What do you mums with teenagers suggest i do with my dd of 14. She is so unpleasant at the moment and has turned that way in the last two years. Last night when she came back from her dads after one night there, (we have been divorced since she was 3 yrs), i went quickly on the computer. She asked me could she have a turn to which i said yes in ten minutes. She hounded me and became very demanding. Her voice got louder as did mine. I stupidly got stressed with her and told her to go away. She refused. We raised our voices at each other and in the end she pulled me of the computer chair and i fell backwards onto the floor. I have told her there is no pocket money or lifts this half term, and today i have made her do three household chores. I know i need to put my foot down, things are getting out of hand. I felt so humiliated. She apologized and was crying. WHAT NEXT ??
ride with it its the phase she is going through but i would give her servere punishment for man handling you,or it may become habit forming!no t.v. no p.c. no lifts,make her know you wont put up with it
malteser - agree that it's important to show her that manhandling you isn't acceptable. It so hard though isn't it? They are trying to be grown-up and in control of themselves and yet somehow they just can't cope with it all and everything ends in a battle.
am glad my youngest of 4 is a ds. I think girls are worse during adolescence. My oldest boy is 16 now and no trouble. At least they dont pinch all your : makeup, tights, perfume etc (or you hope they dont) !
Maltesers, poor you! I know just what it is like! My dd aged 16 is exactly the same about the computer and gets almost frantic if she can't go on when she wants. I try my best to stand my ground but it is not easy. When I want her to come off, occasionally I have to almost physically pull her off so I do understand what you are saying. The only thing that works is occasionally if she has been particularly trying, I actually ban her from going on for a couple of days and she hates that so much she does tend to toe the line now! Good luck with it and thank goodness for sleepovers for a bit of peace!
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