Dd (12) had a Baker Day today. She arranged a trip to the beach with some friends - all year7s. She rang them yesterday evening to check they were all coming. We were to meet at 10.30 this morning. One girl didn't turn up. Repeated calls to her mobile and home weren't answered. In the end, at 11.15 I decided not to wait any more and to go. We rang on and off all day - no answer. We go home, and immediately had to go out again - and didn't get back til 9.00. We decided it was too late for dd to ring the missing friend and she'll see her at school tomorrow. I haven't rung the parents - I suppose I'm thinking that if the girl was doing something else and using us as a cover story then she needs a chance to explain herself to dd without being "shopped"by me. But they are only 12 - and maybe she needs to be shopped. I feel I haven't handled this situation well - but I'm not sure what I should have done.
yes i do - and he other thing is by actually talking to the parent - it is inferred that i am aware that they are actingin loco parentis - they know i know they are responsible for my child and nowt has to be said.