I have a 14 year old daughter who I'm worried about. She's never been easy but things are getting a lot worse lately.
She's in Year 10 and on a netball scholarship to a private school. Academically she's always been above average (with limited effort) so she's quite bright. But this week she's refused to go to school the last couple of days. She has no interest in any school work (they have exams atm that were missed last year) or netball and gets cross at me whenever I try to talk to her.
Our relationship is at pretty much rock bottom but she does speak to my OH and last night was very tearful saying things like she can't concentrate, feels disconnected, trapped. These are worrying words and together with her current disinterest in school/sport this makes me really worried about her mental health.
I spoke to the school this morning and they suggested she meet the school counsellor, which she is refusing to do. She won't even speak to her house tutor who phoned me this morning. I told the teacher she was having anxiety about going back to school and my daughter blew up at me for saying the wrong thing/not understanding etc. Well, she's right, I don't understand, because when I try and talk to her she doesn't open up at all etc. She just came downstairs as I was typing this and told me she won't be going to school tomorrow either. She was ok this morning and decided she'd have a pamper day!! Her dad got cross at her when we discussing her seeing a counsellor and now she blames him for putting her in a bad mood for the day and subsequently her not doing the relaxing things she wanted to do...hence telling me she won't go to school tomorrow!
I'm really split between giving her a rocket up her arse and dragging her into school, and being sympathetic in case she does have mental health issues.
Is this normal behaviour or is she showing signs of ADHD or depression?. She seems to still be ok with her friendship groups although in the Summer she got very down for a period because her best 2 friends went to France without her (they are a group of 3 and her friend was only allowed to take one of them with her). She lay in bed for a couple of days crying. She seemed to bounce back and is still friends with the other 2 but she is definitely more miserable since this.
If anybody has any advice I'd be grateful as I really don't know what to do .
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beammeupscotty2020 · 15/09/2020 15:01
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