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I'm going to have to take my mums little to be pts tommorrow

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DooinMeCleanin Sun 05-Dec-10 23:37:34


She is 16, we think she has had a stroke. I have been with her all evening, but have had to come home. My sister is going to sit up with her or the night.

She seems comfortable and is still wagging her little tail even though she can't get up sad. We have hand fed her dinner and teaspooned some water into her.

We are hoping she goes in her sleep through the night so we don't have to stress her out taking her to the vets.

It's so awfull seeing her like that. She still tried to shuffle her way to the injured pigeons my Dad rescued to eat them bless her and managed a huge bowl of sunday dinner and kibble.

I'm going to defrost her some minced rabbit for a last treat.

We will lose the Akita soon. He is 14 and won't be able to live without her, my dogs are too bouncy to provide him company and comfort.

Still they have a good life.

BeerTricksPotter Sun 05-Dec-10 23:42:41

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mummylin2495 Sun 05-Dec-10 23:42:43

Oh thats very sad,i know its an awful feeling when you take them to the vet for this reason,but think of it as a kindness as she will be out of any pain she may be feeling ,and it would be cruel to keep her alive if she is so ill.It is a very quick and peaceful way for her to go.You have my sympathy.

Vallhala Sun 05-Dec-10 23:45:57

Dooin, what can I say? Nothing that's going to make it better, I know.

I feel for you all - hugs and kind thoughts across the miles to you and your family.

Val x

solo Sun 05-Dec-10 23:50:55

Really sad for all of you
I think my last dog died of a stroke in the night and I have to say that being pts is a 'nicer' end; Mollie looked awful, whereas my two others had been pts and it was much more peaceful. I'm not trying to upset you or anyone else, but having been through both ways, I know which was less stressful for all concerned.
All the best to you.

DooinMeCleanin Mon 06-Dec-10 00:20:21

My sister rang me sobbing earlier because they all had to go out she didn't want the lab to be her own, just incase.

She kept looking like she was going to give up and I wanted to be with her at the end, but she seems brighter now she has eaten and had some water.

She won't get better though. I know that. She cannot stand up. I'm still hoping she goes peacefully in the night, even though I am not with her.

She doesn't look like the same dog anymore. I only saw her last week and apart from looking a bit grey she was fine. She deteriorated rapidly during Saturday night and today, my mum said.

She collapsed in the kitchen and couldn't get back up so my dad and sister put her on a blanket and carried to to the front room.

We cannot leave her this way. We have to take her.

Thanks for your kind thoughts. It's nice to think people are thinking of her. She has been such a wonderful, loving dog (except towards pigeons lol)

solo Mon 06-Dec-10 10:55:07

Hope she is peaceful today DMC; either feeling better or at peace (I'm trying so hard not to cry here ).

DooinMeCleanin Mon 06-Dec-10 13:10:39

Fuck, fuck, fuck.

They were going to take her to PDSA as they had to cut up their emergency credit card when my dad took ill and went on disability.

PDSA say they are not on the right benefits to qualify for help. Our vets are charging £130 my just does not have. Anywhere. She told me she can just about manage £30.

I have checked our 'emergency' stash and we have £140 (how lucky was that???) Dh is going to kill me. But I cannot leave her like this.

Not this way. Not that dog. She deserves better.

solo Mon 06-Dec-10 13:51:24

My vet always let me pay with post dated cheques over a period of time; could that not be an arrangement DCM?

mummylin2495 Mon 06-Dec-10 14:09:01

surely the vet would accept payments from them rather than leave an animal to suffer.If i were you i would suggest this to your mum and that may help.We actually were allowed to cuddle our dog when he had to be pts.

DooinMeCleanin Mon 06-Dec-10 15:04:22

No they have been taken over by a big company and they are not allowed to accept post dated cheques or pay by installments.

Our vet would, he has known us for years, but the company won't allow it now sad

Dh will understand I think. They can't fit her in until in the morning now.

minimu1 Mon 06-Dec-10 18:15:01

That is just awful DooinMeCleanin - what do they mean that they can't fit her in. I would stamp my feet and demand they see her.

Sorry to be blunt but the euthanasia bit is much cheaper so if you do not want cremation but maybe a burial in the garden it would be loads cheaper. I am sorry money is an issue at a time like this. Do take care and I am so sorry you are having to go through this

ilsalund Mon 06-Dec-10 19:08:28

DooinMeCleanin - I'm so sorry to hear that a difficult time is being made even harder for you.

JaxTellersOldLady Mon 06-Dec-10 22:30:28

oh dooin I am so sad to read this, so very sad for you and your family.

I hope and pray she goes quietly in her sleep.

Can I just say that at our vet (and most others I know of) would never EVER dream of asking for payment at the time of PTS.

Surely your mums vet would let them have this last moment together and sort out the payment at a later date.

We got out bill a month afterwards.

Thinking of you all. x

DooinMeCleanin Mon 06-Dec-10 22:48:23

They are using a new one vet. One they take the parrot to. My Dad is very unhappy with what has happened wrt refusing to treat her unless payment is made in full considering they have took all their pets there since the vets opened around 30 years ago and his daughters have used the same vet for their pets.

It's much cheaper and they were told they could be billed at a later date and spend time in the room with dog both before and after. We are going to pay upfront though, so my mum doesn't have the worry of a bill coming.

The lab is still very settled and calm. Her tail is still wagging, bless her. I took dd1 to say goodbye tonight and dd1 gave her the minced rabbit and some treats. I took meaty bones and tripe for the Akita to tempt him if he loses his appetite.

I'm worrried because I am going to have to take her in on my own. My mum can't get time off work and my dad and sister cannot handle it. I know I have the option to leave her, but I just can't. She deserves to have someone with her after all the love she has given us. I have never had to do this before.

Jax I hope Loofa is still doing better? I have been folowing your threads, but didn't know what to post.

ShittySnowyDays Mon 06-Dec-10 22:59:44

Dooin, I am in tears for you sad

DooinMeCleanin Tue 07-Dec-10 14:45:21

She's gone. We took her this morning.

she had an good appetite to the end, bless her, she was nibbling liver treats I bought her all the way there. I have left the rest of the packet for their Akita.

My dad and sister came into the room with me, but couldn't watch.

I held her head and stroked her face. She was looking at me the whole time and didn't know what was happening. She fell asleep peacefully in my arms.

I cannot and will not lose the Akita before x-mas, so I comandeering care of him until he is ready to go. I have a better cash flow than my parents so I can afford better foods for him and I am fitter, so I can manage longer walks. He is going need extra attention. He will still live with them, I'll just care for him financially and walk him (I usually do most of his walking anyway)

I noticed he was looking a bit skinnier than usual, so I am going to get a higher protien food for now. My mum said he has lost his appetite since the lab became ill, so I'm going to take him some chicken and fish pieces tomorrow and get him some goats milk.

30andMerkin Tue 07-Dec-10 14:53:47

Oh Dooin, your poor thing. Well done for being so brave to hold her till the end, and I'm glad things went peacefully for her. They might not understand what's going on, but I'm sure they do understand when you're there for them.

minimu1 Tue 07-Dec-10 15:47:31

You poor thing but as 30andmerkin say well done for being brave. it is the greatest kindness and show of love we can do for our pets. She was so lucky to have you in her family and lucky Akita to have you to fit his corner.

Vallhala Tue 07-Dec-10 16:07:50

Just... oh, I don't know, just huge hugs for you Dooin, I'm so sorry.

Go easy on yourself, you've had an awful couple of days and have been very brave.

ItalianLady Tue 07-Dec-10 16:19:23

I am so sorry for your loss and wanted to say you are a lovely lovely person for doing all this as I am sure some people think he was just a dog.

I hope you have a lovely Christmas with your Akita.

BeerTricksPotter Tue 07-Dec-10 16:30:59

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ilsalund Tue 07-Dec-10 17:45:19

Dooin, I'm so sorry.
They really do break your hearts.

JaxTellersOldLady Wed 08-Dec-10 11:19:23

Dooin, well done for being brave. Thinking of you. huge hugs

DooinMeCleanin Wed 08-Dec-10 11:50:30

Thank you I'm feeling a bit better today. I felt a bit sick last night and guilty. I was one theone insisted they take her to the vets, I was the one who carried her there, I aws the one who paid for it to be done. I was the one who said that if they mentioned treatment (which they didn't) we should decline as it wouldn't be beneficial to her due to her age and how badly she went downhill.

Last night I was wondering if there was anything they could have done, which logically I know would have impossible, but I still couldn't help wondering if I should have asked.

I'm glad I was with her in the end, I was who brought her into the house, I should have been the one with her in the end. And I was.

The Akita keeps looking for her. I'm going to see him tonight. I'm his favourite guest. Seeing me means there are treats and walks about to happen. I'm going to take him boiled chicken and fish pieces. I hope he can get through this sad. My sister bought him some cokked chicken last night and said he ate it and he ate thetripe I bought him, but wouldn't entertain his dinner.

My two dogs are bringing me comfort. They are both still very young. I don't want them to get old.

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