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13yr DS extremely unhappy at school, now doesn't want to go back - help

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SecondhandRose · 02/05/2008 18:01

DS has been having trouble with a particular group of boys at school on and off since last November (mental not physical). I have been to the school and we have now come to the point that we have told the school we are leaving. We went to see another school that we really like. DS just has to pass the 13+ to get in so has lots of revising to do but he is fine with that.

I am so sad for my DS, he now feels everyone hates him even his special friend and that everyone is avoiding him. I don't think of my DS as being a vulnerable or 'weedy' child and can't understand why this is all happening to him.

He drew me a pyramid of who 'controls' year 8 with the bullies at the top and him right at the bottom with the boy with special needs. We went to see a counsellor and he enjoyed the hour he spent with her but then announced he didn't need to go again so we cancelled this weeks session as he was keen to do a maths challenge but in hindsight he should have gone.

He is so desperate to leave the school that he thinks he can just go now and I can home school him. It is like he is running away. I am scared for him that the new school won't be the bed or roses he is expecting.

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LynetteScavo · 02/05/2008 18:11

If he is so unhappy, can you home school him untill sept?

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Winetimeisfinetime · 02/05/2008 18:13

I'm sorry to hear that your ds has been having such a hard time. It's so sad to hear that children's lives are made miserable at school like this. I hope that the new school works out for him.

I have no direct experience to draw on to offer any advice about the move of schools, as my ds, who is also 13 nearly 14 is home educated as he was bullied at school and developed severe anxiety about going. He now goes to an online school which he really enjoys and seems to be doing well at - he is even due to take some gcse's a year early, so there are other alternatives out there if the new school doesn't work out.
I know what a worry it is when you know that school is making them unhappy - I really hope that the move goes really well for him.

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SecondhandRose · 02/05/2008 18:30

Well the online schooling sounds interesting, he is a very bright boy and I think that is also part of why they bully him. I just want to get him past the 13+ so he can get into the new school and if I get a firm offer after Whitsun maybe he could come out then.

Any one got experience of this teen bullying please?