My DD is off on her Duke of Edinburgh Gold Award expedition in Yorkshire on 24 August and has to make her own way there (we are in East Anglia). Her close friend is also on the expedition and her parents have decided to spend that week in Yorkshire on holiday and have offered to take my DD with them and drop her and her friend at the expedition and bring her home afterwards. This is great as I won't have to worry about DD changing trains twice to get there but I would appreciate your advice on how should I thank the friends parents. Should I offer a contribution towards petrol costs ( this is a relatively well off family) or give them some sort of gift? What would you do?
having been on the other end of this sort of deal - make the offer and offer to deliver your dd to their home so they aren't put out. We always refuse, even if we have have gone out of the way to collect the child, but the offer shows you are not being taken for granted. It's nice if the other family try to do something in exchange (take our child to the cinema, give us a bottle of wine, anything really) but most of the time we don't even get a thank you card.
One thing that really annoys me is that when we do take other people's children with us the parents invariably don't provide enough food for their child to eat or enough to drink. So pack your dd food and drink or give them money to pay for their meals on the trip.