DS Not Getting Along with DP

(9 Posts)
cece636 Thu 30-Jan-20 21:56:28

My DS comes from a different partner, due to unfortunate circumstance. I got married to another, but he died of blood cancer 10 years ago. Now, I'm married again and my DS really despises them. They aren't in any way rude to him, or treat him in any way he doesn't like. We have talked, and he's just really upset about his new siblings. He's quite quiet, and he really has a special bond with his sister, and I think he doesn't want to carry on in any way. He was pretty upset when I got married again and he's just really sad about his new siblings. He hasn't been angry at me, he just feels sad about the prospect. He never really was prepared about what to do with life, and he confided that he felt he was being left behind. What do I do?

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Hwory Thu 30-Jan-20 22:00:41

How old is your son? Was there much of a gap between you partners? Do you have much one on one time with your son?

MollyButton Thu 30-Jan-20 22:16:56

Why did you get married of your DS is still at home and doesn't get on with your new partner. I'd have thought this was the kind of thing to sort out before marriage.

I would try to get your DS some therapy/someone to talk to. You could investigate family therapy, if everyone is willing to take part.

I do feel very sorry for your son.

Northernparent68 Fri 31-Jan-20 13:19:52

I’m sorry for your loss.

Counselling might work, but you can’t make your son like your husband or step siblings.

It can’t be a happy situation for anyone, maybe you and your husband should live separately but cintinue

Northernparent68 Fri 31-Jan-20 13:20:11

Continue to see each other

ReallyLilyReally Fri 31-Jan-20 14:20:56

To be perfectly honest, you should have sorted this out LONG before you got remarried, and if you couldn't sort it out you shouldnt have got married.

Now, i recommend getting your son some professional help, and eventually therapy for the whole family. In the interim, would it be possible for you and your DS to get some time together away from everyone else? A chance for you to sit down with him and apologise for the position you've put him in, and ask him how he thinks you could make it better?

ddraigygoch Fri 31-Jan-20 18:31:21

How old is your DS? That could completely change everything.


BrokenWing Fri 31-Jan-20 19:39:09

Going by your posting history you have two children ds(??)/dd(11) and have recently found out you are expecting triplets.

Is he upset about the new siblings as in the triplets you are expecting or are there also stepchildren?

I agree with pp's, this should have been resolved before considering living with/marrying/having more children. It is a complex situation and your ds understandably not happy. No one here can resolve this for you, I would agree you need professional help urgently for your ds before these 3 babies arrive.

ddraigygoch Fri 31-Jan-20 20:24:05

🤨 wut?

OP are you seriously pregnant with triplets?!

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