I found out that my 14 year old slept with her boyfriend. I was having a chat and wanted her to be open with me and she admitted that she had tried it once but neither of them liked it. I was devastated as hadn't really thought she would have but thought it was time for the chat. She has been caught fibbing in the past and I'm not sure where to go from here. She told her big sister (20) who was also gobsmacked as she's quite a prude. I asked her if she had been careful, she said she had used a condom. I told her I was really sad that she had done this (we're catholic but not so much so that I would't put common sense first) and told her that she must be grown up enough to come and tell me if she needed to go on the pill. I don't want her having sex but I want less for her to become pregnant. I consoled myself thinking that she must be so much in love she couldn't control herself but last night she nonchalantly told us she had finished with him. I know a 16 yr old is after her as well and I'm so worried that word has got out and other boys will only be after one thing.I talk and talk to her about her reputation, STDs, pregnancy but she tells me she doesn't intend to do it again cos she didn't like it !?but I suspect she's only telling me what I want to hear and now I'm fnding myself listening at doors! I heard her swearing and hit the roof, now she doesn't trust me and a resentment is building up.Anyone else been through this?
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