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OBEM this week - 27 march SPOILER and SENSITIVE.

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gregssausageroll Sun 24-Mar-13 18:20:58

Is going to be a difficult watch. The couple want the birth to be aired in order to raise awareness.

alcibiades Sun 24-Mar-13 20:15:02

Thanks, gregs. I had read that article a short while ago, and logged in to see if anyone had already posted about it. Your post didn't show up when I clicked on "Last Hour" so I did a bit more searching. I think people's use of MN over the weekend varies from during the week, so it's possible that some may miss this heads-up, but hopefully people will bump your topic between now and then.

I don't know whether it would be appropriate to mention this programme in other areas of the board, because it could be triggering for parents who have had experience of NICU. But I don't generally read those areas, and having (very fortunately) no experience of situations like this, I don't know what is appropriate. And the last thing I would want to do is say entirely the wrong thing.

As usual, I'll be recording this episode and watching it the next day. I will watch it, even though just the thought of it is making me well up, because that's what Hayley and Pete want people to do - to raise awareness of little Kaiden's condition.

alcibiades Mon 25-Mar-13 20:41:48

Bumping this - in case anyone would like or needs some advance notice.

Littlemissexpecting Mon 25-Mar-13 20:45:28

Thank you for the heads up.

JaquelineHyde Mon 25-Mar-13 20:47:37

Thank you for bringing this to my attention.

ProphetOfDoom Mon 25-Mar-13 20:52:43

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Chocolateporridge Mon 25-Mar-13 21:05:26

Thanks for the tip, I think I might give this one a miss and watch it when I'm feeling less emotional.

meditrina Mon 25-Mar-13 21:18:39

To continue a pregnancy when you know the baby has a condition likely to be incompatible with life is amazingly brave. Hats off to those parents. and I bet they treasure the footage.

Sadly, people are faced with heart rending choices if there is bad news from a scan, and othe parents may be faced with the terrible news on the day.

It's difficult to think about. And the possibility of adverse outcome is little discussed. But the perinatal death of a child is an outcome which does happen, sometimes out of the blue, and if their story makes others feel less alone then it has had a good effect.

Littlemissexpecting Tue 26-Mar-13 07:10:22

Bumping to increase awareness

needstodiet Wed 27-Mar-13 17:02:07

A friends little GD was born in Dec with this condition.

Successful outcome thankfully. Now a happy baby reaching all her milestones and none the worse for her bad start in life.

I was just about to start a thread on this, viewer be aware.

alcibiades Wed 27-Mar-13 20:04:15

needstodiet - that's lovely to know that your friend's GD made a full recovery. It must have been a frightening time for the family.

Everything - I came back on here to bump this thread, but you've already done that. I do hope there's a message put up at the beginning of programme that some of the content could be distressing to some viewers.

I hope so too, I'm 34 weeks pg at the moment and as much as my heart goes out to the couple, I just don't think at the moment it is going to be something I could watch sad

alcibiades Wed 27-Mar-13 20:58:16

That's very understandable, Everything. I feel it's not something that's appropriate for those who are nearing labour/birth, and could be triggering for those who have experienced NICU in the past.

I do admire Hayley and Pete for letting the cameras follow them on their most difficult journey, but IMHO it would have been better for Kaiden's story to have been a one-off "special". I do think it is a story that needs to be told, but not one that's appropriate for everyone to see without a prior warning.

Well it is on, these is no warning when you press the info button on sky, I hope they did one at the beginning. Well done to the brave couple for letting them show it.

susiedaisy Wed 27-Mar-13 21:06:49

Is this the couple that we are seeing now?

DontSweatTheSmallStuff Wed 27-Mar-13 21:08:15

There was a warning.

Yes i think it's the first couple

Holycowiloveyoureyes Wed 27-Mar-13 21:08:33

They did warn before it starts that it contains distressing scenes.

deemented Wed 27-Mar-13 21:11:23

It is heartbreaking to watch. It really is.

But it's even more heartbreaking having to live with it, day in day out.

Sadly, for lots of us, our lives don't come with an 'off' switch.

Toddle Wed 27-Mar-13 21:11:28

Yes the couple. I really think they should have put a warning on before the program started. It's a terribly sad story. I think on the intro the voice over person said emotional content but I don't quite think that gets over what may actually be about to see

deemented Wed 27-Mar-13 21:16:19

Oh fucking hell. They are having a baby. Thats all you see. You don't see, shock horror - a dead baby - No, you see the parent of a beautiful baby boy talking about the death of their son. Thats all. You won't catch it if you watch it, you know.

sailorsgal Wed 27-Mar-13 21:16:33

I think there was a warning before the programme started.

I did get prior info from facebook.

Whatevertheweather Wed 27-Mar-13 21:19:13

Oh dee I was coming on to say they same but you have said it so much better. No-ones child will die because they watch this - but who knows some may be saved. What a brave brave couple.

Toddle Wed 27-Mar-13 21:19:48

Im not saying that we will see a dead baby but its a really emotive subject. I thankfully haven't been in their situation and its quite upsetting for me. For someone who unfortunately has this could be horrid not knowing what it actually is this week. As a previous poster a 'special' may have been better

PartyFops Wed 27-Mar-13 21:20:37

Its horrific to watch them so happy before he is born, with us knowing the outcome. sad

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