agree ra29,but she is 72 and single, i was 30 when i had dd and have days where i feel at least a hundred years old, how would a person in their mid 70's cope with a toddler? i wonder if the desire for a child simply blinkers them to the reality of bringing up a child.
The main difference between the Indian couples and the English lady desperate to get preg at 72 is that there are large extended families around (if not other wives ... !) - who is there for the English woman - she's on her own isn't she? Who looks after the baby/child if she was to die?
There's not much "if" about it: at 72 now, she's unlikely to conceive until 73-74, and the chances of her living beyond her child's 15th birthday, say, are slimmish, and 21st, even slimmer. Agree with helpet the very different atmosphere in the Indian scenarios. however, I still can't help feeling that a lot of it is about the shame/stigmatisation by men of childless women and that this shame reflex is driving the desire.
Watching it with grim fascination, I'm 37 ttc our first for quite a while. I know time is not on our side, I know we have left it too late, this has shocked me. I think there comes a time when you have to know that this thing you crave is perhaps now out of your reach.
If I ever get to 72 and still trying I want you all to come around and slap me. Or get your children/grandchildren to come around and slap me