My dd is 12 and very concerned about her size (i posted a message about that in November and got some lovely helpful messages back) - now she has announced that she is "on a diet" on the grounds that she wants to get thinner. She is about 5ft 7 and weighs a bit over 9 stone (according to her). She has stopped eating much breakfast and now has just a bowl of Special K and a glass of apple juice; has only salad for lunch at school; and is turning down all sorts of things she used to like at wekeneds and in the evenings. I am v keen not to make this an "issue" between us and so far have limited myself to (a) being supportive about her determination to give up grotty stuff like crisps, chocolate and ketchup and (b) asking casual-sounding questions such as "is there anything you'd like us to buy that you want to eat for breakfast/supper or whatever". I also explained to her that at this age her body will be changing and she is just doing it earlier than her friends; to which her response was "I don't want to get bigger hips, I don't want to get a woman's shape". When I was 16 I became anorexic and went down to 7 stone at 5ft 8, and later became 12 and a half stone, so I am familiar with the issues and that is why I want to be so careful about it not becoming a power struggle or matter of control between us. She was actually very interested to hear I had once been so overweight (I am a size 10-12 now and have no eating issues and have never been on a diet in her entire lifetime, so she hasn't got this from observing me - it's come from teen magazines, TV and her friends all being so tiny). My next idea is to have a chat with her about balanced eating etc and to try to get her to see that if she learns a bit about nutrition she can actually take more control of her health and shape, not less, which is what I did when I was 12 and a half stone. She has always needed her food - gets very grumpy if she hasn't been fed and then is instantly restored to good humour by having a meal - and she's always eaten a hearty (and healthy) breakfast, so I'm worreid that now she will be feelign awful at school. I should add that unfortunately the things she likes most are things like pizzas, crisps and sweets so she will find it hard to adopt a healthier diet, and I'm afraid that she will just reduce all food intake. On the plus side, she loves fruit and most vegetables. Any advice, hints, tips, benefits of experience etc would be most welcome! Thanks in advance.
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