hello, this is my first ever post, but I am desperately seeking advice.
I am a 24 year old step mum to a 13 year old female. She lives with her mum, step dad and younger brother (5 yo). She spends a lot of time with myself and my partner (her dad, 41) at the weekends and we are always in contact via her smartphone... the dreaded phone
Recently she has said that she is having panic attacks that she thinks are caused by sexual abuse from her ex-step brother (she would've been 6, him 9/10, she says he used to make her touch him - no proof either way so we just encourage her to talk about things that bother her. She went through a spell of scratching herself until it drew blood but would then scream for her mum/dad when blood appeared.
All the while, she has had the dreaded smartphone. It was given to her with the intention of her being about to contact her friends (she lives in a small village) and mainly to be able to contact her dad/mum when at the other houses.
As always, the phone has been used for things such as instagram, snapchat and other apps that have proved harmful such as tellonym and even tinder. On some apps, people have told her to kill herself - she gives as good as she gets though.
We have recently taken it off of her and gone through everything on there and she has videoed her cuts, as if they're some kind of trophy, sent them to friends and taken videos of herself crying etc as well as talking inappropriately with boys/girls etc.
We are wanting some sort of control over the searches she is making, apps being downloaded, access to her apps etc. The main issue for us at the moment I think is snapchat.
As the only adult that is technically minded (work for a tech company), I have ended up responsible for monitoring the online activity. I am also the wannabe cool step mum that is massively concerned for her mental and physical wellbeing, safety and sanity that is stuck in the middle.
Is there any apps (preferably free) that we can download to monitor her snapchat and other apps/usage?
Any advice or guidance is appreciated.
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PleaseHelp975 · 17/01/2020 15:52
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