16 yo twins. 19 yo older bro - moved out 5 mins away with gf.
twins tend to doss at bros and come home the worse for wear. dd is currently grounded becuase of this.
ds1 came to visit yesterday and took ds2 with.
before they left, the twins (b,g, if you are now confused) had a huge row. ds2 left with ds1
dd turned round and started to shout at me, i sat here and let her.
she stormed upstairs ( i had at this point said nada)
banged about a LOT
stormed downstairs went outthe front door went round the block.
knocked on back door i let her in without a work and maybe a harsh look.
again halfway up stairs she starts shouting at me.
so i SHOUT "ENOUGH. RIGHT NOW. THAT IS ENOUGH!"
she storms out ( remember i was just the sounding board for displaced anger at her brother)
she doesn't return until 11pm - we had no idea where she was and i was frantic.
simultaniously ds2 comes back rom big bro's stoned. i mean fucking wasted.
my eldest has pushed - but i love him and he pushes - and i forgive i always forgive i love him.
but tonight i am going round to his flat to tell him that whilst i understand it is a decision made by the twins to drink or smoke at his house, he provides the stuff and the venue.
If he continues to do this, i will sever all contact with him and not speak to him again.
please remember that i am a liberal parent - and to get to this point i have been seriously treated like dirt for months.
i resent being treated as though i am stupid in my own home.
i have had enough.
i told the twins the same, that if they decide to do these things at ds1s flat that the three of them have decided that my relationship with ds1 is not important.
on their heads be it.
dh and i going round to his flat tonight.
this morning completely ignored dd, didn't say good morning, didn't tell her she looked nice for college, didn't ....well anything.
she came downstairs gave me a big hug and said she was so sorry and she wants us to be 'friends again'
ds2 this morning- nada. he isn't in college today. he is just in his room after i told him to tidy it properly - i mean properly. he hasn't started ant it's 2pm and i have told him twice already.
i am about to blow my top in a serious way.
anyway if you have got through that well done.
no advice needed just cathartic to write it down
feel a bit vulnerable and weepy and just generally fed up. ta.
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Tortington · 21/09/2009 13:59
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RumourOfAHurricane ·
21/09/2009 14:24
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