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changemenameforthis Tue 29-Jul-08 21:48:14

my son has just found a girlfriend. only msn etc at the moment but i am so worried about him. hes my baby (16) and i not handling it very well. i have told him not to get to involved but dont know what else to say. would rather he waited till he much older.

abouteve Tue 29-Jul-08 21:50:10

It's not too young imo, just the right age for his fist girlfriend. Sorry but it is natural.

abouteve Tue 29-Jul-08 21:50:42

Sorry of course I meant first, not fist omg!

zippitippitoes Tue 29-Jul-08 21:50:47

what much older for a gf

smile

yes you heard it

AnyName Tue 29-Jul-08 21:51:09

Sorry he's 16. Not telling you off but telling you gently that he is actually old enough to have sex and even marry (with consent which any parent it right mind would not give!)so he really IS old enough to have a girlfriend.

Don't tell him not to get involved. Tell him you've re thought that reaction.. Tell him to take it easy, and enjoy. Be supportive.

giddykipper Tue 29-Jul-08 21:51:26

I completely understand why you're emotional about it but 16 really isn't that young.

changemenameforthis Tue 29-Jul-08 21:57:09

omg, sory, he 15, my typings awaful

lilolilmanchester Tue 29-Jul-08 21:59:05

He's not too young, as well you know, but understand how you feel. You don't stop wanting to protect them just because they are 16, and the thought of sharing them with another girl/woman is not easy to get your head around (she says, not having been through it yet but knowing it's just round the corner). Just remember what the heady days of young love are like - and don't make him choose! Rant away on here all you like tho. And come back and remind me what I said when I'm posting similar!

lilolilmanchester Tue 29-Jul-08 21:59:30

or 15 for that matter!

SlartyBartFast Tue 29-Jul-08 22:02:01

mention condoms [groin] grin

std's, unwanted pregnancies,
sorry, not helping am i grin

singyswife Tue 29-Jul-08 22:02:31

You must make sure that he can talk to you about any relationship he has. Tell him that you were shocked at first but as long as he is careful it is cool (I know it isnt but you cannot let him know that), then come on here armed with tissues and wine.

changemenameforthis Tue 29-Jul-08 22:02:33

thats it i suppose. i dont want to share him. i was much older beofre i had a bf. i really dont think anyone will ever be good enough. anyway, he has eduction to think of.

DisenchantedPlusBump Tue 29-Jul-08 22:04:10

I think you are lucky he has got to 16 without having a girlfriend.

Me and my DH got together at 15 Be NICE, you could be the MIL!

changemenameforthis Tue 29-Jul-08 22:04:56

omg. he wont have sex yet will he......the trollop angry

zippitippitoes Tue 29-Jul-08 22:05:06

well tbh he is quite old

DisenchantedPlusBump Tue 29-Jul-08 22:06:15

hmm

is this a wind up?

Who is a trollop? Your son?

PinkPurple Tue 29-Jul-08 22:06:28

LoL at Slarty
"mention condoms [groin]"

BabieWabbit Tue 29-Jul-08 22:07:16

Sorry, He's 16. There isn't much you can do. And as you said it's only an msn thing at the moment so maybe it won't go much further than that?
I know how he feels as i'm 16 too and the best thing you can do in my opinion is wait it out

AbbeyA Tue 29-Jul-08 22:07:32

He is about the right age, I would have thought.

hughjarssss Tue 29-Jul-08 22:10:07

To be honest and frank, 16 isn't that young at all to be having a girlfriend.
When I was at school boys by year 9 most people had boyfriends/girlfriends.

You can't stop him, homones will take over and if you try to it might end up causing trouble between you and him and that could have big consequences on his education.

If it were my son I would say I was proud he felt able to speak to me, that I understood he wanted to spend time talking and being with his girlfriend but that he must not forget the importance of his education.

changemenameforthis Tue 29-Jul-08 22:18:08

he is 15 and she is a trollop. this is not a windup

changemenameforthis Tue 29-Jul-08 22:18:10

he is 15 and she is a trollop. this is not a windup

changemenameforthis Tue 29-Jul-08 22:18:12

he is 15 and she is a trollop. this is not a windup

Kewcumber Tue 29-Jul-08 22:19:19

I had a boyfriend at 15 - went on to do A levels, degree and professional qualification. Sorry to break the news but...

<<whispers>> He isn't your baby anymore...

zippitippitoes Tue 29-Jul-08 22:20:27

well good luck to him

he can have fun or learn something

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