My son has always had difficulties - I think on the spectrum but could never get a diagnosis due to lack of facilities in area.
Troubled childhood with illness and ended up with ME around 8....we were seeing top consultant in area so believe me he had it but father and his family 'don't believe in any mental health issues or problems'....even including MS etc.
I had a real troubled time and had a nervous breakdown in end once he was better.
He ended up moving out of home and living with his dad initially and then with his grandparent.
Since older though he has visited more and we've had quite a nice 2 years together of him staying and friends staying over night.
Friendship group has changed since end of school but on whole has been Ok until the last 4 weeks when wheels have come off.
I have coped with it over xmas tho became very ill....just staying out and going wandering and being very horrid.
But this last weekend he went completely off it and was very verbally abusive towards me and very hurtful. I got angry yesterday and replied to all his accusations he threw at me.
He blames me for not getting into job he wants cos ME will exclude him. And his dads family side don't believe in it so it's just there but they never really looked after him. I was told I didn't deserve to be part of his life and wouldn't be invited to his passing out ceremony if he got in. I know he won't though....third time trying. That hurt.
I just feel so hurt cos it was so very personal,....bearing in mind he was very young when I left his dad. I am so upset and angry at the same time.
He has had everything from me - total support. And yet not even a sorry at all. I get drink was involved bit the truth certainly came out from him and he was vicious,
The other family have turned him so much against him having ME there is nothing I can but it absolutely destroyed me having to fight for him at the time. Why would I make it up?
Oh...I am just so tired. I have a teenage daughter doing her GCSEs this year and is so much more balanced.
I don't want to turn my back on him cos I love him but this can;t be forgotten cos it hurts so much.
He's never apologised at all....
I sent text replying to all his accusations from over the years but have told him he needs to just accept things for how they are. We are all dealt with crap things. But he will never forgive me for him having ME.
So sad.
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tich31 · 14/01/2020 23:25
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