finding mum and dad.....

[crikeybill]

On channel 4. Holy Christ I'm sobbing. I've tried turning it over but I have to know if someone adopts them....

[Iwillorderthefood]

Heartbreaking hope they are not split up, devastating for them.

[NickyNackyNooNoo]

I'm struggling as I have something in my eye.

So sad, they are lovely boys too

[ashtrayheart]

Heartbreaking. So sad for those little boys.

[ThisIsMyRealChristmasName]

I just can't believe no-one has wanted to adopt those lovely little boys. Heartbreaking. I only hope this programme will help (assuming they haven't now been 'chosen'). I just want to go and bring them home with me right now!

On a more positive note, the foster carers are fantastic. Theyare doing an amazing job

[ggirl]

aww such a shame
foster katie is fab mum

[ggirl]

so sad that boys aren't as wanted as girls

[Iwillorderthefood]

So sad they are still waiting. Poor children, what would that do to their self esteem? Activity days great for those who get adopted, for those that don't it is awful, a huge magnification of not being picked for the sports team at school. That's still with me, and that was once a week, a few times a term, and I got to go home to my parents.

[Iwillorderthefood]

Shame they cannot stay with the foster carers.

[FayeKorgasm]

I'm not given to tears, but those boys have made me a bit watery eyed.

Their foster mum and dad are doing an amazing job.

Hoping they all find a home soon

[Twinkleandbunty]

I think they were careful not to raise expectations and the boys were probably too young to realise what was going on (hopefully) but so sad.
I've not been as affected by a tv programme in ages

[southeastastra]

what a sad film. am really upset for them didn't realise that so many children needed homes

[thefemaleJoshLyman]

Have cried all the way through I just want to adopt Connor and Daniel, even though I know I can't. Foster carers were amazing.

[ThisIsMyRealChristmasName]

I'm trying really hard not to judge as i know it's a complicated situation and life changing decision (and i didn't see te very beginninng of the programme so may have missed something) but i can't help but be shocked at the couple who went to the 'party' and came away saying they weren't interested in any of the children because they 'weren't quite the right fit'.

Don't they realise they're talking about people? Human beings?? Not a new three-piece suite.

I know it's differentwhen it's 'real' but i just can;t imagine going to one of those parties and not wanting to take every single child home with me

[pigletmania]

I agree thisis, it's lie they were an object r commodity not two beautiful little boys. The foster carers are great. I really hope they all including poor Scott, find a famiy soon

[VoyageDeVerity]

This was so fucking sad. Beautiful , beautiful boys.

[VoyageDeVerity]

I also completely agree with thisis - really strange attitude that couple had, really sour faces.

[dueanamechange]

So so sad, what perfect little boys they all were. I read an article before I watched the programme and so knew they were not going to be adopted by the end. I really hope for their sake somebody watching this programme has room in their heart and home and comes forward. I have 2 little boys myself and find it sad that people don't see a set of brothers as desirable. I had to wipe the tears away.

[redmayneslips]

Such a sad programme, I cried for Scott, Daniel and Connor. I thought the foster families were AMAZING, especially Katy and those boys clearly loved her a lot, such a pity they couldn't stay with that family doe whatever reason.

I really didn't like that couple's attitude and I could totally see why Katy got so upset at the adoption day.

[WhenWhyWhere]

Such a sad show. . I am really suprised that it is so hard to place these kids.
The foster mum came across ever so well.

[ThisIsMyRealName]

Glad it's not just me. They (the couple) seemed so enthusiastic at first as well. I can't understand what went wrong. Were they expecting to see a row of perfect children singing edelweiss before each delivering a short presentation on why they should be the chosen one?

I suppose they must have had their reasons but it seemed very odd.

The foster parents did indeed come across very well. It must beso heartbreaking to try and explain to those children that they're not getting their forever family yet

[annielewis]

Agree with all of the above. Wasn't expecting to feel so emotional, watched because I wanted to know more about how adoption works here. Would take those two boys in a heartbeat. Should never be allowed to one of theo adoption parties, would want to bring them all home with me!!!

[annielewis]

*those

[Devora]

I don't agree that there was anything wrong with that couple's attitude. They looked awkward and overwhelmed - understandably - and I'd guess (from their comment that it was odd to be in the position of rejecting children) that their adoption journey had not been a quick and easy one. They were invited to that event to see if they could feel a chemistry with any of the children there, and they didn't. It's really important to respect that. No prospective adopter should be put under pressure to adopt a child where their instinct is telling them that this is not the one.

Maybe I'm being defensive, because I DID feel guilty when I said no to children before eventually being matched with my dd, but jeez it's an incredibly stressful and difficult process without being judged as callous by a bunch of strangers most of whom (I'm guessing) have not actually adopted themselves?

[lilyaldrin]

I agree with Devora - they weren't picking a three-piece suite, they were looking for people who would become their children for the rest of their lives. Surely finding the right fit is massively, massively important for everyone?

[Lilka]

I also didn't anything wrong or odd with their attitude. In fact, they seemed very nice to me

The importance of the match being right is probably something that they have been told about again and again, and sometimes you can just tell (well, I've never been to a party, I was matched the traditional way of looking through paper profiles and selecting profiles of children I wanted more information on) that this child isn't right for you. It's not necessarily age, or gender, it is most certainly NOT anything to do with what the children look like...it's partly chemistry and connection I guess, but combined with the paper information and background issues of the child, which of course we didn't know anything about as the viewing public but the couples got a little bit of it on paper. They could tell that none of the children at the party would be well matched with them.

I looked through many profiles. It was hard saying 'no' to children. Really hard. But if it wasn't right, it wasn't right

It is utterly heartbreaking but you CAN'T just take any child home with you, it has to be a good match

Generally, I really disliked the way the program made all these references to adopters only wanting babies, and only wanting girls, in a kind of accusing tone, like they were blaming the prospective adopters for not being comfortable adopting an older child. It was almost as if they were saying 'oh you're way too picky, and want a perfect child', they didn't acknowledge the complexity of it.

Standing here as a mother who adopted 2 older hard-to-place children, I would never dream of thinking badly of someone who only felt comfortable parenting a 0-2 year old, and I didn't like the tone of the comments at all