my dd is 14, we're going to gran canaria in a few weeks for our family holiday. dd has said she wants to go topless on the beach because her best friend does it when she goes away. i'm not keen on her doing this and i told her she is too young to be going topless. anyone been in this situation? any advice would be appreciated.
Doesn't it depend if everyone else is doing it? On some beaches I've been on in Spain it looked a bit odd if you kept your top on, whatever your age. On others it's inappropriate. How about you suggest that you'll discuss it with her once you get there and see what the 'beach rules' are (note; 'discuss' not 'agree to her doing it)'. You may find that once there, if she sees that no one else does it, she goes off the idea?
If everyones doing it then being topless becomes de-sexualised and so I wouldn't have a problem with my 14yr old doing it too.
Has her "friend" maybe teased her about strapmarks from her bikini top?
I don't have a dd (thank God!) but I think if others were going topless on the beach I probably wouldn't forbid it. But I'd point out to her that lots of ugly fat blokes are going to be ogling her tits, which might put her off the idea
Won't she be embarressed to go topless in front of brothers/father/uncle ??
Not on really, she wants to 'grow up' too soon and her idea of growing up sounds a little slebie and immature doesn't it.
She will probably not want to do it when it comes to it. Especially if you decide to place yourself at a place on the beach where you know she won't.
Just come back from there actually with a 14 dd and it was her first time wearing a bikini and I thought that was quite racy for her, but she does have a 12 yr old brother, who was all goggle eyed at the few topless women around.