They are currently visiting. But my sister is a critical hothead. This morning during breakfast her DD accidentally dropped some food on the floor (when helping tidying up after her mums meal)and was called a "Hell Child, some help you are!". DD runs out sobbing saying "mum you promised to stop abusing me" and locked herself in her room.
We had a discussion about it a few days ago, she was in tears at being called a fucking idiotic hell child, again for something trivial. Then it transpired that my sister does this on a very regular basis, she said she says things like this once every second months, her dd said she is like this every few days, everytime she makes a mistake. Then my sister agreed she should not swear like this, and should not call her dd names and be more tactful and considerate in her approach to her.
This morning I butted in. I said I was appaled to hear such language used and with a 13 year old sensitive girl. But she dropped the food, she said. She made a mistake, she did not drop it on purpose, nothing warrants such language. And NOT in front of my children either (they were breakfasting together) who are so young they may pick up on it. My sisters defence was that "it is so spontaneous she cant stop it, and nobody should really take seriously spontaneous outbursts".
Of course she went on to criticise my parenting, and I told her yes, I sometimes raise my voice with my boys, I have to, they are boisteroius but I dont call them abusive names, but if one day my children run away from me sobbing I will have some serious thinking to do.
Sure, it is not my dd, and really I should not meddle, but I dont think it is right to keep quiet as that would be like I was condoning her behaviour. What would you have done?
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QuintessentialShadows · 27/06/2008 10:18
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