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Save your marriage in 7 days?!!!!!!!!

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unicorn Tue 31-May-05 23:40:55

Anyone watch it?
Was it for real?
I missed lots of bits... so... did they save their marriage?

robin3 Wed 01-Jun-05 13:19:06

It was horribly real.....on the surface they agreed to stay together and try harder. She made them have fun again and talk more constructively about things, practice telling the kids they were divorcing to bring home the fact that it was the last thing in the world they wanted to do. That said the woman recoiled every time her partner touched her so it didn't look hopeful. Also thought that the counsellor glossed over the wifes issues about practical stuff with a just need to talk to each other....when in fact the bitterness the woman felt about the domestic stuff was still eating her up to the point that they hadn't slept together in 5 years.

It would have been like a kids therapy programme where instead of helping the parents get the kids to sleep through the night they were counselled on how to love their children more and give them more hugs.

Will watch next week and hope it's less of a hopeless case.

sad36 Wed 01-Jun-05 13:25:35

Wish I'd seen it it sounds all too like our situation. May have helped. Wonder if its repeated anywhere?

robin3 Wed 01-Jun-05 13:34:56

I reckon all the episodes will be similar in symptom but have different underlying causes. The woman this week was extremely critical and basically nipped at her husband all the time.

Perhaps he was a bit useless but she hadn't considered encouraging him to behave differently or telling him how she felt in an upset tearful way...she just yelled at him all the time.

The minute they had guests for dinner they reverted back to their old ways...she was scoffing at him messing up the pasta and said something about him never getting it right....all the guests looked desperate to escape BUT said (sadly) that they'd looked more at ease with each other that night than they ever had done before!

charliecat Wed 01-Jun-05 13:38:09

I felt sorry for him, she was so awful to him at times, but I also know hows shes ended up like that IYKWIM. She did recoil from him when he touched her which was to see. He seems completly oblivious to any misery he may have caused her..

lou33 Wed 01-Jun-05 13:40:59

when is it on?

robin3 Wed 01-Jun-05 13:48:30

Agree entirely with you Charliecat....after all those years she had just got passed the point of caring and he was beaten down.
That's why I think the counsellor failed them by not getting them to address any of the practical issues about the house and kids. Wonder if she has kids and knows how relentless things are for two working parents with three kids.
At the end of the programme I felt she'd agreed to keep on trying because she didn't want to tell the kids that she'd said no but you knew that she was going to carry on screaming at him about not doing enough domestic stuff.

charliecat Wed 01-Jun-05 13:51:48

Yeah, some house work training may have done him some good. Or being left alone with the kids for 3 or 4 days entirely on his own would have made him realise how relentless housework and kids are.

beetroot Wed 01-Jun-05 14:00:16

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