EPIC!!!really want to beat his face in with large item..... i am thinking,.......brick.....no! breeze block.......or similar

[Tortington]

ds was fired from butlins in august - the parties were too much temptation . I was a little dissapointed that he has to move back home - but hey ho. i told him he must get a job. He fucked aroungfor two weeks then got a job working 2 hours a day

He has had this job for about a month or so.

keep reading it gets better

His gf left her job in a shop to follow him to butlins where they set up together - you can get couples accom apparently. so they did. That left her at butlins -a nd i am then told that her mum wont let her go back home now she has moved out - so she keeps travelling back and forth - unble to leave

I offer for her to stay here on a few conditions - one was that this was a view to getting a bedsit with ds and moving out.

fast forward. ds and i are so alike -we can't even talk to each other without shouting. - i can communicate v. effectivley with the twins - but i just want to punch his head in.

yesterday, he didn't get up for work - he has to get up for his 2 hour job at 6am. other ds says " why is J still in bed ?" I get the wins off to school and then shout him - the phone goes - i am in the bathroon - trying to get ready for work myself - the answerimachine kicks in - its his boss.

I shout him again and chuck the phone on the upstairs landing whilst i go into bathroon - i am now fuming - the morning not the best time to talk to me even about nice things. I come out the phone is gone, but lazy arse little shit bag still in bed with his GF

His GF who got her old retail job back and is defering her (crappy)[ooh bitchy] university placement - becuase she wants to set uphouse with J ( prob get pregnant and have poor lives arguing)

The gf stays in the shop job for one week - j and her have a row - whilst the rest of the family were playing a lovely game of rounders and having BBQ on beach. she comes back - she punched a tree

punched a treee

punched a fucking tree. clampit

OMG CLAMPIT, the she proceeds to tell me the details of the row - about their sex life.

I AM HIS MOTHER!!!!

She broke a bone in her hand and i dropped her off at casualty - i dont do sympathy at the best of times and i certainly was not entertaining some silly fucking bitch who had punched a tree.

and i literally dropped her and drove off and came back for her later.

so she is on limited work - and can't claim sick.

i have asked dh to help me deal with this - he doesn't mind being the bad bastard - i have begged him - dh and i both know that when this thing blows - moby dick will have nothing on this fucker.

bear in mind - everyone has chores. his are to tidy the kitchen and bathroom daily.

and yesterday morning it did blow up - lazy shit still in bed with his gf

i called him and called him until he got up and then we had an almighty row.

i can't even talk to him. i know hes a man - and therefore sublteness is lost on him - i dont give a shit - i can't talk to him.

i am the reason he has no friends apparently.

me - becuase i grounded him when he was 15 for all of his younger teenager life

it had nothing to do with being in a serious realtionship at that early age and spending all your time across in the next town did it? huh? ooooh no.

the things i have done - the opportunities i have tried to create.

i gave him £200 driving lessons. the driving instructor someone i knew through work.

once the money was up - he carried on and fell behind with the payments- cancelled the lessons at the last minute and generally made himself and us to look like utter utter wankers.

i have previously told them i want them out for january - this is like saying - pull your finger out - your not plebbing on me forever with your gf.

and now i have a day off - and all i can think off is that HE can come back and they ae now asleep together. plebbing lazy pair of shits.

i want to bet him with a large brick.

i'd ask AIBU, but i dont give a shit if i am

what should i use? nrock or breeze block?

[Hassled]

I'm lost for words . How old is he?
Breeze block.

[frogs]

There's not a jury in the country would convict you, Custy.

[Tortington]

thank you. thank you.

[Tortington]

he is 18

[Tortington]

nearly 19

[iheartdusty]

here you go
club

[Threadwworm]

on god the horror the horror. This will be me and ds1 in just 5 years.

[Overmydeadbody]

I find you can get a much better grip on a breeze block

[Tortington]

cheers - i think the breeze block will also shatter therefore creating the dramatic effect i desire

[CherryChapstick]

Use a golf club Custy. It's much more satisfying if you can get a swing at it. Don't ya fink?

[Tortington]

now he is playing shit music

i might turn the electric off.

what say you?

my lap top can run for 30 mins without

[Tortington]

i feel like a BOOOOOOOM kind of hit rather than a crunch - but keep the suggestions comming

[CherryChapstick]

Seriously though.
Send him and psycho-lady-girlfriend to the coucil to sign up for a council house. Promise to write a letter to the effect that they are about to be made homeless.
For your own sanity, you need them out.

[CherryChapstick]

Your broadband will go off, won't it?

[Pimmpom]

January!!! I really don't think you will be able to stand it for that long!

[Tortington]

yes it will true!

darn.

yes i printed off and filled in a form for him yesterday - i might call them down.

i can't do anything but think of threats

"get out" not realistic - i love him

" you have until the end of next week to get a full tieme job or....."

"you have until your birthday"..... he cant forget that - but awful date to threaten with.

"get your fucking stuff and your trampy whore and get out of my house you pair of dossing lazy are fuckers".....no better not

[3littlefrogs]

Please tell me you are not giving him ANY money. This is the ONLY thing they understand. It is the ONLY thing that motivates them to go out and get a job.

The GF is not your responsibility. But I know how hard it is.

Ds1 was awful between the ages of 17 and about 19. He has now gone to university, having spent a lot of time working on building sites and in call centres, he has grown up so much. But I stopped paying him an allowance once he turned 18 - that was the turning point.

Don't know what else to say - I really do feel for you - they can certainly put you through it.

[3littlefrogs]

And yes, you love them so much it hurts, and that makes it so much harder.

[peanutbutterkid]

I may be talking out my backside, but this is my gut reaction...

Boot in the backside, out the door he goes, Monday of next week (yes, easy for me to say). You don't mean to, but you are molly-coddling him.

It's either that or he signs a contract of conditions, about what each of you expects from the other. He gets no redress from you if you don't keep up the bargain, but you get to kick him out if he's unpleasant to live with.

He gets his own phone, his boss phones him on that number, it's nothing to do with you. Ditto about his debts, education, future jobs, clothing, etc. Unless those things directly interfere with your life.

What is to do with you is whether he helps clean up around the house, contributes what he can to costs, doesn't do annoying things to any other house resident, etc.

He's no longer your responsibility, he's a housemate, you both need to treat each other like adults (although you are more like his landlady). Let him know he's only with you on sufferance.

[CherryChapstick]

Or.
"This isn't working is it? You are both adults. You want to live together, so find a place of your own."
D'ya know? However you put it, they will take offence.
Just do the Custy rant at them, say it how it is.

[compo]

rent
he and his gf have to pay rent or they re out
first instalment of rent to be paid end of next week
if no rent out they go

[psychomum5]

DH is a brickie.....he will tell you that breeze blocks are crap at getting satisfaction from.

maybe a lintle (no idea how to spell that sorry) that you would use above a window.....they have some power behind them.

[peanutbutterkid]

What's he going to do if you kick him out -- go squat? Camp on friends' floors? How bad would it be, really? He won't actually end up living under a bridge, instead he'll learn he's got to either be a pleasant housemate or sort himself out to live independently.

Whether you can or can't stand kicking him out, Do not fill out job aps for him, do not give him money. Stop trying to manage his life. Decide what you need from him to be a decent housemate, and go with those expectations, only. He should be helping out around the house A LOT if he hasn't any money to pay you rent.

[CherryChapstick]

Scaffolding bar would make a great sound!
Dong!

[Tortington]

oh now they are having another argument

what will she break this time for symapthy