rescue

a friend of mine is considering getting two pups from the same litter in a few years time. they have thought about it carefully and are waiting till they take early retirement. i have advised against two pups from the same litter but her dh is convinced that they will keep each other company and training two is the same as training one. arrgghh, i am working on changing this misconception but am not sure they will ever be convinced its not a good idea.

i am amazed by how many people still think that pups from the same litter will all turn out to have the same temperament. also that pups from the same litter will automatically get one. as you say as they get older it changes so much and the picture of 7wk old pups curled up together can be very different!

brave of you too to post this on here and i hope it highlights the pitfalls of having two pups from the same litter or indeed at the same time.

good luck to you. have posted on the transport thread too

chickchickchicken Sun 05-Jun-11 20:28:42

get one??.....meant get on

minimu1 Sun 05-Jun-11 21:07:06

Misdee I too think you have been a star in the way you have handled this and if there is any blame it should be towards the breeder.

It is always as the dogs approach adolescence that problems occur with multi puppies in a household and the breeder should know this. After all they are the one with the dog knowledge.

I do hope the rehoming goes smoothly and you can relax knowing things are now sorted out for the best.

misdee Sun 05-Jun-11 21:09:30

training two is def not the same as training one.

and yes they do keep each xcompany, but at the same time they get too attached to each other and start howling if you take one without the other, they dont listen when together, they fight one minute, all love the next (a bit too much love at times!), they fight for your attention, they work together to get into mischeif (ie ralph opens doors, tom leaps the gates nowhere is safe!!), the play us other off against the other.

bit like kids really!

VforViennetta Sun 05-Jun-11 22:51:35

I do understand why you wouldn't want to home with young children, I want to be a responsible pet owner, however I have seen so many posts on here saying that rescues will home with children under 5, after mucho googling I haven't found one yet, it's all arse covering older children only.

I am sensible, would never leave child and dog, but honestly because I have small children the only choice I have is to buy from backyard breeders

Scuttlebutter Sun 05-Jun-11 23:39:41

V for Viennetta, to say you have no choice but to patronise backyard breeders is complete bollocks.

Without knowing your exact circumstances, there ARE rescues that will home to families with young children, but as you will realise, will only do so if they are certain the family understand the responsibility they are taking on. Take a look on Dogsblog - there is a dog on the front page of the website that is suitable for children, and I'm pretty sure you can do a search using children as a search term.

I also know personally of rescues who home to families with kids, depending on where you are and I'm sure Val will too. There are also a few other people who post regularly who are involved in rescue - why not start a thread asking for suggestions? Tell us a bit more about what you're looking for and you might be surprised. smile

DooinMeCleanin Mon 06-Jun-11 08:08:57

Or a responsible breeder VforViennetta? Or Many Tears? Or Doris Banham Trust? Or Dogs Trust?

All three local rescues around here will rehome to family with children. If you are in the North East I can give you details. I am sure there will be rescues local to you who are similar.

chickchickchicken Mon 06-Jun-11 11:16:50

there is NO excuse to buy from a backyard breeder. to do so you will be contributing to animal cruelty. it is better not to have a dog than do this

rescues want to rehome their dogs. would advise to continue looking. we rehomed from the Dogs Trust when we were fostering children from the age of 3 and having different children come into the house at short notice so it is possible

maybe post where you are and someone could recommend a local rescue? or look on websites of the rescues that Dooin mentioned as a lot of rescues have nationwide homecheckers?

Madsometimes Mon 06-Jun-11 12:47:49

I always thought that Battersea had a blanket ban on rehoming to children under 8, but I have since met families with Battersea dogs and young children. Their website is very offputting, but I think they will rehome to the right family. I also know someone with a Battersea dog that does not have children, but lives in a flat with no garden. Once again, from the website you would imagine that this was not possible, but my friend has her dog.

Smaller rescues are often a lot more open about discussing individual circumstances. I would say that you should speak to someone from the rescue before being put off by a website.

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