I fell pg with DS when I was 16 years old and he knows the circumstances around it (I was a good christian girl who ended up getting pg). My parents thought they were open with me but actually I couldn't talk to them at all, esp my mum, because her reactions to stuff were hurrendous!!! So as a result, I have tried to make sure that DS and I have good communication etc and so far so good (I'm not under any illusions that this will always be the case lol!). He told me when he had his first kiss, he told me when he lost his virginity (last year) and we've been very open about condoms etc and encouraged him to try and make sure its only with a special girl, not to two-time etc and STD's/pg etc without preaching or lecturing. He's had a gf for nearly 4 months and she's a lovely girl with problems of her own but nonetheless she is a great influence on him and he keeps telling me 'she's the one mum!!' >.
Anyway, we've had her at the house quite a bit lately and got to know her. Her mum is always at her bf's house so I often get begged to give her a lift home as her house is the other side of town and the busses don't run after a certain time. I'm happy to provide lifts etc but last weekend I was in pain (af!) and didn't want to go out in the evening. Turned out she would have been in the house on her own so we invited her to stay over provided her mum was OK with it and that they stayed in separate beds. They did stay in separate beds (I stayed up to make sure and checked through the night lol!).
Anyway, we've invited her to come on holiday with us in August - its in a static caravan and we all enjoy each others company (I've heard this is strange for teenagers!?). I know they'll probably find opportunities to have sex and as long as they are discreet and use protection I don't see the point in trying to stop them. By the way, he is 15 and she is 16. Anyway, DH thinks they should be allowed to sleep in the same bed but I'm saying NO WAY, NEVER!!!! I just don't think it's right for them to sleep together or for us to encourage it, whether they're having sex or not, I think they're too young...
I'd really value your opinions - I'm not going to change my mind on this but do like to hear what other people think just to add a bit of perspective...
Thanks in advance
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I know DS (15) and his gf are having sex but I have every right to say I don't want them sleeping together, don't I?
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PurpleLostPrincess · 02/07/2009 17:00
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