My 14 year old son has been with his first love for over a year now. I did try to advise him that it would be better not to have a proper girlfriend until he had finished his education, but he felt he was doing the right thing and they have had some really nice times together, they treat each other with love and respect and she is a lovely girl from a lovely family.
Of course, as teenagers do, they are meeting lots of new people and our son is a really good looking boy, so nearly every girl he meets wants a bit more than friendship.
I explained the importance of treating his girlfriend respectfully and how cheating on anyone is not a nice thing to do and he does say he wouldn’t do that to her, so he shrugs off all of these girls but is still friendly with them all, which his girlfriend doesn’t mind as much now (she didn’t used to like it, but I told my son to tell her she could trust him and he has never done anything improper with another girl up to this point).
There is a new girl in the crowd and she is very flirty with my son, she really likes him and they have been doing things with a few friends (with the girlfriend also included) but also gone out just the two of them. Nothing other than a lingering goodbye hug has happened between them so far, but the more he spends time with her the more he is getting to like her and she definitely likes him.
He is now having a bit of a meltdown as to his feelings for both these girls, he is seeing the initial reason I advised against getting a proper gf so young, which was the only good advice I had!
What on earth do I advise him here, he loves his gf but wishes he didn’t have the responsibility for her happiness (it is a lot aged 14 I think), he wants to maybe end things with her, but he really likes her friendship, he wants to be just friends with both these girls .. he doesn’t want to hurt anyone really, awwww, I really feel for him having all this to think about.
Any advice, help, comments you can give would be much appreciated please, thanks in advance 😊
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Watsitallabout · 16/08/2020 02:03
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