It's a long read; apologies in advance.
Parents, really could use some advice here.
Step son has just turned 14 and we have him every other weekend and longer over holidays.
He lives with his mum, step dad and 2 half sisters whilst he has a toddler half sister in our side.
In the last week his mum has stumbled upon secret social media accounts where the 1st alarming thing she saw were pictures of a half naked girl being sent to him, she realised that he had screenshot these and bells starting ringing.
She managed to get access to his insta account (which was being managed by his friend so never to point towards him) and the messages discovered on this account indicate drug use (weed and pills) sexual activity (where he has been incredibly derogatory towards an ex girlfiriend), disgusting language, threats of violence towards another boy (even using the word shanking) and racist and sexist comments; it's honestly shocked us to our core.
His mum has spoken to the girl in question, has spoken to her dad but both son and ex girlfriend have denied sexual relationship. Son has admitted he's been managing the account and most of wht hes posted is him but denied drug use and sex.
However today, he admitted sex with his ex and the comments he subsequently made about her. He also told mum he had unprotected sex resulting in girl having to secretly go to a clinic.
We're 4 parents that have always looked out for him, have different personalities but all have been on the same page with regards to parenting him.
None of us are perfect, things have been tough for us all but step son has never been exposed to problems and if anything, has been quite spoilt.
Literally where do we go from here?? His mum reached out to his school today who responded with a little help but due to lockdown, help is limited.
Other major concern is sexual health, drugs and gang culture in terms of what he may be involved in right now but also where to go for more help in order to teach him hes crossed boundaries and needs to know this is all so wrong??
So worried and confused, please help!!
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Myal · 27/04/2020 22:58
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