My daughter achieved ABC instead of the ABB she needed to get into her 1st choice and Insurance Uni. Although her grades were very good it does look like she did not do enough revision and under estimated it. She was absolutely knocked off her feet (understandably) and went to pieces and refused to go into school to collect her grade notification. Eventually she went into clearing which was not a good place to be.
She was offered 2 University places which she declined due to location and not the course she exactly wanted. She is now reluctant to help herself move on from this, despite the fact that she has always wanted to go to Uni and was looking forward to it.
We have stated that we will be there to support her but she has to get a job or work experience related work while she re-sits. She is being very picky about where she wants to located and I believe this is due to a group of friends that she wants to remain close to locally. I have pointed out that some of those will be going to University and she can always see them in the term breaks. We have also said that she will have the time of her life at Uni and won't regret it. We have been tremendously supportive of her but she has not shown any interest in trying to help herself. When we ask her what she intends to do she gets rather angry and says that a degree doesn't define who you are as a person. She also pointed out that we did not go to University (which stuck in our throats somewhat! as she knows that we both wanted to). The latest statement was that she could also move out!! which really horrified us but we tried not to show it. She does seem to be very angry and that anger seems to be directed at us and not her circle of friends. I think that she has had a big shock but does not want to take any advice from us at all.
Should we be trying reverse physcology with her now? anyone else experienced similar problem. Any help/comments gratefully appreciated . Thanks Phoenix 09
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phoenix09 · 05/09/2009 17:17
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